A question for the guys that juggle multiple women

[Kev07]

How do you do this?

whenever i start dating a girl and theres another girl that i wouldn't mind dating, i sort of lose the drive/energy/ whatever to call up that second girl to hang out whatever.

It's like when i'm ahead with one girl, i lose interest in the other one.

Now don't get my question wrong, i'm not anywhere near oneitis, been there, never touching that road again. I'm just wondering what you tell yourself to get yourself out there and date more than just one girl?

PS: maybe the fact that girl #2 is shy and quiet, and gives off the vibe that she would be boring, though i don't know for sure,but nonetheless, hot has something to do with the problem

 

[nonchalant]

I am sort of doing this, lately. It's actually pretty easy during the first two months of dating I only see them once a week each anyways, and I only have like 2-3 days a week I am actually able to go out since I'm busy. There is always one that is way hotter than the rest, and there is always one that is way cooler to talk to - and they're usually not the same person. I have been talking to and hanging out on the phone with the one I am the most relaxed with and like to talk to the most - she unfortunately is not the best looking one. But she helps me get my mind off the good looking one. It's not hard, unless you're dating like 10 women at a time. I haven't done this, it seems a bit much to me. 2-3 is about it. 2 or so that you've dated, one or two more that you're talking to.

 

[PigAdlemPimp]

Why in the fvck would you want to date more than one hot babe at the same time, one at any given time is enough for me, sometimes it is too much, I often need six weeks or so alone doing things that I enjoy doing by myself, I don't want a hot babe or anyone else coming anywhere near me when I just want to wind down and be alone.
What I do is meet as many hot babes as I can whilst I am fvcking the one that I'm with so that when my six week spell of isolation is over I have another one to replace her with, the only reason I dump a girl is so that I can be alone, too much time amongst others makes me feel like I've got a rope arround my neck.

 

[Fuglydude]

Prior to entering into my LTR, I would always see multiple women at the same time. Usually I found 3-4 works the best w/ my schedule.

i was brutally honest about my intentions... basically told them..."I'm not ready to settle down, but just wanna casually date people now...". I never made a push for sex...but it always happened... I find if you're honest about your intentions girls are much more receptive. Yes I've hung out with girls w/o any intimate stuff, but w/ most girls seemed to be interested in getting physical...

I don't really see anything wrong with dating multiple women simultaneously. Sometimes, though, you'll have one girl that really stands out from the pack...if she's LTR material then you can snatch her up and gradually start cutting the other girls off...

 

[Kev07]

Why in the fvck would you want to date more than one hot babe at the same time, one at any given time is enough for me, sometimes it is too much, I often need six weeks or so alone doing things that I enjoy doing by myself, I don't want a hot babe or anyone else coming anywhere near me when I just want to wind down and be alone.
What I do is meet as many hot babes as I can whilst I am fvcking the one that I'm with so that when my six week spell of isolation is over I have another one to replace her with, the only reason I dump a girl is so that I can be alone, too much time amongst others makes me feel like I've got a rope arround my neck.

because
1. make sure i don't fall into oneitis(i'm pretty secure that i wont, but you can never be too sure)
2.back up plans, so you don't depend on just one girl to date
3. and in my particular situation, senior prom is coming up, i want to be able to have multiple options in case i get rejected by my first choice(which actually has some ex boyfriend complications right now, and no i do not emotampon for her)

 

[Badmannaz]

right now i'm seeing about 3 to 4 girls too but one just got cut off (fu*ck dat b*tch) but every since i can remember i've talked to one or more girls at one time....like i'll go a month or two with no women and i will decide well maybe it's time for a female im kinda lonely it will always end up with me gettin more than one to me it's like when i get one i get really confident and im like well lemme get another!! and another!! lolz naw jk but it kinda just happens

the girls are usually never live in the same area too

one might live in the southern part of the city the other right over by my crib...

the perks of having more than one girl is...well more girls

the downs is u paying more...traveling more and less free time to yourself..im currently trying to break up with a few because i want more free time and have commitment issues....i don't recommend trying to be a player some guys are some guys arent

some guys say "why go looking for another girl when u got one hot chick already"

and guys like me say "why just have one hot babe when u can have another one??"

both are right and wrong in there own way just find out which one is you.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

How do you do this?

whenever i start dating a girl ...

There's your problem, you're dating them.

 

[Kings_royalty]

i sort of lose the drive/energy/ whatever to call up that second girl to hang out whatever.

If you don't have the energy or drive, then don't date the 2nd girl. It's not like you have to F*ck more than one girl at any given time.

 

[Kings_royalty]

1. make sure i don't fall into oneitis(i'm pretty secure that i wont, but you can never be too sure)
2.back up plans, so you don't depend on just one girl to date
3. and in my particular situation, senior prom is coming up, i want to be able to have multiple options in case i get rejected by my first choice(which actually has some ex boyfriend complications right now, and no i do not emotampon for her)

1. If you get oneitis, it's your fault, it's got nothing to do with dating multiple women.
2. If you are keeping her IL up, this won't be a problem.
3. Same as number 2.

 

[Kev07]

1. make sure i don't fall into oneitis(i'm pretty secure that i wont, but you can never be too sure)
2.back up plans, so you don't depend on just one girl to date
3. and in my particular situation, senior prom is coming up, i want to be able to have multiple options in case i get rejected by my first choice(which actually has some ex boyfriend complications right now, and no i do not emotampon for her)

1. If you get oneitis, it's your fault, it's got nothing to do with dating multiple women.
2. If you are keeping her IL up, this won't be a problem.
3. Same as number 2.

1. i know it's my fault if i fell into oneitis, i never said it wouldnt be. seeing multiple girls at once will make sure that i don't
2. that's a nice if

also it's easier to keep ILs up when you have more than one girl because then you have a nice confidence boost.

don't get me wrong i'm not actually dating the girl i guess i should have thrown out "gaming" the girls

 

[Tha Realnezz]

I'm the opposite.

Whenever I see another girl I dig I leave the previous one in the dust with no delay.