A man's horniness vs a woman's horniness

[The Duke]

The best sex I ever had was a month long affair with a married woman.

How many women have you had sex with?

 

[GoodMan32]

How many women have you had sex with?

I've had sex with 9 free broads (which, for the purposes of this forum, only the free ones count)

 

[Vanderdonck]

I haven't been lucky enough to find this plethora of broads looking for casual sex.

Lol that's too bad. Women are sex obsessed maniacs. Not saying they chase me specifically. They are out there tho.

 

[GoodMan32]

Lol that's too bad. Women are sex obsessed maniacs. Not saying they chase me specifically. They are out there tho.

You aren't the only man I've heard say that. I recall another man complaining about the broads he knows being too frisky with him.

I replied along the lines of "And that's something you're complaining about?!? I'd love it if they were that eager to give me sex"

 

[GoodMan32]

That's not complaining, doofus. That's 'humblebragging'.

My point still stands.

The fact broads have a track record of coming up with excuses to get out of giving me sex contradicts the apparent horniness of the female population.

 

[Clockwerk50]

My point still stands.

The fact broads have a track record of coming up with excuses to get out of giving me sex contradicts the apparent horniness of the female population.

You're a really negative dude. You're the perfect example of the "You must be really fun at parties" joke.

Also, your tendency to focus on yourself and your failures instead of contributing something valuable to the forum is unhelpful.

 

[Pandora]

Men have much higher desire for sex than women due to the presence of testosterone in our bodies. Our testosterone levels are 12-17 times higher than that of a woman. Even lower testosterone men are hornier than women.

Men might also appear less selective for sexual opportunity (as @GoodMan32 points out) because of the presence of testosterone.

Rollo Tomassi wrote a good article about this back in 2011.

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Yes exactly. I dont know why this is still debatable. Trans women that transition to "men" have written about how intense their sex drive was after that first dose of hormonal (testosterone) treatment was. One said that she found herself just staring at womans butts on the subway and did not know why lol.

Older women on HRT ( hormonal replacement therapy) have said the same thing. One women on camera basically said she understands why men cheat. She said men are fighting a different battle. She also said that after the first doses of testosterone she caught herself checking out many more random guys. That never happened before. I can show you the video if you dont believe me.

Men are WAAAAYYYY hornier. If women were as horny as men nothing in this world would get done. Everyone would be having sex all the time even the ugly dudes would be having sex all the time with the hottest girls.

 

[Pandora]

When I read the thread title I remembered this conversation from years ago:

- You used to be a very shy girl. Who would´ve thought you would turn into a sex addict?

- Im not addicted to sex. Im addicted to you.

This is good.

 

[Pandora]

The best sex I ever had was a month long affair with a married woman.

You dont feel any guilt or shame banging a married woman? Im not judging but I had to stop messing around ( not banging) this married chick. I felt like karma was going to get me one day. I also felt bad for the guy.

 

[Vanderdonck]

My point still stands.

The fact broads have a track record of coming up with excuses to get out of giving me sex contradicts the apparent horniness of the female population.

Perhaps it's something you're doing that is turning them off?

 

[LTG71]

There are some exceptions to these rules.

I'm a man who isn't even 35, yet I often am too exhausted for sex (even too exhausted for sex with myself)

I had a constantly flirtatious (and constantly skin-showing) 60 year old female coworker at one point. Ovulation certainly wasn't why she acted like that (hehehe)

These are not rules but observations. Lol, watch out for those cougars. If she was young and hot, I’d put money down that would have more energy.

 

[GoodMan32]

You're a really negative dude. You're the perfect example of the "You must be really fun at parties" joke.

Also, your tendency to focus on yourself and your failures instead of contributing something valuable to the forum is unhelpful.

Chicken and the egg. I became negative as a result of my failures.

I contribute when possible. But when your track record is as bad as mine, you're not exactly in a position to give advice to others in most cases.

 

[GoodMan32]

Yes exactly. I dont know why this is still debatable. Trans women that transition to "men" have written about how intense their sex drive was after that first dose of hormonal (testosterone) treatment was. One said that she found herself just staring at womans butts on the subway and did not know why lol.

Older women on HRT ( hormonal replacement therapy) have said the same thing. One women on camera basically said she understands why men cheat. She said men are fighting a different battle. She also said that after the first doses of testosterone she caught herself checking out many more random guys. That never happened before. I can show you the video if you dont believe me.

Men are WAAAAYYYY hornier. If women were as horny as men nothing in this world would get done. Everyone would be having sex all the time even the ugly dudes would be having sex all the time with the hottest girls.

The story about checking out backsides on the subway reminds me of that time when a member on this forum (I forget who) said workplace policies against checking out/flirting with coworkers are stupid...Because such policies contradict human nature. It's human nature for a man to check a woman out, no matter how many rules a feminist HR director makes against it.

Horniness is a definitely a factor in why men cheat. There's more to it though. Since it's a lot harder for a man to get sex than for a woman to get sex, a lot of men feel like they aren't in a position to turn down sex. If a man is in a relationship, yet isn't getting sex from the woman, he'll likely take an affair if offered. I say this as a guy who cheated the very next day after I started dating a girl once.

Many a woman worships her vibrator. That's one key difference. For a woman, masturbation is often more enjoyable than sex (the opposite is true for men). Therefore, a lot of broads satisfy their sex drive through a vibrator (rather than sex)

 

[GoodMan32]

You dont feel any guilt or shame banging a married woman? Im not judging but I had to stop messing around ( not banging) this married chick. I felt like karma was going to get me one day. I also felt bad for the guy.

No, I don't feel guilty, nor do I feel any shame.

Even though he never officially found out about our affair (as far as I know), he was in no position to complain. The woman never would have cheated in the first place if it weren't for the inhumanely long dry spell he subjected her to.

 

[GoodMan32]

Perhaps it's something you're doing that is turning them off?

I guess you're turning them off with your behaviour. Especially if you say women check you out but become disinterested.

The fact I'm on the spectrum undoubtedly plays a big role.

 

[GoodMan32]

These are not rules but observations. Lol, watch out for those cougars. If she was young and hot, I’d put money down that would have more energy.

One time that flirtatious, 60 year old, skin-showing coworker socialized with me after work. At a venue a mere mile from where I live. Yet we never had sex (which pisses me off).

She could act flirtatious and handsy in the office, yet wouldn't invite herself over my place when she had a perfect opportunity to.

 

[GoodMan32]

Yes, but how much. A spectrum represents a gliding scale. Some autism is barely noticeable, others go 'full retard'. So are you able to somewhat mask your autism or are you clearly autistic? And if you're clearly autistic, how does it show?

My case of ASD is mild.

When one has severe autism, it typically shows in their appearance. A few forum members have privately seen what I look like. I remember asking one if I "look" like I'm on the spectrum (based on appearance alone). He said no.

With how mild my case is, I mask it pretty well.

My ASD mainly manifests itself in a few ways:

• Difficulty reading a woman's cues
• Lack of understanding of social norms
• Hard time relating to others
• Ritualistic behavior
• I hate uncertainty
• Not a party animal (not even when I was a teen)

If anything, the fact my case is mild is somewhat of a curse. Since I'm not clearly autistic to the outside world, they see no reason for me to possess the oddities I possess (which leads to the woman getting freaked out).

Not that being clearly autistic would be any better (in fact, my luck with the ladies would be worse if I was clearly autistic). But at least if I was clearly autistic, the outside world would know to expect oddities from me.

 

[GoodMan32]

You don't appear unintelligent. Most of your autistic behaviours, like 'difficulty reading a woman's cues' and 'lack of understanding of social norms' (which are issues a lot of non-autistic man struggle with) can be 'solved' by approaching it intellectually by studying human behaviour.

There are plenty of books on (non-)verbal communication, body language, love languages, female fantasy life, and other things that could help you to overcome these behaviours.

Other traits/behaviour: not being a 'party animal' is not a problem; the last thing you want to date is a party girl if you're not a party animal yourself, so you don't need to go clubbing to find yourself a girlfriend.

Good to know about the books.

I mentioned the party animal thing because partying is one of the go-to methods men use to get a woman (but as you indicated, getting with a party girl would be miserable for me)

 

[Pandora]

Horniness is a definitely a factor in why men cheat. There's more to it though. Since it's a lot harder for a man to get sex than for a woman to get sex, a lot of men feel like they aren't in a position to turn down sex. If a man is in a relationship, yet isn't getting sex from the woman, he'll likely take an affair if offered. I say this as a guy who cheated the very next day after I started dating a girl once.

Yes this is very true. I agree. This is 50% of the reason I cheat/cheated. I realize how scarce sex with attractive women is. I was not about to turn down an opportunity.

 

[LTG71]

One time that flirtatious, 60 year old, skin-showing coworker socialized with me after work. At a venue a mere mile from where I live. Yet we never had sex (which pisses me off).

She could act flirtatious and handsy in the office, yet wouldn't invite herself over my place when she had a perfect opportunity to.

She got the attention she was looking for and then remembered she was late for her knitting class. You’re thinking, skin, flirty, handsy = bj in the parking lot. She’s thinking, skin, flirty, handsy = tools to garner male time and attention.