"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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A Man's Ability to Screen and NEXT

oOh Nasty

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I've seen seemingly natural and charming men turned into rubble because of their inability to not catch the feels from these h0s.

Once you've come to a certain point, it becomes less about how to increase her attraction and more about figuring out whether that p*ssy is worth all the trouble.

I don't even want to hear about game tactics anymore or "things that men should do to make women like them." At my age, I want to know if my investment of time will yield a decent return. But I think it has less to do with my age and more to do with the fact that women have it easier than ever, especially via social media, to put themselves in positions to be pedestalized by just about everyone. Not to say I wouldn't give a social media wh0re a chance if she's cute, but her chances would be extremely slim.

I'll text a girl the same night I get her number. I'd like to cut through the bullsh*t. If she doesn't respond in the way that I like, I'll gracefully bow out with no regrets. If I'm dating a girl and find that she's causing more drama than I'd like, or if for some reason (caused by myself or her) she's been withdrawing, then I'll release her.

Having discernment in what you'll put up with is end-game. Abundance can be achieved by letting go.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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With one woman, without any external factors? I would say that it doesn't - to be honest.

This is more about yourself, than them.

If you don't want any nonsense, simply get rid.
I actually meant, my mindset in general has become that of "is it worth it?" instead of "how can I get that?"

But I don't agree with only filtering for definite 'yes girls'.

I like to game the 'maybe girls' (which are the vast majority). That involves a less rigid approach.
The 'maybe girls' are still good game to me. But I'll still give myself a pretty good benefit of the doubt. Maybes are pretty good for me, as long as she's showing up where I tell her to show up and she's making escalation easy.
 
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You are absolutely right, there's a common progression if you've started from the bottom. The bottom being to want women and being unable to attract any, the starting point is desperation. From that point it's good to learn game and start off by attracting any woman, both to gain experience and kill the desperation.

The desperation is most often killed after having attracted some women and then had some negative experience with it. At this point a realization occurs, that any woman isn't good enough. This must be realized to proceed further in dealing with the other sex and relationships with them, which you now have.

So the focus switches from trying to make any woman like you into trying to find one you like. It gets more difficult at this stage because many you'll not like and some of those you like don't like you that way.

It was at that point I gave up and re-aligned my goals, it was becoming more work than it was worth. I thought deeply about what the fvcking point was, why I was doing it and what I really wanted to achieve. I wanted good feelings, good times and fun. Spending so much time and energy hunting for a good woman wasn't fun, it was exhausting.

If I was looking for a woman to have a good time and while doing so I didn't have a good time, then what I was doing defeated the purpose of it.

Then came the realization that having a good time is more important than having a woman, it's also very possible to have fun without one. This is the final stage, don't let women threaten the good times. I do what makes me happy, with or without them.

That was the key for me to find a good one, to not look for it and let the moment guide me towards good feelings. So I met a woman, one thing naturally lead to the next and the dates went a lot differently from any previous ones. I didn't worry about my part anymore, my mind was occupied with interacting with and observing her. One red flag and she would be game over, I would forget about it all and continue to be absorbed in life.

However, not only was there a lack of red flags, she went well beyond my expectations. She is now a close part of my life, we have fun together. Life is better with her, but me talking to a single guy I'd say it's not worth sacrificing your present happiness.

Don't find a woman to have fun, instead have fun and the woman finds you.
 
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Once you've come to a certain point, it becomes less about how to increase her attraction and more about figuring out whether that p*ssy is worth all the trouble.
The way I see it, getting pvssy shouldn't come with consequences. You're fvcking a hot broad, but she acts like a bytch when she doesn't get her way. Fvck that, my hand doesn't act like a bytch. The woman I'm fvcking needs to be almost as low-maintenance as masturbation. I can fvck my hand, get the same pleasure, and not have to deal with bull5hit.

I don't even want to hear about game tactics anymore or "things that men should do to make women like them."
I've already internalised all that. I go out, have fun, interact with women, and have myself a good time without the goal of getting laid. Women end up throwing themselves into my lap. The longer I don't date them, the better I can screen them. If they treat me decent and pursue me for a lengthy amount of time, then I'm more than happy to consider them.

I'm all about being at the top of their high score list. To me, that is the #1 priority when it comes to having a woman in my life. If I'm at the top, she's going to treat me well and remain loyal. A good companion who follows you and supports you in everything you do is much rarer than that hot broad you want to stick your d1ck into.

Then came the realization that having a good time is more important than having a woman, it's also very possible to have fun without one. This is the final stage, don't let women threaten the good times. I do what makes me happy, with or without them.

That was the key for me to find a good one, to not look for it and let the moment guide me towards good feelings. So I met a woman, one thing naturally lead to the next and the dates went a lot differently from any previous ones. I didn't worry about my part anymore, my mind was occupied with interacting with and observing her. One red flag and she would be game over, I would forget about it all and continue to be absorbed in life.

However, not only was there a lack of red flags, she went well beyond my expectations. She is now a close part of my life, we have fun together. Life is better with her, but me talking to a single guy I'd say it's not worth sacrificing your present happiness.

Don't find a woman to have fun, instead have fun and the woman finds you.
This is a perfect summary of how I conduct myself. Have a good time and women will follow. Pick the ones who could potentially compliment your life.
 

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I've seen seemingly natural and charming men turned into rubble because of their inability to not catch the feels from these h0s.

Once you've come to a certain point, it becomes less about how to increase her attraction and more about figuring out whether that p*ssy is worth all the trouble.

I don't even want to hear about game tactics anymore or "things that men should do to make women like them." At my age, I want to know if my investment of time will yield a decent return. But I think it has less to do with my age and more to do with the fact that women have it easier than ever, especially via social media, to put themselves in positions to be pedestalized by just about everyone. Not to say I wouldn't give a social media wh0re a chance if she's cute, but her chances would be extremely slim.

I'll text a girl the same night I get her number. I'd like to cut through the bullsh*t. If she doesn't respond in the way that I like, I'll gracefully bow out with no regrets. If I'm dating a girl and find that she's causing more drama than I'd like, or if for some reason (caused by myself or her) she's been withdrawing, then I'll release her.

Having discernment in what you'll put up with is end-game. Abundance can be achieved by letting go.
Not that you were fishing for compliments but 'good for you'. I wish more men thought this way. This is exactly how dating should be played. I say this because I get the rubble of what these women do. After so many beatings, I get treated as if I am going to run the same BS. It's exhausting. I always feel like I have to prove myself to not be a manipulator.

Abundance CAN be achieved by letting go. Raise your standards and the universe will raise the quality of people coming into your life.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Then don't try to disprove it. If women ask you if you are a playa say "yes. I like lots of women in my life"
What they might actually be asking is 'are other women interested in you?" This is some crazy aphrodisiac for women. If other women are interested in you then they should be as well.
 

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I've seen seemingly natural and charming men turned into rubble because of their inability to not catch the feels from these h0s.

Once you've come to a certain point, it becomes less about how to increase her attraction and more about figuring out whether that p*ssy is worth all the trouble.

I don't even want to hear about game tactics anymore or "things that men should do to make women like them." At my age, I want to know if my investment of time will yield a decent return. But I think it has less to do with my age and more to do with the fact that women have it easier than ever, especially via social media, to put themselves in positions to be pedestalized by just about everyone. Not to say I wouldn't give a social media wh0re a chance if she's cute, but her chances would be extremely slim.

I'll text a girl the same night I get her number. I'd like to cut through the bullsh*t. If she doesn't respond in the way that I like, I'll gracefully bow out with no regrets. If I'm dating a girl and find that she's causing more drama than I'd like, or if for some reason (caused by myself or her) she's been withdrawing, then I'll release her.

Having discernment in what you'll put up with is end-game. Abundance can be achieved by letting go.
Im exactly on your same page.

I find myself dropping girls because of the cost/benefit ratio more and more often, if I feel that its either too much hassle or not enough chances to match the necessary time and effort I simply drop it.

Especially after I got wanking sessions more pleasable than sex with certain girls in my life, try to imagine what those girls were able to provide.

If more guys were to behave like us, the price and demands would critically drop to an agreeable point.
 

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Yup.. If men stopped tolerating crappy behaviour and validating worthless women just to get laid then the sexual market place might be better.
The problem is that there are so many low value desperate men who will put up with anything to get some or say they have a girlfriend. Until they grow a pair women will never need to work on improving themselves.
 

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I like your kung fu. No tricks, no gimmicks... just be awesome, have fun, and girls will flock.
 

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Yup.. If men stopped tolerating crappy behaviour and validating worthless women just to get laid then the sexual market place might be better.
The problem is that there are so many low value desperate men who will put up with anything to get some or say they have a girlfriend. Until they grow a pair women will never need to work on improving themselves.
This is 100% true. Women no longer have to cook, clean, or look presentable. They don't have to qualify themselves because they know they qualify simply because they're female and have a vagina. They get used to not having to qualify themselves because men throw themselves at their feet. When these women encounter a man they deem high quality, they're completely lost on how to qualify themselves for him because they've never been taught to do so and never had to do it. Their mothers no longer teach them that they have to find a good man. Instead, they're taught to be strong, independent women which eventually bites them in the ass when they're too old and ugly to attract ANY decent men.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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