A Possible Conflict with Roommate

[CollegeLife]

First, the background: This girl I met who is a floormate and have been comming around into the picture lately. She the quiet, pre-med asian girl which only a few on the floor really knows her. Lately, she have been comming in the picture more as she begins to be around more. She been giving me alot of random stuff like food and when I was in her room, tried to give me more food and so on... what's that about? I know about ioi's... but I haven't seen giving lots of foods as a sign before.

Today she also for some reason, came to my room and began to clean up my roommate side and bossing (she sounded like a mother) him to clean. I'm not sure what to interprete that... is she interested in my roommate or some wierd thing for me (I was mentioning to her that I recently cleaned my side but can't do anything for my roommate since I don't know where to start). Or she just loco.

Ok, I know the interpretation above is not a big deal anyway, over-analyzing never helps, but I'm just putting it out there, and it helps build a picture.

The real problem is afterwards, both of us talked, and we both admit interest in her. Since right now both of us perfer to date around and not commit to one, the point of contention of where it going is going to hover. I sense this could lead to a real conflict. I'm not sure what I should do One of us could put the foot down saying to back off but neither of us done that yet as neither is really going for her exclusively, granted dating is not serial monogamy, but I don't think it wise for roommates to go for the same girl.

What would be the best course of action (both just back off, let him go after her though he have his eyes on others, put my foot down though I have eyes on others, etc.). Also if someone could tell the logic of her actions, that would be nice too (especially comming-in-with-supplies-and-begin-cleaning-up-while-ordering-the-my-roommate-around-during-it, I really don't get that).

 

[marinetti]

the two of you should double up on her, make it a bonding experience for all of you. have her pretend to be the "cleaning lady" but you don't have money this week to pay her. leave the door open the whole time.

i guarantee this will solve the problem you're talking about (though it will bring up several others)

 

[Potbelly]

the two of you should double up on her, make it a bonding experience for all of you. have her pretend to be the "cleaning lady" but you don't have money this week to pay her. leave the door open the whole time.

i guarantee this will solve the problem you're talking about (though it will bring up several others)

lmfao A+.

 

[CollegeLife]

Umm... As funny that was... anyone got some advice on what to do really?

 

[yep]

CollegeLife, you are putting way to much importance on something this small.

Think of how simple it would be to say to your roomate : Look man neither of us have decided who wants her, so if you dont say u want her right now i'm just gonna try it out.

Then he says either: Ok dude i actually do really want her

Or

Nah u can have her.

How hard is this?

Now go do

Ok now to the logic of her actions...there is no logic...problem solved.
Just do what works and get results, dont analyze wheather or not she likes you or her actions.

P.S.-If she does something that comes off as really crazy...you have my permission to THEN analyze her, but until then dont bust ur brian.

 

[Dilberto]

Asian women have a natural, mothering tendency, in all of them. Feeding people, is one of their customs. Another thing is their personal compulsions- they are neat freaks to the bone, and cannot stand untidiness, anywhere. Yes- the assertive and self-confident ones can be very bossy, indeed. Put them in their place, dude....when that happens. Show them the door, and have them return to their own corner. They won't be offended. They are very resilient, and rarely get butt-hurt, over anything. If they are raised properly(most ARE).....they will quickly admit where they stepped out of line.

How do I know this? Because I am 50% asian. I was raised the right way, by a mother who had high expectations of me. Asian women are very different than caucasians. The different cultures show it. Asians are very superstitious and may come off as odd, to some. I just chose not to date asians, because they place money very high in their list of priorities, and can be cold, uptight, and downright *****y. Not necessarily material beings- but they do believe in exploring their highest earning potential, VERY YOUNG in life. In other words, they don't bother with being a farging "debutante".....ie; golddigger-in-training, or with "charm school", or finding wealthy older mates, at all. They just establish financial independence, on their own merits alone.......really a great quality.

Asian women who are independent, have often told me that financial independence is MORE IMPORTANT than relationships, and sex. Some even went as far as saying they can go without sex, for the rest of their lives! That is because many old-world asian men are simply wham-bam-thankya-maam rice boners. These women haven't seen all their options yet. They mistakingly think ALL MEN are hit-n-runners. This time around though- I am looking out for more asian, and latina women. There is no point in limiting my chances, simply by being fickle. That's stupidity.

Point in being......if you even remotely like this girl- let her know. Tell her she can skip anatomy lab class and study with you, instead! Forget about the roomate- the first man to get the girl....WINS the girl......move-on!

 

[marinetti]

i apologize for the answer, i couldn't help myself. yep has it exactly right though, just honestly talk to either or both of them.