A question about Hypergamy

[LondonTowers]

So I've been reading a lot about hypergamy, but I have question, if hypergamy is such a potent force for women, then how do you secure a high quality woman when there will always be another guy that has higher value than you? So you could be a successful lawyer yet another guy could be a multinational CEO and if he took a liking to your women would that trigger her hypergamy and make her open to cheating or leaving you? Also is hypergamy always about wealth? So could you be an artist who doesn't earn anywhere as much as the CEO but as you are cultured and talented and live a certain artsy lifestyle that is different to the CEO, would certain women who appreciate culture find you more value than simply the man with more wealth. Some girls see spirituality as a high value, would a guy in touch with this side of life again trigger hypergamy above things like wealth?

 

[Turuwal]

Hypergamy exists and there is nothing you can do about it. Your mission is to be as sexual and non-judgemental as possible so that she is using you for kinky dirty sex while using the other guys for emotional tampon and monetary purposes.

 

[LondonTowers]

Hypergamy exists and there is nothing you can do about it. Your mission is to be as sexual and non-judgemental as possible so that she is using you for kinky dirty sex while using the other guys for emotional tampon and monetary purposes.

Thats all good if you want to sleep around for the rest of your life, what if you ever want to get into a committed LTR and possibly marriage.

 

[JoeMarron]

Sure there is always going to be someone of higher value but these men won't necessarily be men that's available to her. Brad Pitt could live next door to you but your girl isn't going to branch swing because she knows there's virtually no chance that she'll get in a relationship with him. Like PairPlus said there's also women who have to moral character not to grab another branch, just like some men in a relationship control their urges when a hot chick approaches them in a bar. Dating down is important too. Women want a man of higher value so naturally it's optimal to date down. I agree with you that some women find value in different things but all women find value in basic masculinity (lean and muscular, dominant attitude, social status, etc.). Basically I think that as long as we pick a woman with good qualities and continue to be the best men that we can be, we'll be able to sustain a relationship as long as we wish. Marriage catches alot of sh!t here but there are some who find a way to make it work. If a man can be with a woman for 10, 15, 20 years while still being in love with an active sex life then it's safe to say that hypergamy can be overcome.

 

[Turuwal]

Thats all good if you want to sleep around for the rest of your life, what if you ever want to get into a committed LTR and possibly marriage.

Honestly I have no idea. If you are rich enough you could hire a private investigator to follow her around for the rest of her life. Otherwise screen her for "quality" and let your cognitive dissonance blind you from the inevitable.

Also, statistically, higher status guys are more likely to be the fathers of their children, so you could aim for status as well. It's something like 1% chance of not being the father for high status guys vs 10% for all guys in general.

 

[TheException]

A very good topic London....

if hypergamy is such a potent force for women, then how do you secure a high quality woman when there will always be another guy that has higher value than you? So you could be a successful lawyer yet another guy could be a multinational CEO and if he took a liking to your women would that trigger her hypergamy and make her open to cheating or leaving you?

First off......how many multinational CEO's are there? I get your point though. Hypergamy is more complicated than that. Woman also need "emotional bonding". Lets say she has been married to the lawyer from your example for 20 years and she is highly attracted to him. Her hypergamous nature WILL NOT lead her to cheat with some CEO....the lawyer, his mindset + their 20 years of bonding does not outweight hooking up with a CEO with no promise of provisions or a future.

Also is hypergamy always about wealth? So could you be an artist who doesn't earn anywhere as much as the CEO but as you are cultured and talented and live a certain artsy lifestyle that is different to the CEO, would certain women who appreciate culture find you more value than simply the man with more wealth. Some girls see spirituality as a high value, would a guy in touch with this side of life again trigger hypergamy above things like wealth?

Different women value different things. Its possible a CEO can be an alpha. Its also possible a CEO can be a beta. A homeless man could be an alpha....

So you see wealth is certainly not everything. It has more to do with personality, mindset, drive/ambition, etc. All of these things COMBINED WITH looks and money.

 

[Mr Wright]

http://www.theladbible.com/articles/did-james-franco-really-try-to-chat-up-a-teenager

haha

James Franco: "Do you have a boyfriend?"

Starry eyed devotchka: "Not if you're around"

Go figure