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Don Juan
Alright...here is my story.
My name is Jerry, I live in San Luis Obispo, California. For those of you that don't know, it is purely a college town. There are about 45,000 people here and around 35,000 are college students. Well ever since I started coming to site about 3 years ago, I've noticed myself becoming a very small amount better at socializing. With respect to girls, I have absolutely no experience...that doesn't bother me though. What does bother me is my freakin' conversation skills.
You see, everytime I meet someone new, I feel I have to prove myself worthy. I can never ever keep an interesting conversation going. Not once have I been the dominate person in a conversation (meaning the one that is doing the most talking) when I meet someone new. Every time I ask someone a question it is premeditated. I cannot keep the flow going. I've tried every single listening technique there is (well atleast all the ones listed in the bible and various topics on this board) to no avail.
What makes it worse is that i'm aware of my problem and I can't do anything to make it better. I can enter a conversation so confident, head clear, in a great fvcking mood, but within about 2-3 minutes I completely loose it...I run out of sh1t to say. I get that wierd ass feeling that you have to be doing something to make it not akward (i.e. playing with my cellphone). It sucks so bad, I wish it weren't like that.
I do not have any problem meeting new people, as in approaching them. But I can not make new freinds because they will get bored of what I have to say very quickly.
I'm not sure what I'm looking for as an answer but please don't tell me to read the bible because I have many many many many times. I guess I just need someone else's perspective.
My name is Jerry, I live in San Luis Obispo, California. For those of you that don't know, it is purely a college town. There are about 45,000 people here and around 35,000 are college students. Well ever since I started coming to site about 3 years ago, I've noticed myself becoming a very small amount better at socializing. With respect to girls, I have absolutely no experience...that doesn't bother me though. What does bother me is my freakin' conversation skills.
You see, everytime I meet someone new, I feel I have to prove myself worthy. I can never ever keep an interesting conversation going. Not once have I been the dominate person in a conversation (meaning the one that is doing the most talking) when I meet someone new. Every time I ask someone a question it is premeditated. I cannot keep the flow going. I've tried every single listening technique there is (well atleast all the ones listed in the bible and various topics on this board) to no avail.
What makes it worse is that i'm aware of my problem and I can't do anything to make it better. I can enter a conversation so confident, head clear, in a great fvcking mood, but within about 2-3 minutes I completely loose it...I run out of sh1t to say. I get that wierd ass feeling that you have to be doing something to make it not akward (i.e. playing with my cellphone). It sucks so bad, I wish it weren't like that.
I do not have any problem meeting new people, as in approaching them. But I can not make new freinds because they will get bored of what I have to say very quickly.
I'm not sure what I'm looking for as an answer but please don't tell me to read the bible because I have many many many many times. I guess I just need someone else's perspective.