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Don Juan
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- Nov 1, 2008
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I am getting older, in my mid-20's now, and I am finally over trying to fit in. I am done being insecure about not having friends, and keeping bad friends in order to stay popular or have things to do. I have tried to see past all the BS but I am starting to realize that the people I consider friends are purely out of convenience. The one only calls me when he is bored or when his other friends or girlfriend is busy. Aside from that, he uses all of his other friends, then when they aren't around, he talks behind their back. Safe to say that he does the same when I am not around.
The other guys in this social circle are mostly A$$holes. Former high school athletes who don't stop talking about their glory days. Yes, high school, not even college, but to them, its the last time they have done anything worth talking about. I have heard from the original friend that the others talked negatively about me when they found out I did MMA, bringing up my lack of athleticism in high school. Jesus, so not only are these guys losers, they are also jealous people, they say fvcked up things about each other, and God help me if they aren't the most hipster/annoying dudes I have ever met.
Guys, if you have friends that you genuinely do not like being around, who do not look out for your best interest, do NOT hang out with them out of necessity. Stay busy, or make money, or find a girlfriend. These "friends" will only hold you back and bring you down. It took for me to stop drinking for a few weeks and not going out to bars with them to realize this. I was only out with them because that was my routine. I probably continued to drink because I was worried if I stopped, my friends wouldn't like me anymore. Who cares? I still have friends that though I do not see them often, they are good people and will always have my back.
Although, you never know. I thought my cousin was my best friend. He's the goddaughter of my child, but suddenly he starts talking to "a girl who is so different than any other girl", and doesn't even bother to see me or my kid when he comes home a month ago. He spent every day with his new GF. Poor guy, he has to learn the hard way. He, on the other hand, has always looked out for me and had my best interest at heart, so eventually I will forgive him. He just made a mistake.
The bottom line is, you are better off with nobody in your life than to be in poor company.
The other guys in this social circle are mostly A$$holes. Former high school athletes who don't stop talking about their glory days. Yes, high school, not even college, but to them, its the last time they have done anything worth talking about. I have heard from the original friend that the others talked negatively about me when they found out I did MMA, bringing up my lack of athleticism in high school. Jesus, so not only are these guys losers, they are also jealous people, they say fvcked up things about each other, and God help me if they aren't the most hipster/annoying dudes I have ever met.
Guys, if you have friends that you genuinely do not like being around, who do not look out for your best interest, do NOT hang out with them out of necessity. Stay busy, or make money, or find a girlfriend. These "friends" will only hold you back and bring you down. It took for me to stop drinking for a few weeks and not going out to bars with them to realize this. I was only out with them because that was my routine. I probably continued to drink because I was worried if I stopped, my friends wouldn't like me anymore. Who cares? I still have friends that though I do not see them often, they are good people and will always have my back.
Although, you never know. I thought my cousin was my best friend. He's the goddaughter of my child, but suddenly he starts talking to "a girl who is so different than any other girl", and doesn't even bother to see me or my kid when he comes home a month ago. He spent every day with his new GF. Poor guy, he has to learn the hard way. He, on the other hand, has always looked out for me and had my best interest at heart, so eventually I will forgive him. He just made a mistake.
The bottom line is, you are better off with nobody in your life than to be in poor company.