"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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a old friend has been flirting with me

CrzyBadBoyDJ

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So, there is this girl that I met online months ago. She's really cool, into videogames and awesome music. She's really funny and has a great sense of humor. She's really nice and gives me things. I was dating someone when we first met so I couldn't go after her. My roommate started talking to her, and they became friends.

She was a virgin at the time, and she was dying for some ****. I could tell. She got a boyfriend because she said she was desperate at the time, and he took her virginity. After that she had sex with my roommate (while still with the other guy, but apparently he was a douche bag).

I had a hard time with this. I really dig this chick. Since then she's told me that she never intended to like my roommate. We joke about us eloping and stuff like that, all the time.

Recently, she's been calling me late at night and telling me about how she wants to make out and the different things that I could do to her to make her goto bed with me. Ya know like "If you kissed the back of my neck, I think we'd have to sleep together".

The other day she called me while I was kinda busy, and told me that she's been looking after this guy that doesn't give her the time of day anymore. She likes him, and he told her that he likes her but he went on a date with some girl and after words texted her saying "I miss you" and she was telling me about how she was all lonely and **** like that.

I asked her if she had any girlfriends that she could tell this **** to because I was too busy and she said nooo. I said, "Tell ya what, call me when you want to come over and I'll make love to you. Guess what? Your it" (phone tag) and then I hung up.

I'm thinking of calling her tomorrow and saying "Hey, I'm really busy right now so I gotta make this quick. Wednesday night I'm off, and I want you to come over and make out with me. You have no choice." but i'm not sure if I should go after her. I'm kinda developing a crush on her.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Oh, she also mentioned that she might just say "Screw guys" and just make out with guys that she thinks are cute, me being one of them. She's told me before that she doesn't want a boyfriend, but I think thats bull****. Then I joked "So, I guess if we're going to make out then I should call up the girls that I've been ****ing lately and tell them that I'm busy for now on" and she said that she doesn't care, that it's not her business and she won't ask. We can make out with other people too. Then I told her that I'm not like that, that when I see someone I see them exclusively. Then she said "Thats good!".


I'm not sure if she's just flirting with me, leading me on, or really wants me or just thinks of me as a friend. But I guess the only way to tell is to go for it, eh?


BTW, she's really ****ing hot. HB9, definately. And she likes Halo.
 

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First things first... Do not use the term "Dating" if you are -ACTUALLY- in a relationship. It is perfectly okay to "Date" many females at a time. "Dates" are times allotted for you to spend with a specific female to get to know them and to get them to open up to you. "Dating" is NOT being exclusive with a specific girl. So, when you say you were "dating" this first girl, you really had no reason not to go on dates with your friend.

Second... if she's calling you and telling you "If you kissed my neck, we'd have to sleep together." what the hell are you waiting for? She couldn't be more obvious than that... wake up and smell the flowers dude. You should've went for it right there... The worst that would've happen is you would've learned that she's just a ****tease, and not worth your time.

Third... we really don't care if she likes Halo...
 

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Thanks for the reply. I probably shoulda used different words. I was in a relationship with that girl, it wasn't just dating. So, I definately couldn't have done anything.
 

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Bumpage.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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