A question about handshaking

[Desire]

Sometimes when I'm introduced and shaking hands with women they don't let go of my hand, but stays holding my hand for several minutes when the conversation goes on.

I haven't fully exploited the benefits of this but it seems like the interest level is very high and I wonder what I should do to fully take advantage of this when it happens?

 

[blueline]

just take it as high IL

 

[pipe007]

I was listening this conversation between three atractive female friends in class yesterday.

they were talking about how much they hate, and how unattractive it is for a man to have a weak handshake or a half handshake that is loose and weak...

they really hated it, and that it should be strong.. and confident...
then one of then turns around and tells me "yea Pipe, so if you gonna be my friend you have to have a good handshake, let me see yours lol"

it was fun, but I tried my regular handshake, and she said, no, you need to make it stronger, and I had to kinda squeeze harder lol.. it was interesting.

 

[mrRuckus]

I was listening this conversation between three atractive female friends in class yesterday.

they were talking about how much they hate, and how unattractive it is for a man to have a weak handshake or a half handshake that is loose and weak...

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What the hell do they know about it? Of course you are going to shake a man's hand firmer. I've seen the same complaints numerous times in my 30 years that firm handshakes hurt their hands especially if they're wearing a ring or something. What are these women expecting? I don't think you can tell a thing about a guy's confidence from his handshake with a woman because you have no idea what his intention is behind why he is doing it that way. You ever had a woman ask for a fist bump and then you barely do it and they still cry it hurt, but you can practically slam a guy's fist and he doesn't blink. Then they are surprised if we let up a bit on them. Boohoo.

They're trying to apply the psychology of a male-male handshake to a male-female handshake and it's just not the same. Men always treat women gentler, which also leads onto the idea that women like to think they can beat a guy up just because they've goofed around with guys before and the guys use a quarter of their strength but could really crush her into dust if they felt like it.

So once again this just comes down to pointless female prattle.

 

[squirrels]

Turn your hand up slightly when you shake hands with a girl. It doesn't have to be robust like when you shake hands with another guy, but it does have to be "firm but gentle". Turning the hand up slightly hearkens back to the days when the masculine man would offer his hand to a woman (asking for her hand) and she would effeminately accept it.

If she wants to retain physical contact with you beyond the time required for exchanging social pleasantry, it means...surprise...SHE LIKES TOUCHING YOU. This should be a sign to make a few moves a little quicker than you would before.

 

[Groovy]

If you wanna know practiclly all that you want to know about handshakes you can go see allan and barbara's book of definitive body languege.

Basiclly don't shake the other person's hand much stronger or weaker that they are shaking yours. And make sure that the space between your thumb and index finger touches the other person's same space.

Do you know that wierd handshake where you only grab the other person's fingers? That is bad.

Make sure your hand isn't too rigid either. The absolute worse handshake is the one where you just reach out your hand and add no force at all. It feels like the other person is grabbing a wet fish.

How does it feel to handshake a person whose palm is sweaty? If you want a good handshake, try to avoid that. And it can make a good impression, it is relativley important in my opinion.

I must recommend once again that book... It can be very useful for some people. I know it was for me. For some reason, if you are a member of this forums, I think it's gonna be interresting to you.

 

[Coffeebazooka]

I was listening this conversation between three atractive female friends in class yesterday.

they were talking about how much they hate, and how unattractive it is for a man to have a weak handshake or a half handshake that is loose and weak...

they really hated it, and that it should be strong.. and confident...
then one of then turns around and tells me "yea Pipe, so if you gonna be my friend you have to have a good handshake, let me see yours lol"

it was fun, but I tried my regular handshake, and she said, no, you need to make it stronger, and I had to kinda squeeze harder lol.. it was interesting.

This is actually very interesting. One time when I was walking home from the gym with a buddy of mine we met two girls who my buddy knew. I was a bit tired and had been lifting pretty heavy so when I introduce myself I nearly squash the girls hand without realizing it. We talked for a bit and then we went home.

Apparantly this girl had been talking about me for like two weeks afterwards and she had asked my friend about me. It was surreal. We couldnt have talked for more than five minutes.

As for OP, Im not really sure how you can exploit it to your favor. .