A mental note to myself...FWB/Oneitis Mix

[JohnChops]

A mental note to myself and that note being fvck girls you have oneitis for, drop them completely, oneitis never goes away if you keep having to see the b1tch. I had a FWB thing going on with my oneitis girls friend and then she started getting really attached, like she has wedding plans and she keeps telling other girls im off limits because im hers until we get married in ten years ..... who the fvck does this? This girl is insane.

Even worse, having an FWB thing with her makes me have to see my oneitis girl even more often then I want too. I had to give her , her sweatshirt back today and in the library she was like"come help me study blah blah blah" So like a fvcking dumbass I went and we talked instead of studied, go figure. I honestly want to kick myself in the a$$ sometimes, I didnt even want to see the b1tch because I knew what it would bring up in my mind , and it did! Stupid thoughts of me and her. She kept telling me "oh this guy called me at 3am, my friend wanted me to start talking to this guy, blah blah different guys " Then she kept hinting at me going to places with her "Oh I want to go to the trail of terror, I have no one to go with" "Im going to this concert with friendsname you should take her instead" . Like what is wrong with this girl?

To be honest id rather dump her friend, the one im having sex with, because its not worth dealing with both of them. They are both fvcking retarded I swear. The sex does not out weigh the damage to my thoughts that my oneitis girl causes.

So I guess the only way to proceed is to drop oneitis girls friend and minimize seeing/speaking/thinking about oneitis girl. I mean god damn its been a year and a half and im still having these thoughts about her? How is that even possible. Freaking ridiculous man, how do these thoughts even stay in my head after a year and a half, they should be gone but they arent.

Everyone who ever says "you can have your oneitis girl after you improve" IS FVCKING LYING TO YOU AND NEVER FOLLOW THAT TERRIBLE ADVICE. EVER. PERIOD. RE-READ 10 FVCKING TIMES UNTIL IT IS STUCK IN YOUR HEAD. She fvcked with your head and you want her back because you "improved" are you kidding me? Why , so she can break you again?

Bottom line : drop oneitis girl forever and even her friends if it means you will see/think of her less, no matter how much sex your getting.

 

[youngmack]

Same boat as me bro . It's been one plus year and I'm still not over her. Only difference is I have to see her everyday cause she sits right near me in class

 

[JohnChops]

Same boat as me bro . It's been one plus year and I'm still not over her. Only difference is I have to see her everyday cause she sits right near me in class

ouch man, how are you other options looking?

Sucks you have to see her everyday in class, that makes it worse. Id block her out if possible. I dont understand why it takes so long to get over someone

 

[youngmack]

Actually i took a break off from girls for a while to do me and work on me and stuff. But this oneitis is KILLING me slowly bro

 

[JohnChops]

Actually i took a break off from girls for a while to do me and work on me and stuff. But this oneitis is KILLING me slowly bro

Thats good to hear man, the path to self improvement . I feel you man, maybe you should hop back into the game with new girls? Itll give you a distraction, but honestly ive tried this and i still think about her -___-. Hows the improvement going though?

 

[youngmack]

Not really any progress. Because i have a fear of public speaking and presenting in front of a class or crowd especially in school but i don't even know how to get rid of this fear.

 

[Albatross953]

Public speaking gets easier fast, the more you do it. Tell yourself you own that room and its great for your confidence. For oneitis when you find the cure you let me know. You just get on with things and do what you can do.