"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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A Post on What Attracts Women

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The most important tool that a man must have is self-confidence. You must be sure of yourself. Confidence is portrayed in your words and in your nonverbal actions. It is all about ho you carry yourself. When you have this assurance of yourself you can get away with saying a lot of things. A man must be decisive and being indecisive will make you look weak and make you look like you don't have confidence.

I'd like to add that I believe a lot of what attracts females is nonverbal. The way you carry yourself says more about you then any words that you can say!

Looks do matter but not as importantly as everyone thinks it is. Girls do not put as much emphasis on looks as guys do. Especially girls that aren't teenagers. and feature wise you guys shouldn't worry too much about it either. If you look like chubaka, unless you have millions of dollars to get surgery then why worry about it like a female would worry about herself?.... If you are so ugly and you still think that that is the reason your not getting girls then I suggest you to get off this website, make millions of dollars and get surgery.

What you change about your looks is the way you dress. You must take pride in how you dress and this will exude that you do have confidence. Confidence should not come through material items such as things, money, cars, job, etc. It should be in what you know: and this is GAME.

You got to be confident when your out their campaigning. You think Obama got elected because he was saying nonsense? No, he knew what he was talking about so he as confident when he said it. Same thing with any salesperson. The confident salesperson is someone who knows about the product.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
The most important tool that a man must have is self-confidence. You must be sure of yourself.
There is no doubt about this but, and its a big but, mastering self confidence is a journey in and of it self..that takes time.

It has to be anchored in something real and tangible (whatever that may be) and like anything else in life, some guys get there faster than others and for some it takes a long time and for others, they never get there.

So, its not something you can say "just be confident" Its something that has to be built over time with experience, like a house, or a career, or whatever.
 

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Of course ST. This is definitely not an easy task. It is very hard. Trust me I know as I am still trying to master it.
 

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Of course ST. This is definitely not an easy task. It is very hard. Trust me I know as I am still trying to master it.
you're lucky in that you're AWARE and are doing something about it at an early age. So by the time you're my age you'll be gold.
 

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Yea, I'm a weird dude. Most african american guys my age watch tv and look at World Star all day and smoke weed all day. I rather improve myself because I want to be wealthy and I want dimes!

Here is a quote from my boy MacMaji. Just re-reading this now!

You also want to come across as a dude who's in high demand. This is where you dress to impress and keep yourself looking and smelling good. When you look good, you feel good about yourself. And the way you feel about yourself is what you project to others. Others will believe about you what you believe about yourself. So always be in control of your image.

Perception is everything. If you come across as the guy who appears to be the real deal, and has himself together, females are going to take notice. Add to this a double mix of boldness and confidence, and you have an unstoppable formula for success with women.

As always, share your success.
Just reading this stuff give me confidence because when you increase your knowledge you increase your game!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Eternal_water said:
And size of course

size of your ****, muscles and wallet.
and social-status, popularity, good social-skills, the words and sentences that come out of his mouth, his body-language, conversation-skills, the right attitude, mindset, mentality, has to have his own house, or just not live with his parents anymore, etc.
 

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This is true. It's important not to express frustration with the world when driving, etc. Don't let little things get to you.
 

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Real confidence is the ability to turn round to everybody, and say F UCK YOU, mean it, believe it and not question it, if you start doubt it, go with the consequences of it, even if it means staring death in the face.

You have to throw off lots of aspects of rationality by being 100% confident. It is not an attitude that brings alot of happiness, or friendships but it can bring alot of money and poon in the right circumstances.....

:rockon: :rockon: :rockon: :rockon: :rockon: :rockon: :rockon: :rockon: :rockon: :rockon:
 

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You guys need to remember that women are the same species. They're not so different from us, especially these days when half of them think they ARE us. What is the first thing that attracts you to a woman? Big shocker here, that's probably the first thing that attracts her to you.

Looks and only looks make the first impression. Everything else is secondary and based on judgement, not instinct. Instinct is a more powerful force. Before a sound comes out of your mouth, she's already decided if you have any chance of getting in her pants.

Confidence is good and all, but it only helps you catch what is already yours to lose. Never stop developing it, but appreciate the limits. Otherwise, you will obsess and over-analyze every failed encounter to no end.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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TillTheEndOfTime said:
You guys need to remember that women are the same species. They're not so different from us, especially these days when half of them think they ARE us. What is the first thing that attracts you to a woman? Big shocker here, that's probably the first thing that attracts her to you.

Looks and only looks make the first impression. Everything else is secondary and based on judgement, not instinct. Instinct is a more powerful force. Before a sound comes out of your mouth, she's already decided if you have any chance of getting in her pants.

Confidence is good and all, but it only helps you catch what is already yours to lose. Never stop developing it, but appreciate the limits. Otherwise, you will obsess and over-analyze every failed encounter to no end.
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Competence leads to confidence.

Learn skills, excel at your passions, and master your life.

And most of all, don't be afraid of failure. It WILL happen to you. Just keep moving.
 

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Aj could you link the site you picked the quote from?
 

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To Ezio:
http://www.flipthegame.net/2012/01/perception-is-everything.html


To Eternal:
I've seen some small dudes with some of the baddest broads. It's confidence my boy. There's also a good correlation between financial success and being a good leader too.

To EndofTime:

Men are logical, girls are emotional. Things to consider when talking about looks: Clothes and how you actually look. So if your not the best looking dude in the city but you dress sharp then your definitely off to a good start.

Peoples problem on this forum is they over-analyze everything and I have done that before. It's good to learn from your mistakes but obsessing over it is not the move. Live your life people. There is no magic pill to make you good with woman. The site here gives a good foundation! Take that foundation and apply it to your life and don't over-analyze.

To BigNeil:

Your stripper did not leave you solely because you were an angry driver. That's just some excuse buddy.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
To BigNeil:

Your stripper did not leave you solely because you were an angry driver. That's just some excuse buddy.
True. I pointed that out to her. She had lost the attraction first (i.e. got back with her ex) and started docking points thereafter. I wonder if there was anything I could have done at that point. We had our best date (#10) followed by our worst (#11) and it was over. But angry driving still didn't help.
 

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bigneil said:
True. I pointed that out to her. She had lost the attraction first (i.e. got back with her ex) and started docking points thereafter. I wonder if there was anything I could have done at that point. We had our best date (#10) followed by our worst (#11) and it was over. But angry driving still didn't help.

Just charge it to the game homie. Don't overanalyze it.
 

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st_99 said:
There is no doubt about this but, and its a big but, mastering self confidence is a journey in and of it self..that takes time.

It has to be anchored in something real and tangible (whatever that may be) and like anything else in life, some guys get there faster than others and for some it takes a long time and for others, they never get there.

So, its not something you can say "just be confident" Its something that has to be built over time with experience, like a house, or a career, or whatever.
Good. Interesting.
 

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Spoke with my HOT ex-gf today. We dated for seven years (she wanted me to marry her). I asked what was it that attracted her to me despite the line of guys who wanted to date her. She said we got to know each other as friends over a few months and she realized she had fallen in love with me before we actually began dating. I remember that period of time -- because she was a friend and not someone I was actively dating confidence never came into question. I treated her like a friend (helpful, kind, never nervous, very genuine) not like someone I wanted to sleep with or develop a "relationship". She got to know me, not some impression of me that I was trying to pass off.

In discussing dating in general she said a guy's facial looks are important, but women are attracted to the whole package not just one piece of it (men tend to focus on two things: face and body). How a guy carries himself. How he dresses. How he behaves in general.
 

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F*ck a rating a system. Don't buy into it as a guy. That is borderline disrespectful to have girls sitting there and rating you. You tell these girls that your a 10 damn!t. Having this mentality will help your confidence. I don't want to hear dudes say there 8 or 7.5. I don't want to see guys posting pictures of themselves on here either.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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