Yoko Kurama
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A situation, as meaning, anything with any conflict between two or more people involved in it. This is how you diffuse it, this can also work with your girlfriend, girl-friends, or anybody else.
*Use empathy to absorb tension.
If someone is mad at you, or some drama happens at school, try to get inside the other persons shoes, and react in a way to the calm the other person down.
Once you understand why they are mad/angry/upset/pissed/sad/depressed, you can help someone.
Ex.If your friend Suzy walked in to Algebra class tomorrow morning, you said "hi" and she doesn't respond, or reacts negatively. Do not think her attitude is fully biased to you. Try to talk to her when you get the chance, once you know the situation, empathize. She will start to relax and become more calm.
This also really helps if you want to make good steps in a relationship.
So, don't jump the gun if you friend is distraught, give him/her the benefit of a doubt. Try to empathize with them.
EDIT:Another thing, imagine yourself saying what the other person said/did, then think why you would say that. This gives a little bit more of an intimate understanding.
Thanks, hope this helps!
*Use empathy to absorb tension.
If someone is mad at you, or some drama happens at school, try to get inside the other persons shoes, and react in a way to the calm the other person down.
Once you understand why they are mad/angry/upset/pissed/sad/depressed, you can help someone.
Ex.If your friend Suzy walked in to Algebra class tomorrow morning, you said "hi" and she doesn't respond, or reacts negatively. Do not think her attitude is fully biased to you. Try to talk to her when you get the chance, once you know the situation, empathize. She will start to relax and become more calm.
This also really helps if you want to make good steps in a relationship.
So, don't jump the gun if you friend is distraught, give him/her the benefit of a doubt. Try to empathize with them.
EDIT:Another thing, imagine yourself saying what the other person said/did, then think why you would say that. This gives a little bit more of an intimate understanding.
Thanks, hope this helps!