"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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a messed up situation

smorgan

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Hi I'm somewhat new to this board. I actually started reading this site about 4 years ago, but never really posted. I'm a lurker--sorry. I used to read this site a lot when I was younger but I guess I grew away from it. I still come back from time to time.

But anyways I came back here because I think I have somewhat of a messed up situation, and I find it easier to talk to complete strangers than close friends or family.

So I'll get on with the story already.

I decided to have this party at my house the other night and it was just your regular party. I had people over, we drank, played beer pong, the usual thing. As the night wore on people started going to sleep and this chick was sleeping in my bed. So I decided I didn't mind if she was there, I would just go to sleep with her. I honestly didn't have any intentions of doing anything with her since I was pretty damn drunk. It turned out though, that one thing led to another, and before long we were ****ing. All was going well, but out of nowhere she just kind of stopped and told me to stop. She started to cry and said that she had a boyfriend. Although I didn't want to, I let her go.

One of my best friends takes her with him. He ends up ****ing her too.

Now just so you people have a little bit of history to better understand, I'll tell you a few key bits of information. This was my first time, before this I was a virgin. I've known this girl for probably a few years. I always thought she was hot, and there was some attraction I felt between us, but nothing ever happened. I also knew she had a boyfriend but didn't let that stop me.

The situation is messing with me because I don't know what to think of it. I honestly think she was probably just drunk and horny, and nothing more will probably come from this. But goddamnit I want to do it again. I left her a message and she left me one saying she would call me back, but hasn't yet. So DJ's give me your thoughts, please. Any chance of me getting with her again or should I just let it go?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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spider_007

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your lucky you and your buddy don't get charged with rape. YOU DON'T MESS WITH DRUNK CHICK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IS THAT UNDERSTOOD. IT'S A SURE WAY OF MESSING UP THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.....YOUR DRUNK, SHE IS DRUNK, YOU FORGET A CONDOM........

Leave her alone, she is probably regreting all of it.......
 

Sasha

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1. she had a bf.
2. she is a slut.

personaly I like sluts, who cheat on they bf's with me :D

If you just wanna f_ck her and she wants it too. Do it.
If you like her or something. Let go!!
 

flexion_

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I'm with spider on this one - you jumped in bed with a drunk chick just because you wanted to go to sleep? Come on - be honest with yourself and us.

I would imagine she regretted the whole situation and you did take advantage of it IMO. I'd walk away from this one.
 
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