MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Translated= how dares being successful and happy while I am not, it should be him to be alone and me pretending to be emphatetic to him while secretly laughting about his condition with my friends and be told that I deserve only the best.I didn't know that men remarried faster than women, this actually surprises me. Considering women usually get over heartbreak quicker, and generally have a larger support system to encourage her to "get back out there".
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Strelok said:Why cant they stop complaining? do they forgot that in our 20s it was us to be forced to compete with other 10 guys for any slightly average girl?
What's wrong they dont like competition when its them to work hard?
They see their self confidence being hurt when their ex husband marry younger women? what about their husband's one when they were engaged and she flirted with the muscular pool guy pretending to dont realizing in his intentions?
I mean you have culture, media and the law working for you, its not so bad if at least nature works for men.
B1tches please stop b1tching
Lol at this line
Translated= how dares being successful and happy while I am not, it should be him to be alone and me pretending to be emphatetic to him while secretly laughting about his condition with my friends and be told that I deserve only the best.
samspade said:But I also imagine that women initiate divorce because they already have Plan B lined up - another guy who floats their boat.Right, and that's another reason I found it so surprising that men remarried first. We're taught here that the woman gets a firm grip on a new branch before releasing the old one. Of course that isn't always true, but it often is. As you say, those new affairs must not pan out as often as they'd like.
Good point.samspade said:So the best laid plans of frustrated wives might not necessarily work out for them. But they've unleashed their husbands, who probably are considered more attractive at 40 than they were at 25 (unlike the wives).[/