A predicament...

[denverfan110]

Hello guys,

So a predicament. Met this girl over the summer (not the one from my previous threads). One day toward the end of the summer we started hooking up and got her to a bedroom but she gave me the "not tonight" and became adamant about it when I went for the usual attempts to subvert that behavior. But since I was going abroad in 3 days (she knew that), I knew I wouldn't get another chance. At the time I promptly left the room and began making food in my apartment while she let promptly herself out. Silent treatment. For all intents and purposes, next. NC.

Here's the thing. While I've been abroad for the past few months she's been hitting me up continuously. I'll even cut the conversation short or ignore her all together but every 2 weeks or so she'll shoot me a new message.

What's the play here? Should I assume her attempts at conversation are just trying to be friendly and remain NC since she already rejected me once, or should I break it and see if I can escalate again (since I just got home). I have one other plate that's going well.

EDIT: Also my friend hit that toward the end of the summer after I went abroad if that means anything.

 

[DragonBlood]

since I was going abroad in 3 days (she knew that), I knew I wouldn't get another chance.

In other words you came across a bit desperate and chased. Why?


If you slowed down and played it cool she might have came around, but storming out of the room to make a sandwich was a bit dramatic.

I dont think there is a game here, you didnt define the rules for when you are away but now your back its business as usual. NC has played in your favour in the long run though!

 

[HalfPUAHalfAFC]

She's playing the field.

She doesn't feel she got the best of you, yet. She'd like the power back in her hands, even if that means she doesn't bang you.

Maintain frame. Don't chase her, or you'll lose. Make her work and then when the buying temperature is up, get her out and get her home and bang her.

Any last minute resistance, do what you did again.

Any resistance on getting her out, radio silence.