You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
DUDE, PuertoRicanLover is NOT saying that women dislike sex, or even that they are indifferent towards it. He is saying that for them, although yes sex is an important part, there are MORE important considerations (such as love).Originally posted by dbot
First of all, men love sex. Women do too
PRL specifically said that women dont want sex, they want a man. I said in my previous posts that I understood where he was coming from, but his talk of marriages and security doesn't really apply to the young majority of people on this board. This is a high school forum. Girls our age aren't looking for a man to settle down with. They aren't looking for security and they sure as f*ck aren't looking for marriage. These girls are spoiled brats who are either still living with their parents, or are living off their parents.Originally posted by Raptured Phoenix
DUDE, PuertoRicanLover is NOT saying that women dislike sex
That may be true, but it has nothing to do with a persons ability to control his sexual instincts. I seriously doubt men decide to f*ck other men so that they can be in parades. Maybe they are simply embracing the way they are, instead of covering it up like they have been for thousands of years. If you realized that you were attracted to males when you were young, and that there was NOTHING you could do about it, would you want to live your entire life as a lie, and marry and f*ck some chick that isn't even f*ckable to you, and actually pretend to love her until the day you die? Or would you want to embrace yourself and hope that one day society will accept you for who you are, and not for who you f*ck? Nobody tries to tell me who I should f*ck or how I should f*ck, so what right do I have to tell other people how to live their lives? I mind my f*ckin business, and so should everyone else in this world.Originally posted by Raptured Phoenix
Thirdly, someone mentioned about gay guys liking being picked on by society...if they disliked it they wouldn't have gay parades.
There is a psychological reasons for masochistic tendencies (putting yourself into a position where you would get hurt, not necessarilly hurting yourself), and one of them is feeling "righteous" or "superior" because of the violence inflicted on you. A martyrdom inflation. Apply that when you see a faggot(I call feminine gay men faggots) getting eggs thrown at his car while hes yelling something stupid in a high pitched voice instead of leaving.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I think you are highly misguided here. "A persons ability to control his sexual instincts." Insticts tell HIM to fvck HER. There is not a natural form of reproductive actions that don't lead to actual reproduction.Originally posted by dbot
That may be true, but it has nothing to do with a persons ability to control his sexual instincts. I seriously doubt men decide to f*ck other men so that they can be in parades. Maybe they are simply embracing the way they are, instead of covering it up like they have been for thousands of years. If you realized that you were attracted to males when you were young, and that there was NOTHING you could do about it, would you want to live your entire life as a lie, and marry and f*ck some chick that isn't even f*ckable to you, and actually pretend to love her until the day you die? Or would you want to embrace yourself and hope that one day society will accept you for who you are, and not for who you f*ck?
Originally posted by dbot
I saw an episode of Oprah a few months ago about this boy who burned off his penis during birth due to a "circumcision gone bad." The parents decided to raise him as a girl. He was given female sex parts and recieved hormones all through his childhood. His parents raised him the same way they raised his older sister, and although he was born a male, his body completely developed into that of a female. When he was 15, he told his parents he was a lesbian. Even though his parents gave him female sex organs, developed his body into that of a female, and raised him as a female for 15 years, they could NOT change his sexual preference. Homosexuality isn't a fetish, my friend. It's a trait.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Actually i wrote a post about protection and birth control, its in the DJ bible, you should read it some time. hehOriginally posted by Raptured Phoenix
Jester, quite honestly you do sound like some guy who will have AIDS and 3 kids for child support due to busted condoms by the time your 35. I'm not being mean, just being honest. You can tell a lot about people just by the certain words they choose to use. (Phucking/Sex D1ck/penis)
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Originally posted by dbot
Notice that i never said "functioning" sex organs. I meant exterior genetalia, as in a sex change operation. And watch the special before you tell me BS.
I could really care less about finding you proof of homosexual animals, but my old dalmation was gay. We took him to a breeder and he refused to mate with any female dog, but they said he was all over the males. It must have been psycological conditioning that made him gay.
Originally posted by Oxide
waaaa waaaa waaaa... jester is back at crying to us again...
dude, i've been trying to read your posts ..and most of them i agreed with (in the past).. but now you are just spewing crap...
98% of people arent worth my time?
hot girls arent worth my time cause im not the prize?
...So when im in LTR with a hot smart girl who drives over to my house at 2 am in the moring to fvck me when she has to work at 6am ..that means nothing? SO when your friends stand up for you in fights and save your ass from being a vegetable..that is nothing?
stop being bitter at the world... learn to enjoy it already.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.