So recently, after thorough reading in this forums, and typically re-assessing my life, I changed a lot, new haircut, gone back to the gym, all the stuff mentioned here, and most importantly, I'm loving myself more (not in a narcissistic way), I'm starting to look more in depth into my life, found out that my life is awesome, my hobbies, my targets, and me ! all of these are more valuable than letting any girl or human being have control over my emotions, dont get me wrong here, my feet are still on the ground, I'm not dreaming that women will come bowing to my feet because of this, I still have a lot of work and learning, I can say that right now, I started walking on the right path (thanks to so suave).
I just want to mention that this forums are not only for nerds, I am something like a 50% afc, my problems were never with my looks, had several gf's (worthless, i know), I knew how to get myself through once i get the woman, but it was always through mutual friend introduction, or over-help from friends in what to do/ what to say situations, in fact, none of my ex's dumped me, I was the one who ends the relationship always because i start to get that feeling of deserving better, and becoming bored.
My problem was with the mindset, pedestalizing women, fear of women, and some insecurities and devaluation of self worth, hiding my testosterone, constantly worrying that if i do this she will leave bla bla bla, but again, thanks to so suave (all members) for enlightening me, and for helping me having the right mindset of dealing with women.
Now, to get to the point, I still have some problems approaching, but mostly because I am not going to clubs lately, and I think that (from what i read here) clubs are the best place to start breaking the fear of approaching, but, After the changes i mentioned before, I started noticing how my female co-workers, friends, relatives, are looking at me differently, and also, because of my tight schedule, I'm using tinder (i know that its somehow useless, but better than nothing), I used it before, and I was barely getting any matches, but now, i'm getting constant matches from lets say HB4s and 5s
so my question is, should I go with them solely for sex? given that i have no interest other than sexual, or should I keep improving my SMV, and wait till i can get what i want ?
I just want to mention that this forums are not only for nerds, I am something like a 50% afc, my problems were never with my looks, had several gf's (worthless, i know), I knew how to get myself through once i get the woman, but it was always through mutual friend introduction, or over-help from friends in what to do/ what to say situations, in fact, none of my ex's dumped me, I was the one who ends the relationship always because i start to get that feeling of deserving better, and becoming bored.
My problem was with the mindset, pedestalizing women, fear of women, and some insecurities and devaluation of self worth, hiding my testosterone, constantly worrying that if i do this she will leave bla bla bla, but again, thanks to so suave (all members) for enlightening me, and for helping me having the right mindset of dealing with women.
Now, to get to the point, I still have some problems approaching, but mostly because I am not going to clubs lately, and I think that (from what i read here) clubs are the best place to start breaking the fear of approaching, but, After the changes i mentioned before, I started noticing how my female co-workers, friends, relatives, are looking at me differently, and also, because of my tight schedule, I'm using tinder (i know that its somehow useless, but better than nothing), I used it before, and I was barely getting any matches, but now, i'm getting constant matches from lets say HB4s and 5s
so my question is, should I go with them solely for sex? given that i have no interest other than sexual, or should I keep improving my SMV, and wait till i can get what i want ?
