"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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A players(DJs)apartment,,what it should have?

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Im moving out on my own after 5 years..what items and what should I have in my new apartment to make it a players pad and to make it women friendly?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Booze. Plenty of booze. Spirits (don't forget mixers), wine, champagne, those girly Cruiser drinks, liqueurs, shots. Everything.
I've had a lot of success by inviting women home for a nightcap.
 

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A huge anal probe on the wall.
 

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adam225 said:
A huge anal probe on the wall.
LOL!! I had to comment. Literally laughed out loud reading that.


Seriously though, just be clean, make sure your place smells nice, and have a lot of booze, movies, you know sh!t chicks would like.
 

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slowly build up your aparment with

THE MOST IMPORTANT TIP- YOUR APARTMENT SHOULD BE INCREDIBLY CLEAN ESPECIALLY THE BATHROOM.

1. Alchohol/food- 2 different bottles of wine red and white, vodka with mixers, craft beer, bottle water, various mixers, mini ice cream bars, hummus and pita bread, fruit, chips, chocolate, etc.


2. A large 42 inch hd television mininum, perfect for "movie nights" and access to netflix and or various movies.

3. A very comfortable couch.

4. A plant and unique artwork (can be had for cheap).

5. A sound system in the bedroom and living room, look to amazon.com. Create a playlist with chill music. I like rkelly slow wind, etc.

6. A mininum queen size bed preferrably pillow top with clean sheets.

7. A full length mirror outside the bedroom.

8. Clean decorative fluffy towels, I don't use them I have regular towels.

9. Condoms.

10. Glad Plug ins.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I don't think what you have matters much. That the house is CLEAN is more important.

I'm a practicing minimalist (look it up) so I have simple things at my place.

Bed, Table, Chairs, Weight Bench... And that's about it....

But my place is spotless and visually pleasing; and I keep it that way.


The 2 things I've most used to get women over my place:

- Alcohol (others have explained)
- SNES system. I'm not kidding! I've had tons of women who find out I have a SNES (along with key games women like such as Mario Kart) and practically invite themselves over to play them.

Do you know how many women I've actually played SNES with who were coming over to play it with me?


0



It's only the justification.


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I also use scented candles a lot. Not only for the romantic effect, but... people like familiar smells. So it's much more comforting than the natural aroma of a house...
 

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- Baby wipes in the bathroom.
- Magazines on the living room table.
- Martini Shaker
- Coasters
- Lots of booze
- Lots of Shot Glasses
- A bangin sound system
- Nice TV
- XBOX
- A DECK OF CARDS.
- Cards against humanity
- A SAFE
- Candles
- Air Fresheners
- Swiffer
- Vacuum
- Iron
- Starch
- De-Wrinkler
- Laundry Detergent with a good smell
- YOU SHOULD KNOW HOW TO COOK. WELL. All the kitchen utensils as well as a good selection of spices.
- A patio with patio furniture
- A grill
- Blender
- George Forman
- Fluffy blanket on the reclining couches
- Extra Pillows
- Pictures of friends
- Sports/City memorabilia (Pictures of big city skyline if you live in one Chicago *Cough*)
- Netflix/Apple TV
- Free Weights
- An Assortment of vitamins, supplements, medicine
- Something healthy to drink
- Bottles of Water
- A handsome large breed Dog (Preferably an sweet obedient pitbull mix named Cooper)
- Condoms
- Herbal Viagras - they can take these two and watch em rip your pants off.
- A nice bowl with some sticky purple koosh

All of these things may not necessarily be for women per se however, I think they are essential to an established bachelor pad built for entertainment and enjoying yourself.
 

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nmartinez12443 said:
THE MOST IMPORTANT TIP- YOUR APARTMENT SHOULD BE INCREDIBLY CLEAN ESPECIALLY THE BATHROOM.

1. Alchohol/food- 2 different bottles of wine red and white, vodka with mixers, craft beer, bottle water, various mixers, mini ice cream bars, hummus and pita bread, fruit, chips, chocolate, etc.


2. A large 42 inch hd television mininum, perfect for "movie nights" and access to netflix and or various movies.

3. A very comfortable couch.

4. A plant and unique artwork (can be had for cheap).

5. A sound system in the bedroom and living room, look to amazon.com. Create a playlist with chill music. I like rkelly slow wind, etc.

6. A mininum queen size bed preferrably pillow top with clean sheets.

7. A full length mirror outside the bedroom.

8. Clean decorative fluffy towels, I don't use them I have regular towels.

9. Condoms.

10. Glad Plug ins.
could you and the other posters post picture of your apartments to give us an idea.
 

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Dgwizdal said:
- Baby wipes in the bathroom.
- Magazines on the living room table.
- Martini Shaker
- Coasters
- Lots of booze
- Lots of Shot Glasses
- A bangin sound system
- Nice TV
- XBOX
- A DECK OF CARDS.
- Cards against humanity
- A SAFE
- Candles
- Air Fresheners
- Swiffer
- Vacuum
- Iron
- Starch
- De-Wrinkler
- Laundry Detergent with a good smell
- YOU SHOULD KNOW HOW TO COOK. WELL. All the kitchen utensils as well as a good selection of spices.
- A patio with patio furniture
- A grill
- Blender
- George Forman
- Fluffy blanket on the reclining couches
- Extra Pillows
- Pictures of friends
- Sports/City memorabilia (Pictures of big city skyline if you live in one Chicago *Cough*)
- Netflix/Apple TV
- Free Weights
- An Assortment of vitamins, supplements, medicine
- Something healthy to drink
- Bottles of Water
- A handsome large breed Dog (Preferably an sweet obedient pitbull mix named Cooper)
- Condoms
- Herbal Viagras - they can take these two and watch em rip your pants off.
- A nice bowl with some sticky purple koosh

All of these things may not necessarily be for women per se however, I think they are essential to an established bachelor pad built for entertainment and enjoying yourself.
Cosign. This is pretty thorough and accurate.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Lighting is key. Turn off those gross overhead fluorescent and soft lighting and get some warm, low key lamps placed strategically.

You know how people look like crap in the mirror in the bathroom because it's a big array of soft, diffused, cool-colored overhead lights?

Warmer color temperature (more orange/yellow rather than blue/white) is far more flattering on skin tones and in general.

Less diffused, more directional light creates flattering shadows.

Low key (more low to the ground) casts shadows across the face and body rather than lighting from above which blows everything out and makes it look bland.

Keep them dim as well.

For example: compar the lighting of a room like this: http://yololighting.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/Dim-the-Lights.jpg

to this: http://jaipupdate.com/wp-content/up...-on-modern-open-plan-home-interior-design.jpg
 

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Dgwizdal said:
- Baby wipes in the bathroom.
- Magazines on the living room table.
- Martini Shaker
- Coasters
- Lots of booze
- Lots of Shot Glasses
- A bangin sound system
- Nice TV
- XBOX
- A DECK OF CARDS.
- Cards against humanity
- A SAFE
- Candles
- Air Fresheners
- Swiffer
- Vacuum
- Iron
- Starch
- De-Wrinkler
- Laundry Detergent with a good smell
- YOU SHOULD KNOW HOW TO COOK. WELL. All the kitchen utensils as well as a good selection of spices.
- A patio with patio furniture
- A grill
- Blender
- George Forman
- Fluffy blanket on the reclining couches
- Extra Pillows
- Pictures of friends
- Sports/City memorabilia (Pictures of big city skyline if you live in one Chicago *Cough*)
- Netflix/Apple TV
- Free Weights
- An Assortment of vitamins, supplements, medicine
- Something healthy to drink
- Bottles of Water
- A handsome large breed Dog (Preferably an sweet obedient pitbull mix named Cooper)
- Condoms
- Herbal Viagras - they can take these two and watch em rip your pants off.
- A nice bowl with some sticky purple koosh
Great list!

I'd add a crockpot to the mix because it really is a man's best friend. Makes prep so much easier.

Anything you do that you have a passion for and that you can show off a little. Pictures you've painted, glass you've blown (has other uses), a table you made, and of course guitars if you play. Chicks really like artistic guys. And, really, we should all have something creative we do for the soul.

A pool table. It's the sport of kings and she will be your queen if you show her how to shoot a combo.

Horror movies. I like horror as much as the next guy but not as much as the next girl. Women love the stuff so I have several sitting around. They really like anything dealing with the supernatural.
 

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I have a small studio apartment in a very happening town. All I had is a 50" TV, a full size bed, a lounger and a dining room table along with other miscellaneous items for storage. I just made sure that everything is ALWAYS clean. Being the son of a military officer has paid off, since I always make sure that my studio is spic-and-span before leaving in the morning.

You have no idea how many times I've gone from work to happy hours to my place and the last thing I wanted was a messy studio.

Always have clean sheets, clean towels, clean bathroom, clean kitchen.

Condoms.

And please, cold bottles of water. This is usually the #1 request I get.

You don't need much, just the correct attitude and a tidy place.
 

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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In2theGame said:
LoL that apartment could run a very nice shiny penny in NYC but that would be a good players pad.
This shıthole's getting more expensive by the month!
 

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Why not just arrange it how you would for yourself ? It's kind of pathetic doing something with the hope of impressing someone else....
 

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Cerwin Vega speakers. Girls love Cerwin Vega speakers.
 

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I was glad to see a grill get mentioned. I like charcoal better than gas - it's cheaper anyway. It takes practice to get good at grilling. Women are naturally horrible at it, which is why they have to come over to your place for a cookout.

Your bed is very important. A lot of single guys throw a ratty twin mattress in the corner on the floor without any sheets. That's not a bed a woman wants to touch. I just got a queen pillow top I like a lot. The sheets you buy are important. I bought satin sheets for $15. Otherwise, you want the highest thread count you can afford. Stores that sell discount women's clothing, like Ross and TJMax will also sell sheets for cheap.

If you happen to be near a college, the week that the semester ends and students move out will be a gold mine of free stuff for dumpster diving. Usually they just set it next to the dumpster anyway.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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