A queston of morality: dating multiple women.

[Hellboy]

I have a little bit of a moral dilemma here, I was looking for some opinions from the masses. The story is this. I broke up with my LTR recently, and spent the last few months having a little soul searching, re-education, and pursuing other women. Now it seems like all my boats have come in together.

1) Petite blonde chick (23 HB7) from my work who I'be been pursuing for a long time has finally caved and we slept together last Sat. It's looking like a repeat performance is definetely on the cards.
2) Young chick (19 HB6) came over on Tues for some no strings sex. It wasn't that great but she wants a repeat performance.
3) Vampire goth chick (27 HB8) I have been pursuing since I laid eyes on her, I finally stayed over at her place on Thurs. I'm seeing her again tonight (we both going to the same club seperately anyways).

Now I've been getting some stick from my flat mate about 'being honest' with these girls. What he means is giving them detailed accounts of my sexual encounters in order to allow them to make an educated decision on whether to sleep with me again.

I think that's bull****. I'm not officially exclusive with any of these girls. So the question is not whether I should be sleeping with other girls, but whether I should supply details of this.

What's the concensus?

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

For me there is only a problem if you've agreed to be exclusive and yet you are still dating multiple women. Unless the relationship is exclusive, there is nothing to feel guilty about.

 

[duttylove]

stop feeling sorry for these hors, you owe nothing to them! you are dating multiple woman at the same time, thats what men should do!

you are not with these woman exclusivly ie in a LTR or STR so you do not need to tell them about each other. if they find out they may be pissed but thats there problem not yours, you have done nothing wrong.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Hellboy
...Now I've been getting some stick from my flat mate about 'being honest' with these girls. What he means is giving them detailed accounts of my sexual encounters in order to allow them to make an educated decision on whether to sleep with me again...

What your flat mate is talking about is 'stupidity' not 'morality'. Personally I feel that stupidity should be painful. Sounds like he has no clue about relationships. I'd charge him more rent just for being such a AFC.

 

[McKindley]

Sounds to me like your roommates are big walking man-ginas.

If you are not exclusively dating any of these girls there is not reason to limit yourself. As long as you are having safe sex, then the other girls have nothing to do with one another.

If you get serious with any of them that is another matter entirely. Until then just keep it up

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

I think as long as you never outright LIE there's no moral issue. Unless you specify that you ARE exclusive or that you AREN'T seeing other people... then you are free to do so and if she makes the assumption that you aren't and gets hurt, it's her own fault for assuming.

I'm a strong believer in the "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policy. My guys (before my bf) knew that I wasn't their girlfriend and maybe I even admitted that I was still "seeing" other people but I NEVER gave details about it and never outright said who/how many/what we were doing.

 

[So pimp its scary]

"I don't have a girlfriend, but I know a few girls that would be pretty friggin' pissed if they heard me say that."

 

[Hellboy]

Well things heated up a little over the weekend with the Greek goth chick, and this chick is definitely a lot more amazing than I gave her credit for. Gorgeous, exotic, smart, funny, sweet, affectionate and honest. I'm feeling like I don't need anyone else right now.

We had a discussion and decided to 'see what happens'. It's not heavy but still has LTR potential I think. She said if I sleep with someone else then to tell her so she knows she can do the same. I told her I had been seeing other people but that I wasn't sure I'd feel a need to any more.

Not sure if I handled it greatly but I'm so into this girl it hurts. Gotta get a grip on myself and stay cool. Gonna see her again tomorrow for some lovin!

Thanks for the feedback boys and girls.

 

[PRMoon]

I don't like being tied down too much by just one girl. I have important things to do and there really aren't enough hours in the day as it stands. If I had to divide up my days, weeks, months even more by dating 2+ girls I'd never be productive. That's twice the social calls (on top of the people who call me at all hours now), twice the dates (on top of the times I go out and party in the evenings now) and twice the headaches I have to endure listening to the eventual dilemas these girls will have. I just like haveing one casual girlfriend because I only want to be obliged to spend time with one person, not two or more.

Although I'm not opposed to casually seeing two girls out but not actually "dating" them. Like having two f*ck buddies would be fine cause i'm not tied down in anyway, that situation would be great. Also if I was stinkin rich and I didn't have to constantly monitor life.

 

[CraigMack]

First of all, what you do with your life is your business. As long as your taking sexual contact percautions ie condoms then it's all good.

Your not dating any of these exclusively so f*ck that.

Your roomate can go to hell with his jealous ass. Keep playing man. Show him my post and tell him to sit down and take notes!

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Molly:"are all of these girls your 'girlfriends'?"

Judd:"Some of them I consider 'girlfriends', some of them I just consider."

You ever notice it's the guy's who've never had more than one iron in the fire at a time or the guy's who can't get an iron in in the first place that are the first to cry 'immoral' when they know you're working on your own harem?

You might ask them if they think women don't do this all the time? You're the commodity that they're willing to pay for, just because your friends aren't doesn't make anything moral or immoral.

 

[xblitz44x]

I wouldn't get into details about your encounters with other girls (unless they get off on that sort of thing). But at the same time I wouldnt' hide the fact that you're dating other people. Be honest and upfront from day 1. You might lose a few girls this way but the ones you keep will be free of the bullshyt and disaster-recovery that you'll have to do when they find out you've been leading them on and throwing your c0ck in other girls the entire time.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Rollo Tomassi
Molly:"are all of these girls your 'girlfriends'?"

Judd:"Some of them I consider 'girlfriends', some of them I just consider."

You ever notice it's the guy's who've never had more than one iron in the fire at a time or the guy's who can't get an iron in in the first place that are the first to cry 'immoral' when they know you're working on your own harem?

You might ask them if they think women don't do this all the time? You're the commodity that they're willing to pay for, just because your friends aren't doesn't make anything moral or immoral.

Well put...

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

Originally posted by Rollo Tomassi
Molly:"are all of these girls your 'girlfriends'?"

Judd:"Some of them I consider 'girlfriends', some of them I just consider."

"Consider what?"

"Whether or not I wanna hang out with them".

"Oh".

:woo: