A newb needs your opinion. (Also,$&!*,my post is sort of long,so thanks for reading)

[RichardLuzT]

Hey peeps. I've just registered here, wanted to polish my knowledge about how not to **** up unintentionally. And I say unintentionally because being a wimp totally works when you want that stalking girl to just leave your **** alone. (You can swear mildly in this forum as long as it isn't insulting, right?)
So, I have had a couple of times to practice being a wuss to girls that seem to like me too much (crazy world) because I really don't have the time to have a serious relationship. Or so I thought.
I think this teacher I have (i'm 22 and she's about 25) is enough of the things I want in a life partner to give up all this "not have enough time" thing and make a go for it.
Semester is just starting but I've felt chemestry between the few interactions we've had. Which isn't saying much because, ****, I mean really really few interactions. Just exchanging glances and a certain incident involving me voluntarily getting a chalkboard eraser she couldn't find by herself and me stealing it from another class :crazy:
Out of curiosity I asked this guy who had class with her, last semester, and she seems to like bad guys. I don't look like a bad boy but I compensate that by having more balls than one of such. Plus, im in a pretty good shape, so if she gets to see underneath all the clean clothes and unassuming figure she will have herself a nice surprise.
What i've been practicing too is being not boring. Since I don't ever get bored this has been particularly challenging. I believe I can be funny sometimes but I still wanted to have more practice with being ****y-funny.
The thing is, I wanted to have some improvements done (finishing my career, bulking a bit more, learning stuff, finding a steady good job) before finding me some good flirt, much less a real-deal.
But I feel she might fit on those shoes, and that I am a good person, if not a complete one.
I haven't found many people that are much intelligent than me on the daily life. Over internet it's another thing; plenty of people who kick my ass on that department in this big place, which doesn't bother me that much. But she, apart of being very cute, is impresively intelligent. She surely surpasses me in knowledge, more than I will get to be on some subjects (we both are sort-of scientists, since our careers on our university share like 70% of the time with math and physics scientists, but i'm not into it as she is, because I have another plan that doesn't need that much knowledge) and I believe she might also top me on intelligence. I respect that and im very humbled by those aspects of her.
Her class is one of the thoughest to pass! and to make it worse I really don't have the background needed to pass it even if she wasn't so demanding. I'm depending on my wits for this, which have served me well in very similar situations on these last semesters. As she was making a quick review of the background we should have for the assignment I was WTFWTFWTF-ing all the time.
Anyway, I couldn't stop thinking about her since she thanked me a couple of times for the forementioned incident about the chalkboard eraser yesterday. I want to know if what I feel is true, to know her better, and if it is, to let her fall for me.
If I fail, it's not so much of a problem for me. Im happy without a partner (notice this is not sex oriented=) and my flexible plans seem to be working pretty good so far. But I don't want to **** this up.

So, if you please, help me with any advice you may have peeps.

I was decided to tell her a plain "go out with me" with a small smile and confident attitude the day after tomorrow, since she only gives class to us 2 days per week. So I just asked a girl, friend of mine, what she would think of it if she was in her shoes; she said that I should play it slower and ask her about homeworks and stuff and finding out if it's not my imagination playing in those glances we shared.
I've never heard of anyone doing that "go out with me" with a teacher before, so that was my main card as of now.
I mean, girls are still impressed by huge balls, right?

 

[Diaforetikos]

YouTou may want to break your post into paragraphs. I'm being nice about it, but the others readers may not be.

You gotta take it slow. Girls don't want to be aware that things are getting sexual. You have to be smooth about it. It's a process.

You need to follow the basic formula: open, attract, qualify, comfort, seduce.

I would explain how these things work but you can easily look them up yourself.


As far as this girl goes, I'd hold off. You don't seem to have the skills to be 'smooth' enough tonot mess it up. Gain some experience and then go back to her.

 

[Accension]

Richard, I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt here, but you seem awfully immature for a 22 year old!

I'm refering to this whole crush-on-the-teacher, get-advice-from-friend, should-I-ask-her-out, hyphen-raping-buisness.

In my experience a lot of teachers can be percieved as flirty but you must understand it's more the teacher-student dynamic.
Heck, entire fetishes are built around it.

Next, don't buy into all of the stuff here.
The sad thing about our information is that it won't be applied correctly until you 'get it' (at which point there's no need for the information).

This, unfortunately means someone reads something like "Don't react." and then every guy suddenly becomes cold as stone trying to apply the advice correctly.

If your teacher is attracted to you, it's because you have a certain youthful flair about you, and at the same time, you're on her level.
Now, if you want to ask her out, this could work against you.

You have to be mature about this.
How you've described things so far kind of seems like a high schooler crushing on his teacher.

If you hope to date her you must meet her at the same level of maturity or she'll feel like she's dating one of her students rather than her date happens to be in her class.

Surely, use the teacher-student dynamic to your advantage but if it isn't more than that she'll feel a huge maturity gap.
Meet her on the same level; say, as two adults who happen to be in the dynamic from coincidence.

As for the balls thing, I suppose so?
Still, your ideas about women are a bit muddled and unrefined.
You'll have to get much worse (by reading the junk here and applying it wrong) before you get better.

 

[RichardLuzT]

Ok guys. So far consensus dictates that:
a)you probably have no sense of humor
b)probably i'm highly immature
c)I should check on the info this community has to offer (for free, no less

For the record, I don't want to get sexual with this girl per se. I'd say i'm interested in her about 35% physically; from the other 65% about 30% I know for sure to be true and the other 35% is what I'd like to find out.

I figured she isn't that much mature herself, so I'd use that primal part of me that I've never used before (that she apparently likes) to win her over and mix it with having fun along the way. Maybe we would "click" and then we could grow up together.

But I think you might be right. If I don't have enough to seem mature at first glance then I most surely am not.

Plus, I'd be a fool if I asked for help and don't take into consideration what cooler heads say.

I'll calm these hormones and assess the situation over time. There is plenty of it to find her again if I realize I was right about it, considering I don't die prematurely and she doesn't hook up with some good fella earlier, which would be a shame xD

Meanwhile I'll give myself time to learn.

Your words have been helpful. Thanks.

Also, she is more like the teacher's aide. But she is actually better than him at the class subjects.

I was going to be a teacher's aide myself by another professor's request (am friends with most of my professors and fellow classmates ^_^) this semster but couldn't due to time constraints, for reference. But, unlike her, I know (instantaneously) squat about the assignment I was set to teach.