A parallel between sosuave and riding a bicycle

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

MetalFortress

Master Don Juan

Sep 2, 2004

This is like training wheels on a bike. What is the purpose of training wheels? With them, you learn how to ride (or at SS, how to be a true man) and get comfortable with it, albeit with some help. Once you are ready, you take the training wheels off, and go out on your own. After awhile you become a natural, and it becomes something you can't forget (riding a bike, or being a man)

But be careful not to use either one as a crutch for too long, or you will become dependent. Get out on your own and carve a path all your own!

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.