"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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A snipped from the Laws

3. No dating advice from females. Take advice from US. Women will give you all sorts of disastrous nonsense: “Call her the morning after you get her number, bring her a gift on that first date, look into her eyes and tell her how you really feel.”

When a woman gives advice like this, immediately ask: “So, was your last boyfriend doing all that right before you starting humping his brains out?” The honest answer will be, “Um, well, no, but that was, uuhhh, DIFFERENT!” Well of course it was different! Her last boyfriend actually attracted her! Women’s advice is based on boosting the ego of women. Our advice is based on boosting the attraction of your date.

4. Don’t worry about being shot down. There really is nothing wrong or embarrassing about approaching a girl and being shot down. Happens all the time.
 

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Damn.. Am I the only AFC that bothered to read the DJ BIBLE?

They have the attitude because they are constantly approached. They are weeding out the chumps with no confidence. It's a shyt test that only the alpha males or DJs pass.
 

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hmm..

I dont know, its funny but I feel like society makes me feel its wrong to chase women, that if I talk to women and have intrest and show signs of intrest she and everybody thinks that I am a pervert a sicko.

Inside me I feel like "****in everything that walks and beating the sh*t out of people just for fun" to be a tough guy to drive a motorcycle and do what I want and be obnoxious and racist and curse all the time and just be a straight jack ass. Thats what I want, those are the feelings I have inside me, but I refuse to act on them.

Why? Everytime I see a woman I feel like talking to her, my inside are yelling
"Go moron, go talk to her" but my mind says "NO" and I get this feeling that says "Imagine you fail?" "Imagine how you'll feel?" think about what she will think about you as a loser, that will make me a loser. I let what one person thinks reign over my whole lifes worth.

Stupid
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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damn apprentice.. chill out.. and whats with the racist thing? lol chill dude..

i know its hella frustrating trying to be the guy girls want.. but u just gotta see urself, and see ur future and be ur future.. damn that sounded a lot like chevy chase talking to danny in caddyshack lol..

but on a serious note.. u just gotta be u, and work on ur shortcomings and always be aiming to improve
 

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I dont know, its funny but I feel like society makes me feel its wrong to chase women, that if I talk to women and have intrest and show signs of intrest she and everybody thinks that I am a pervert a sicko.
I see why you might think that, in the U.S.A.!

You just gotta remember, no matter what a few messed up byches say, it's normal for guys to approach girls.

Once, when I tried to sarge some girl, she actually came out and said, "why are you talking to me? I don't know you!" in the typical American horrified, bytch voice.

I said, "Am I the first?"

"The first what?"

"The first guy to ever walk up and talk to you? That's wierd. Maybe you should lose some weight . . . "

It didn't get me the girl, but it was funny! Just remember, when someone calls you a "wierd pervert", for sarging a girl, that person is a nutcase.
 

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hey apprentice,

actually, you may be exhibiting SHAME IN SEEKING AFFECTION. lots of people suffer from that. that it seems shameful to publically show that you are looking for someone to love and love you. but what could be more natural?

you're in a better place than some of us wallflowers though - you actually approach. KEEP DOING IT! but PAY ATTENTION to how it's shaking down. read the dj bible and see if you're making any rookie mistakes. keep doing it because it IS a numbers game! and IT IS NORMAL!!! IT IS WHAT PEOPLE DO!!! but as in all games, you can do it well or you can be doing it badly. study.

don't worry about the rejections or the attitude. just the fact that they have a term for it: BYTCH SHIELD should make you feel better... we all encounter it.

and think about it from their perspective - they do this because they're hot and attractive and they get approached ALL THE TIME! it must get so wearisome for them. and their anger probably comes from the fact that they can't walk two feet without someone coming up to them expressing their interest in fvcking their brains out. NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT - but to them, it can be tiresome.

also, here's something that i've learned - IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT YOU WANT, IT ONLY MATTERS WHAT YOU CAN GET THEM TO WANT. so fvck your frustration - you must become what THEY WANT. this is not all about looks and threads (again, read) but it makes sense to work on everything you can.

it's easy to say but don't give girls that power... the power to determine your value. that's yours and yours alone. she doesn't get that. got it?

seriously though, what's with the racist thing? you are aware that not everyone here is white right? if you're taking to it because of rejection and pain (like the columbine kids - to be rebellious, obnoxious and invite more scorn), it's understandable but not acceptable.

ditch that sh!t and move on and let's deal with your real problems.

delta

this is my big problem too....
 

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yeah

Yeah its quite frustrating to have to keep thinking on how I can improve myself so that I can be the guy women want, but at the same time people tell me to be happy with yourself, to value myself.

I think that valuing yourself and improving yourself can go side by side, love yourself today, love yourself when you have a killer body. Its your mindset that needs to be the same as your body and mind and social skills change around you.

To be honest I am not white, I meant being racist to people who treated me badly for not being black or white.

also, here's something that i've learned - IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT YOU WANT, IT ONLY MATTERS WHAT YOU CAN GET THEM TO WANT. so fvck your frustration - you must become what THEY WANT. this is not all about looks and threads (again, read) but it makes sense to work on everything you can.
Isnt that supplicating?

All the frustration I have inside from all the power that it feel that women have in the mating game, but I know I need to think otherwise but its hard to change so much social progamming.

Your right, all this anger I have inside and I dont have an outlet for it.

I know Im glad there is a name for it, but there has to be a way for me to cut through it.
 

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theapprentice said:
All the frustration I have inside from all the power that it feel that women have in the mating game, but I know I need to think otherwise but its hard to change so much social progamming.
It's not hard. It's either you want to change or you don't want to change. Are these thoughts of yours bad enough for you to take the necessary steps to erase them? Never blame it on social programming or society or media or whatever. These things are always there, trying to influence us all. If you happen to be influenced, then it's your fault. Especially when you can even admit that you're being influenced by them. Blame yourself, so that you can make that change. If you're blaming yourself and you still can't make the change, then you really have no self-worth.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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hey, apprentice what is with the racist thing. I feel you man i was just thinking about how when i was with this girl i felt wrong to do anything with her and i was thinking about how i'm different now ain't nothin wrong with stating your feelings being obnoxious (i'm that way most of the time) but don't let people stop you from doing what you want to do

As for your question about why women act *****y i think 1. they really may not be attracted to you or think their better if so their dumb b!tches 2. they are fvcked and want to have the satisfaction of fvcking someone else up people get pleasure from this and 3 they could be racist
 

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Lissie and KKat gave you very good advice!

But the best and most honest advice came from Lavender girl:

I get hit on by a lot of men and I find that the best deterrent is to be *****y to them. If I see "that look" on a man's face when they approach me I will be *****y up front. That's usually an easier way to reject them. And no, I don't feel bad about it, because a lot of men persist in hitting on me and won't get the point that it is UNWANTED and no, I'm NOT playing hard to get. Being *****y gets my point across nicely, however being nice and letting them down gently usually leads to repeated passes.
She is being honest and many women have told me they do the same thing, because if they don't, these guys will follow them round like desperate losers and not leave them alone.

It's mostly hot women who have these b*tchy attitudes, right? That's because hot girls are getting hit on all the time.

My advice is if any woman is giving negative vibes, don't bother!
 

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Phyzzle said:
I see why you might think that, in the U.S.A.!

You just gotta remember, no matter what a few messed up byches say, it's normal for guys to approach girls.

Once, when I tried to sarge some girl, she actually came out and said, "why are you talking to me? I don't know you!" in the typical American horrified, bytch voice.

I said, "Am I the first?"

"The first what?"

"The first guy to ever walk up and talk to you? That's wierd. Maybe you should lose some weight . . . "

It didn't get me the girl, but it was funny! Just remember, when someone calls you a "wierd pervert", for sarging a girl, that person is a nutcase.

Fantastic, this post made my day!!!!!!!!!!
 

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hmm..

Well, yes I do want to change, and become a better man.

I think that there are mainly two reasons women have B*itch shields.

1) They think they are better than you and that they dont want to appear to be cheap and easy or they dont find you attractive and think talking to you is a waste of time that there value is higher than yours.

-This would make me feel terrible if a woman thought she was better than me just because she looked better or had more friends. I need to learn that she can think what she wants but it shouldnt affect how I feel about myself.

2) They are trying to avoid being approached by tons of guys and the AFC's get afraid so there just filtering out all the guys who dont approach her and make her laugh or intrest her.

It seems as if women have the power to decide in the end on who they date and dont.

Men just keep throwing their net and taking w/e they can catch.

that makes me mad.
 

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There was actually a lot of good advice in there, sorry my friend. These women pretty much actually told the truth.

A) Women may act *****y to test you. I find this is more often the case than to truly get rid of a guy. A guy who can elegantely handle **** tests will usually get great respect from women. It's a learning process, and the game can sting a little to play.

B) You can simply avoid women who act *****y. There's nothing wrong with saying you can't handle *****y women right now and focusing on those that live up to your standards. It's called qualifying, and it's massively attractive that you have standards. But make sure it is a standard and not something from C below.

C) Spiteful men, especially divorced men or young men. There is a lot of guys who feel powerless and victimized by women. They are usually desperately clingly and get rage at women for trivial things like having to reschedule. WOmen obviously have to be careful of these men and believe me there is tons, a woman's worst nightmere. If you even exhibit a possible sign of being one of these guys, then all but desperate women will avoid you like the plague. This is the least attractive kind of guy.

They straight up told you this stuff, homie. It's actually true. You have to take power and internally validate yourself, young buck. It's time to transform yourself into a cool dude. Find a female friend who you can confide in and start figuring out how to be cool. Women can be difficult to work with so don't even tell her why you're doing this, just tell her you want an opinion on which soap stars hairstyle looks best on you and show her a soap mag (soap magazines are like chick crack anyway). That's a start,
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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everywomanshero - You beat me to it.

I was left wondering what they said wasn't true! This guys problem is he doesn't see girls as people but just there to **** - and you wonder why they reject him harshly. So he doesn't value any girls that aren't gorgeous. Or as he put it: good girls. Yet he says that he doesn't look down on anyone. Funny that!

Also - Being TOLD you are good-looking is not actually BEING good-looking.
 

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I rarely meet a new girl and have her give me any *****y attitude.

The only ones who do that are the stupid, wannabe hootchie-mama's with their overdone tans, slutty skirts and platform sandals. Think the evil girl from any teen-comedy... or Tara Reid in general.

Most attractive women.. and I mean WOMEN... will talk to you straight up. Now if you're some "chachi" guy all slicked up, they'll be more defensive because it looks like you're trying hard to impress. Their shields will be up.
 

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you said, "physically attractive have some sort of attitude"

Very true

But only true for north american chicks brainwashed by fat feminists. The sad thing is that 95% of women in the US and Canada are just
*****es that won't clean the house or make you dinner. Don't even waste your time.

What you need is a traditional woman that isn't f-ucked in the head by pop feminism. Travel around the world before you worry about usless north american hoes.

You have to encounter and date women from other places in the world before you go insane.

I know very hot girls from outside of north america that are wonderfull and respectfull.
 

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Hmmm, I find plenty of sweet girls right here in the US. OTOH, if a larger scale immigration of south&central american women and asian women were to open up, that would be pretty interesting :)

Unfortunately, our goverment seems primarely interested in bringing over sausage to lower our wages... too bad our governtment sold us out. I'd
like to see a huge influx of nurses, teachers, and other feminine dominated
occupations :)
 

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everywomanshero said:
Hmmm, I find plenty of sweet girls right here in the US. OTOH, if a larger scale immigration of south&central american women and asian women were to open up, that would be pretty interesting :)

Unfortunately, our goverment seems primarely interested in bringing over sausage to lower our wages... too bad our governtment sold us out. I'd
like to see a huge influx of nurses, teachers, and other feminine dominated
occupations :)
How about massage therapists? ;)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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