"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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A New Beginning (Part 2)

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I feel myself slipping.
I've improved so much last semester, and now I've began to let myself get lazy.
I'm going to make a list of things I want to accomplish like I did at the beginning of the school year.
Here's the link.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=128825&page=2 <--- look at the 2nd to last post.

1. Get above a 3.75 GPA
- I will do that by not procrastinating.
- I will study for tests BEFORE the night before it.
- I will actually read the books and not sparknotes.
- I will do math hw, because just being asian is not enough anymore :)

2. Be State Champ in Breaststroke next year.
- Work my ass off
- lift and eat more to get stronger
- during season I will make every make every practice that i humanly possible.

3. Make All-State in violin
- After I take the Act, I'll practice 1 hour oh weekdays and 2 hours on weekends.
- Get a teacher right after the ACT

4. Get a 30+ on the ACT
- On weekends, Study for more than 2 hours each day on ACT

5. After i'm done with the ACT, i'll ask this girl out that i've began to like
- she might not put out though, cause she used to go to catholic school :box:

On my previous list of goals in the link, I accomplished everything.
But now I want to push myself even further.
I want to become great.
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Crazy Asian said:
On my previous list of goals in the link, I accomplished everything.
But now I want to push myself even further.
I want to become great.
How did you feel about accomplishing your previous goals?
 

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Try to use the analogy to building momentum, and making great strides in improvement, and growth, as Waves of the ocean.

It is difficult to make progress every day.
But it can be done.

It takes tremendous amounts of Self Discipline, and patience, delayed gratification, and tremendous Emotional Strength.

At 16 it's ok to not have that much of this stuff.


It's important to have your shrot term goals in mind, and your long term goals.
And keep your life in balance.
You need to pay attention to Balance and Harmony.

The Physical Realm

The Mental/emotional Realm

The Spirtiual Realm

In this core fundamnetial state of Well Being, and balance and harmony, you fit into your life the social aspects, and nurturing friendships and relationships.
You also find resources and oportuities to SHARE your resources, your wealth, and GIVE BACK to others.


This is where you get the emotional strength training, and self discipline training.

Every day is training.
Life is combat.
Life IS a forced March.


You may want to look into meditiation and trance states.





But remember, that you will see explosions of growth and then you may plateau.

You need to be strong emotionally to handle these plateaus...
That is where the self discipline really kicks in.

Remember, these growth spurts come in waves.
But if you get addicted to the waves 'highs', you feel the 'lows' a little too hard..
Be careful of that trap.
 

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reset said:
How did you feel about accomplishing your previous goals?
It went by so fast, that I couldn't even describe how I did it.
Things just got better and better, and before I knew it, i reached my goals.

I didn't realize what i was doing during until I looked back at the thread I made, and I was like : wow, I actually accomplished everything.

I didn't really have to go over my goals everyday.
I just basically tried harder in everything and became passionate about my life.
The goals accomplished themselves.
 

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krazyboy99 said:
good goals, seems like they're mostly academic/athletic though. you don't have any goals related to improving your social life?
I've already accomplished most of my social goals.
More friends and girls would be nice, but on weekends, when get invited to hang out or something, I usually just stay home and do my own thing.

The weekdays are so intense for me that i just need time to do the things I enjoy by myself.

I mean, i do enjoy hanging out with my friends, but I love just relaxing by myself.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Interceptor said:
Try to use the analogy to building momentum, and making great strides in improvement, and growth, as Waves of the ocean.

It is difficult to make progress every day.
But it can be done.

It takes tremendous amounts of Self Discipline, and patience, delayed gratification, and tremendous Emotional Strength.

At 16 it's ok to not have that much of this stuff.


It's important to have your shrot term goals in mind, and your long term goals.
And keep your life in balance.
You need to pay attention to Balance and Harmony.

The Physical Realm

The Mental/emotional Realm

The Spirtiual Realm

In this core fundamnetial state of Well Being, and balance and harmony, you fit into your life the social aspects, and nurturing friendships and relationships.
You also find resources and oportuities to SHARE your resources, your wealth, and GIVE BACK to others.


This is where you get the emotional strength training, and self discipline training.

Every day is training.
Life is combat.
Life IS a forced March.


You may want to look into meditiation and trance states.





But remember, that you will see explosions of growth and then you may plateau.

You need to be strong emotionally to handle these plateaus...
That is where the self discipline really kicks in.

Remember, these growth spurts come in waves.
But if you get addicted to the waves 'highs', you feel the 'lows' a little too hard..
Be careful of that trap.
I think i get what your saying.
Right now would be a "low" for me cause I don't feel as good as before, and don't seem to be getting anywhere.
That's why I made this thread.
 

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Crazy Asian said:
Right now would be a "low" for me cause I don't feel as good as before, and don't seem to be getting anywhere.
This is why I asked. Our goals give us a sense of accomplishement, and increase our self-worth, but don't make the mistake that your goals ARE your self-worth. Take some time to appreciate yourself for what you have accomplished. If you put TOO MUCH pressure on yourself, then you'll never appreciate what you're accomplishing, what you're going through. Sounds like you've got some good successes under your belt, so give yourself props. Accept and appreciate yourself for where you are in the journey, right now.
 

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Short Term Goal:

Get a 30+ on ACT.

If I do, my parents will buy me a new violin. (we're kinda poor)
My last one was stolen.
You can't imagine how much I want this right now.

I truly do not give a f*ck about what else happens.
I have one month, and I'm going to study my ass off.
If my social life goes down the drain, then so be it.

Mon-Thurs : 1.5 hours of problems, .5 hours of speed reading.
Fri-Sun : I'll take an entire practice test + going over every problem that I got wrong.

I'm not going out of the house until April 12th.

On top of this,
i'll be practicing violin (my crappy rental) for .5 hours Mon- Thurs.

and Fri-Sun: 2-3 hours.

I't s a sh1t load plus the heavy amount of school work that I've accumulated.
I have 2 tests to study for, a sh1t load of make-up work and an Essay.

I know I can do it.:rockon:
 
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