"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Crazy Asian said:
gahh today was not so good

my problem is that i don't know how to start a convo with a GROUP of people.

so today, at lunch, i sat down around these really popular guys/girls
and they were all laughing around and having fun and i was just sitting there like an idiot. i literally didn't say a word and just sat there. i was so scared. i had NO IDEA what they were talking about. what would you do in a situation like this?

should i just avoid groups and have 1v1 convos?

Start a conversation with one of them outside of the lunchroom....then when you go to lunch you can continue the convo there. Then maybe that person can introduce you to some of the other people at the table.:up:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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When you approach a group, engage everybody. Eye contact with every person, interested or not, is very important, b/c generally if you lose 1 you lose them all, IMO groups are overrated in difficulty, its actually rly easy to do, opinion openers are the best for a group b/c everybody has and opinion and they usually conflict, giving everybody something to talk about. Hope that helps and keep it up dude.
 

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thx guys

wuts a good convo topic besides sports?

right now, i think i'm actually way better at talking to girls than guys.... hmm
 
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Pop culture stuff is always a good bet. You know, popular tv shows, or you could describe a funny video you saw on the internet. You know, stuff people will be able to relate to.
 

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gahhh ty guys
i've been hanging out with the same group of people for so long that i forgot how to make basic convo.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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f*ck guys, i'm loosing it. I feel so horrible right now. It started out great, but my confidence is going down the drain fast. I have suck a Fvcking hard time jsut going up to people and saying hi.

like i sit down at a table with 3-4 other guys, and i have nothing to say. they are talking and laughing but i just sit there and do nothing.

plz verbally abuse me to get me outta this sh1t.
 

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Engage yourself in their conversation, you b!tch!

hey you can do this, how conceptually hard is it to talk to people?
it's nothing at all, you just gotta show some interest in joining their conversation, say something.. even if you think it's stupid say it, it doesn't mean other people will think it's stupid.

Be yourself and have some fun talking to some cool people that you'll meet.
Trust yourself, you've talked to people before, so you can definitely do it again and again as many times as you want!
 

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Crazy Asian said:
Heres my list of self improvements i want to make:
1. Get a 3.75+ GPA
2. Get at least a couple of girls to like me
3. I want to be more social
4. I want to make state for swimming
5. I want to be at least somewhat popular

Can anyone give me a few last minute tips on popularity in highschool?
I know basically what to do, but a reminder is good.
1. accomplished
2. accomplished
3. accomplished
4. at this rate, i'll deff. get there by the end of season.
5. MUCH better than before, but still getting there......but now, i really don't feel the need to become popular.
 

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Crazy Asian said:
ooo i know what else i should do.
sometime this week, i'll post a pic of my body
and as i work out more, i'll post a new pic every month or 2
that'll be fun.
Deadlift
Squat
Bench
and
Protein
 

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Heres my list of self improvements i want to make:
1. Get a 3.75+ GPA
2. Get at least a couple of girls to like me
3. I want to be more social
4. I want to make state for swimming
5. I want to be at least somewhat popular



Just decided to update this ancient thread.
1. now i have a 3.82 GPA
2. I've got a few girls attracted to me, but i really don't have time for a relationship
3. Now, every weekend i got stuff to do, and sometimes have to choose which group of people to hang out with.
4. I made state in swimming. I'm the 2nd fastest on the team now :)
5. I've now realized that i don't really want to become popular. I'm actually happy now. Life feels so easy now and I actually look forward to the next day.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Wow great improvements. Reminds me of myself :p
 
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