"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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alright i was just curious to know like if you have a girl you met a bar or whatever you guys hit it off, things are going great. your dancing and having a good time. its a local bar in a college town so i mean you constantly see her up there. So you get her number and she starts the convo and was the agresser for awhile. always blows you up to ask if your going out tonight and you just feel like your going great. Then you make out with her drunk one night and she hits you up again and you guys dance and then all of a sudden she stops hitting you up. No texts, no calls. Then now you always see her out and shes dancing with other guys, making out with them and doing her thing. I mean i understand im not with her or anything and shes single so by all means she can do her own thing. But when we're out she is like half and half. She'll kinda ignore me and then come up to me drunk as **** to talk again. So my question is what do you think her deal is? and whats the best way to go out about the next time im out? like what would you guys do
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Well if she can only come up to you and talk when she's drunk, then she's probably nervous around you. Don't really know how I'd go about that but that's what it seems like to me.
 

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Yeah so im saying if i make her nervous i would think that she would obviously like me right? but that doesnt seem like the case if she goes dancing and making out with other guys at the club lol..so i mean im just ****ing confused thats all
 

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Theprospect47 said:
Yeah so im saying if i make her nervous i would think that she would obviously like me right? but that doesnt seem like the case if she goes dancing and making out with other guys at the club lol..so i mean im just ****ing confused thats all

I don't think it's nervousness. I think she's just the typical college skank.

- Makes out with 90% of the dudes around her, and probably bangs 10% of that group. She likes drinking excessively, public make-outs, and attention. -

Your makeout with her means nothing. That's the mistake you're making....You thought that her pursuit of you was an indicator of serious interest. When in reality, she was probably making out with another guy the night before you.

Girls in that age group are at the height of female flakiness. You can't take them seriously. You can't even waste time trying to figure them out.

If you see her, treat her like a regular asexual friend. And if the occasion comes up, make out with other chicks around her, and/or hit on her friends. But the best move of all is to forget about her. Sounds like there might be 10 other guys on various internet boards with the same story about this chick. Making out with dudes seems like the typical weekend for her.
 

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Yeah i mean i kinda figured that and probably right, and im just playing idiot..didnt really expect much out of it when i seen that..i guess the only left to do is just hopefully try and **** and forget about her. But i mean like the last thing i wanted to ask like you say treat her like asexual friend, so i mean like aknowledge her and stuff when were out but like dont try to make the efforts of dancing with her or really talking with her is what your saying?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You know her better than I do. But from my experience, the chick out on the dancefloor making out with a new guy every night is the attention wh0re. She isn't banging these dudes (not all of them, anyway), she's just trying to be in the spotlight.

You can keep trying to game her. I just have a feeling that if she were seriously trying to bang you, she'd at least make an attempt to hide her habit of making out with random dudes.
 
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