"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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A Metaphor for Rejection

BeyondCharm

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Rejection is part of that process to becoming great at any activity you choose in life. To become the best, you must overcome.


The metaphor is this: Rejection is like friction between a runners shoes and the track as he completes the 100meter dash for the win in the olympics. He who has experienced the most rejection (practice) will be more likely to win the gold. It's just part of the race.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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mikeyb

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Umm...not really. See, the runner doesn't feel the friction, that's what the shoes are for. But everyone feels rejection at least a little, even the guys who claim they've numbed themselves to it.
 

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mikeyb said:
Umm...not really. See, the runner doesn't feel the friction, that's what the shoes are for. But everyone feels rejection at least a little, even the guys who claim they've numbed themselves to it.
Instead of friction, perhaps the word resistance would be choicer.
 

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Your point is not lost BC.

I think you have an important message for a lot of the DJ's in training.

It does get easier. It goes away quicker on most occasions, as you experience it more. And the best part is, you learn not to care what others think-you start to take more chances, and not dwell on silly "what ifs" and possible consequences.

I hooked up with girl about 4 days ago (I just mentioned her in another post). I'd say an HB7 (the fake DD boobs were nice). Met her online, went to her place, and she gave me a killer BJ, but wasn't ready for sex.

I wasn't head over heals, but she would have made a decent plate. Today she starts telling me some sh1t about how her ex husband of two years is giving her grief and being jealous, and she doesn't think it's fair that anyone should have to deal with the drama. Also, her Aunt died suddenly two days ago (at a fairly young age).

She could just be under stress, but the part about the ex husband sounds like BS, like she's not interested and trying to make excuses. I don't know most women to be this concerned about the welfare of others, if something they really want is at stake-IOW, if she was truly interested, she wouldn't care about what she was dragging me into. Time will tell which scenario is was.

The point is, it took me about 5 minutes to get over it. Maybe a year ago, I would have been bummed out for a few days. Not anymore. There's plenty more out there.
 
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Rejection is like the negative feedback that keeps an automatic missle on course. The negative feedback guides you and you can't correct your course without it.
When ever you learn anything and practice it, your brain records only the successful responses because of the positive feelings that you relay it with to your subconscious. When you practice throwing horseshoes, you miss more than you make it, but you don't get better at missing; you get better at making your mark. The positivity makes it stick. It's good to get rejected because it re-positions you in the right direction.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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