"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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A NORMAL opener?

Demonicale

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Without any gimmicks, without any cheese or opinions or anything like that.

I'm trying to find out which is the best apart from "hey" ... just want something that's normal without a hint of cheese lol.

And to what degree of success do you guys have with it? :)

And yes i've looked over the search and all i find is opinion openers etc ..
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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jglide123

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Really, your opener can be as simple or as creative as you want it to be. The whole PUA scene has duped guys into believing that you need this perfect opener, something that will automatically hook a girl or all hope is lost. In reality, it's more about how you say it rather than the actual words.

If you want to get creative, try opening with something that peeks her interest and gets her talking. That's why opinion openers are so popular; women LOVE giving their opinions on different topics, especially those pertaining to the opposite sex.
 

TheCWord

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My go-to is, "Hey, what's going on?" as if we already know each other. The girl usually stops, if not just to find out if she's supposed to know me from somewhere, and says not much or whatever. Then I just carry on with whatever is relevant to the context of our meet. I usually like to talk to girls on the street, at the park, or on the streetcar. So I'll often follow-up with, "Where ya headed?" Once she tells me where she's off to its pretty easy to build rapport off of that.
 

AlexLefty

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SoSuave666 said:
The best opener is a confident one. Be a sincere, unapologetic dude. You'll live no matter the outcome.
^this. The only reason an opener seems cheesy is because you don't have genuine belief in it. This taints you actions, and girls sense it.

For example: "Who lies more, men or women?" If you're just saying this because you read it somewhere then the question isn't genuine, which means you're not sincere in saying it, which means it comes off as cheesy in your actions.

If it was a genuine question though, it works just as well as anything else.

Listen, it's ALL in delivery. What affects delivery? How genuine you are.
 

VladPatton

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"hi, baby, were your parents demons?, cuz you're hot as hell!"
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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old_skoolr

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It's not the line, but the confidence of yourself.

I've hooked up a girl, going up to her saying "I've seen you before...you played a leading role in my dream"

When your confident & having fun, you can say whatever you want haha
 
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