"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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a question about attention *****s

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if you came across and got played by a attention ***** who just seemed interested in you just to see if she could get you, did she actually find you attractive?

I know with these type of girls being a challenge is the most important thing. I got owned during the intermediate level.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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anyone been in this situation b4?
 

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You'll seldom find success with these women, authentic attention wh0res that is. They're only attracted to you as long as you remain a challenge, and the only way to remain a challenge is by giving them little to no preferred attention. I say preferred because if you give them the type of attention they crave as opposed to the type of attention they deserve, they'll lose interest in you.
 

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It doesn't really matter whether or not an attention hor actually finds you attractive. It's very easy for her to find and meet many other attractive guys. Her interest in you however is something else entirely. In the beginning, you could just be a novelty item to her. Nothing serious and it's all just for fun.

That is why, whenever you're in the company of an attention hor, don't take things so seriously. Just have fun with her and fool around with her, and with many other girls too.

If you're the type of guy that doesn't 'play' with a girl first but goes serious with a girl first, then you better try to stay away from attention hors. It'll be better if you put your moves on a girl who treats dating the same way you do.
 

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its a weird thing.

they want you, but only because they can't have you. Keep that in mind, and just get whatever you want out of the relationship.

just don't expect to change a girl like that and make her into a loyal g/f. It will be hell, i promise.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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well this one was a christian, virgin, inexperienced with guys attention ***** type. she knew how to play the field and she knew it well. She even got close to my folks to get my attention.
 

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Originally posted by Deadly_Assassin
well this one was a christian, virgin, inexperienced with guys attention ***** type. she knew how to play the field and she knew it well. She even got close to my folks to get my attention.
Does that mean she doesn't seek attention of other guys or people? Plus does she allow guys to get into close proximity with her? She doesn't sound like a serious attention hor from your description.
 

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well she would hang with the guys - she would go to the movies with one guy as mates n then next week with another one giving that impression that she was interested in them. But she would always give that excuse of not being interested in a relationship. She was touchy touchy n flirty as well.
 

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Of course most of the guys acted quite AFC with her. Always giving her attention and calling her all the time. With me I did stand out because I didnt do all of those things and I was always cool n it didnt budge me what these guys were upto. Slowly I gave up as well with the attention part but still not as bad as these guys. The most I ever texted her in a week was about 3-4 times. I guess I was a challenge to her but when I asked her out she started making excuses saying I wasnt genuine n stuff.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Originally posted by Deadly_Assassin
Of course most of the guys acted quite AFC with her. Always giving her attention and calling her all the time. With me I did stand out because I didnt do all of those things and I was always cool n it didnt budge me what these guys were upto. Slowly I gave up as well with the attention part but still not as bad as these guys. The most I ever texted her in a week was about 3-4 times. I guess I was a challenge to her but when I asked her out she started making excuses saying I wasnt genuine n stuff.
I wouldn't worry about her saying you're not genuine. It's probably because you do not respond to her like all those other guys.

But I don't believe you're feeling the right way here. Reason being, you're probably a lot like those other guys except that you're able to control it better. My personal opinion is that you've put a little too much importance into this one girl. I'm not saying it's a bad thing to do, but if you're gonna do it with a girl that you clearly believe is an attention hor, you're probably not making a very wise decision.

Try not to interact with this girl until you can safely say that it won't devastate you if she doesn't like you in the end.
 

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Originally posted by JonJack
I wouldn't worry about her saying you're not genuine. It's probably because you do not respond to her like all those other guys.

But I don't believe you're feeling the right way here. Reason being, you're probably a lot like those other guys except that you're able to control it better. My personal opinion is that you've put a little too much importance into this one girl. I'm not saying it's a bad thing to do, but if you're gonna do it with a girl that you clearly believe is an attention hor, you're probably not making a very wise decision.

Try not to interact with this girl until you can safely say that it won't devastate you if she doesn't like you in the end.
I concur 100%
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DJDamage:
Your link is right on, that's EXACTLY how typical attentionwh*res dress and behave.
What's really amusing is that since when the young girls in America have all become lesbians or bisexuals?
:D
Yeah, right they are all genuinely loving it when licking on each other...
;)
 

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Wanna see real Attention Wh0res??? see this!!
:crazy: man thats one phat video. I am definetly going for the attention *****s now. :rockon:
 

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Originally posted by JonJack
Does that mean she doesn't seek attention of other guys or people? Plus does she allow guys to get into close proximity with her? She doesn't sound like a serious attention hor from your description.
A serious attention wh0re loves males/male attention, and has tons of male friends, LJBF and married/men in relationship friends. VERRRY few real female friends. She LOVES it when she can find a male or a group of males to "hang" with and shamelessly flirt with. Lots of touching, hugging, sitting on laps, ect. BUT she draws the line at actually "hooking it up" If you get too close, or want some action, they will tell you to back off. They want your attention, time, energy effort and $$$. Free drinks and dinners are "ok" with them. As is finding a sober guy (DD) for a free taxi cab, so they can get to the clubs/bars and drink and flirt and meet other men, dance, ect. They need a male partner for the movies, concerts, and some nights out, as they dont really have female friends to hang with, as they are too much competition for the male attention.

They are scum of the fukking Earth/leeches, and I have no use for them, or "c0ckblockers. These two brands of women and myself get along like a cobra does with a mongoose.
 

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Originally posted by Deadly_Assassin
:crazy: man thats one phat video. I am definetly going for the attention *****s now. :rockon:
Don't be a fool. The video meant to illustrate how attention wh0res in a club get attention but for the most part they will make a p1sspoor relationship material (they are as good as a fvckbuddy at most but don't look much from them). They get their power from getting as much attention from as many guys as possible without actuatlly sleeping with them. If an attention wh0re can have an army of AFC guys who buy them stuff, entertain them, drive them around and be their emotional tampons, they won't need to work a day in their lives.

Go for girls who don't need to rub,kiss on other girls in club and flash their ass and tities whenever possible.

Sometimes I wonder if Attention wh0res are as result of pussified men who do not approach and therefore not enough girls are asked on dates and they have to result to literarly "fvck me" behaviour. It is one of the biggest sh1t tests out there and not playing by the rules of an attention wh0res is laying out for you is the challange. Guys who gawk, tell them how pretty they are and buy them drinks end up with nothing while the guy who is not swayed by their behaviour's but does his own thing and show confidence ends up getting some.

DjDamage
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I was just being sarcastic about going for the attention *****s because of the video.
 

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A serious attention wh0re loves males/male attention, and has tons of male friends, LJBF and married/men in relationship friends. VERRRY few real female friends. She LOVES it when she can find a male or a group of males to "hang" with and shamelessly flirt with. Lots of touching, hugging, sitting on laps, ect. BUT she draws the line at actually "hooking it up" If you get too close, or want some action, they will tell you to back off. They want your attention, time, energy effort and $$$. Free drinks and dinners are "ok" with them. As is finding a sober guy (DD) for a free taxi cab, so they can get to the clubs/bars and drink and flirt and meet other men, dance, ect. They need a male partner for the movies, concerts, and some nights out, as they dont really have female friends to hang with, as they are too much competition for the male attention.
Is the attention *****s who ask the guys out just for attention or the guys ask them out and the attention *****s just say to get the free attention?
 

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Originally posted by Silverback82
what type of guys are the attention *****s actually attracted too?
Usually the guy who can attract the most female attention because they want to make other women jealous.

By getting the alpha male(trophy) to single her out bestows power and rep to her. After they get the challenge pvssified, they then discard em' after reducing them to AFC material. Someone who posted above was correct, they make horrible LTR material because afterall they are after the most attention, and will be most likely to cheat when the opportunity presents itself. They disdain exclusivity, and boot you if you're looking for it.

These AWs are affraid of commitment and have low self-esteem, so don't expect much out of them. Take them for face value in what they represent. You can keep up your challenge factor UP for as long as you can ride it out, but your tred in deep waters as they'll have other men they're seeing on the side without telling you.

It's like they're more after attention then sex if you can believe it. They'll use you for an ego boost, but once they get bored and IL drops you can see the dumpage coming fast. Just ask em' how long their relationships average length lasts. My last ex relationships lasted 6 months. Come 5 months I was dropped. I saw it coming, but didn't take any pre-emptive strikes. Her excuse was "I need to be single, and find myself" That's classic LBJF ******** speak if you ask me. So bail out EARLY if you see it coming. Hit her with a surprise when the talk comes. And WALK AWAY CLEAN. I did this and it's now driving her nuts since she can't even have me as an emotional tampon.
 

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Dude,

These girls will play anyone just for their own self satisfaction whether they are attracted or not. TRUST ME...I live with 2.

Best thing is is to ignore tham completely with no intentions of anything and they get the picture quick.

Knock them back down a few notches to earth.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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