A question for DJs who consider themselves "successful" now, but weren't always...

[squirrels]

I'm sorry a lot of my threads have been "downers" lately, but I'm trying to work through a difficult stage right now.

Have you ever taken on a challenge in life and reached a point where you just weren't making it any closer to your goal, and become afraid that maybe you aren't "cut out" for it? That maybe you weren't born to succeed? Or that you just didn't have the same kind of will and drive that everyone else did?

If so, how did you work past it? What did you change in the way you think/act?

 

[comote]

Yes, I have, I will tell you what my biggest obstacle to success is. My fear of trying and still failing. Many times we fail but we tell ourselves that if we don't really try then we can't really fail. This is not the thinking of a succesful person. Succesful people know that in order to be succesful you have to give 100% to whatever it is you want to be succesful at. You have to accept that failure might happen but if it does at least you gave it your best try.

 

[86]

sometime success doesn't come that quickly. a lot of the success that I've had in my life took a lot of perseverance (sp?) and patience.

keep at it, keep your chin up and don't give up that easily. sooner or later something will come of it.

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

squirrels.

It all depends on your definition of success. Tell the average guy that his immediate goal in life is to run a 4 minute mile, and that average guy will probably laugh in your face. Tell an Olympic Kenyan runner to run a 4 minute mile, and, he probably would tell you that its no problem.

It sounds like you've hit a plateu in your life. If the plateu seems to be that you've done all the cold PU's, KINO, and your social life is still a bit drab, I'd suggest to point your efforts in other endevors.

When was the last time you hit the gym? When was the last time you learned how to salsa dance? When was the last time you did overtime at the office to push for a promotion?

My point being, every DJ needs a break from the women to create a balanced lifestyle. My definition of success isn't having 5 HB's on the autodial and having a different girl to date each weekend. My definition of success is production at work, running 6 miles 4 times a week to keep my six pac, learning new styles of dancing.

Stress and depression is a point of view. Look back at your successes. Did you ever imagine that you'd come, at least, this far as a DJ? Would you trade where you are now so you can go back and become a blind, mislead AFC?

Change your point of view, make new challenges in your life that don't involve women - basically, become a polished, well-rounded man, and women WILL take notice.

 

[One on One]

I suggest you make a plan and write it down. Look at different areas of your life and make goals for each area. Have a means of achieving each goal and stick to the plan for a while. Then, take a look back at your progress. This is what I'm doing when I get back to college. I made a plan a few months ago and I achieved nearly every goal on my list, some of which I would have thought impossible.

 

[squirrels]

This is HARDLY about only women.

 

[DJUofS]

I have a suggestion that has really helped me push through turbulant times. I'm sure most of us know someone who has something we want, or acts in some way that we want to act. Or does something better than us. I know I do.

When I go lifting, I am striving to be as in shape as the best down there. When I go to school, I try to strive to be like a kid I know who is living life to the fullest. He just got his electrical engineering degree and is loving every second of his life.

What I am trying to say is; when you are striving to better yourself, envision what you want to be or where you want to be at. If you want it bad enough this will be enough motivation.