"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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A piece of advice for dealing with negative situations.

Yoko Kurama

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A situation, as meaning, anything with any conflict between two or more people involved in it. This is how you diffuse it, this can also work with your girlfriend, girl-friends, or anybody else.

*Use empathy to absorb tension.

If someone is mad at you, or some drama happens at school, try to get inside the other persons shoes, and react in a way to the calm the other person down.

Once you understand why they are mad/angry/upset/pissed/sad/depressed, you can help someone.

Ex.If your friend Suzy walked in to Algebra class tomorrow morning, you said "hi" and she doesn't respond, or reacts negatively. Do not think her attitude is fully biased to you. Try to talk to her when you get the chance, once you know the situation, empathize. She will start to relax and become more calm.

This also really helps if you want to make good steps in a relationship.

So, don't jump the gun if you friend is distraught, give him/her the benefit of a doubt. Try to empathize with them.

EDIT:Another thing, imagine yourself saying what the other person said/did, then think why you would say that. This gives a little bit more of an intimate understanding.

Thanks, hope this helps!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What if that person is mad at you?

Would you still suggest talking to them and using empathy or ingore them and give them time to cool off?
 

Yoko Kurama

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That depends on the situations. You should at least make an attempt to talk to them. If they refuse, yes let them "cool off". Then try again later.
 
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