playerette
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FIrst I want y ou to understand my situation.
sorry about the length.
I know that we can be honest on this forum, and I do not mean to sound conceited but, I get what I want. For the most part I'd like to believe that it isn't just because of my looks, but because I know how to converse with people, and, from a very young age, have been able to reverse the roles when it comes to relationships with men.
Truly, men can be easily if not more manipulated than women. It's just that men and women have a different test in life. As Dave Chapelle said, "A woman's test in life is material. A man's test in life, is a woman."
But I have a serious problem that I can NOT find a solution to.
This guy and I met while he had a girlfriend, and within the first month of meeting, texting, you know just introductory flirting, they broke up. I did not directly instigate anything... on purpose. Anyway, him and that girl were extremely on and off the next six months. I don't know why he broke up with her, and if it was for me, he did not do a very good job of showing it. Clearly though, I could see he was whipped by this chick, and could NOT shake her no matter how hard he tried to ignore her.
Though I knew he was still communicating with her we would still talk, I would work my **** on him and he would eat it up. To me it didn't matter if he was taken or not, I just wanted his piece... badly. It's not often that I would spend so much time on any particular person.... but ever since I laid eyes on him I KNEW I wanted to hook up with him. My mistake here was simple: I did NOT have enough time to do what I wanted with him. I know that I should have tried to clear my schedule, or make room for a hook up with him, but the truth is I was so focused on other people, family, my life, my job, my well being. We would constantly try to chill, and I was the one that could not. Though I know he is not a player whatsoever, I know that he must have thought MY interest level plummeted, and that I was just another chick just texting him. I decided to keep him on the backburner, after all, this was my mistake. And the next day I forgot about him.
This was a year ago. Throughout that time and now he would randomly contact me, sometimes I would respond, sometimes I wouldn't, you know. But recently we were invited to the same pool party, and just hit it off like crazy. It was a party and I could read by his body language and the things he was saying to me that he was the jealous type, asking me immediately if I was texting other guys, and looking at me if I would talk to other guys at this party. Later that night, we found ourselves alone in the pool. We were literally all over each other in the pool, even with people present, and when they all left I was like finally I can bag this ! I was sitting on him .... we were completely alone... and what does he do? Nothing. Nothing. Nothing. Nothing. Nothing. I was the one who moved his hand to my breast. It's not that he wasn't into it, he was holding me and pulling me close, and he was aroused, but like, what the ****? Anyway, though I can be quite the kitten I didn't want to force myself upon this guy, because I'm not that desperate, and though the ultimate goal in this situation was sex, I wasn't going to disrespect myself or my motives. I was getting the most confusing signals from him. Finally after half an hour of teasing, I got out of the pool, dried myself off, and didn't say bye.
Since then his interest level has sky rocketed, and his confidence has too. However, I recently got back from a Euro trip (crazy times haha), and he texts and calls me the day I get back saying, "I remembered the date you would arrive" and all this nonsense. So we would text that whole week, he's a big texter, which is very annoying, but tells me he's shy, and he wanted me to chill every night with him, but I couldn't because he's not my top priority. He tells me hes "always available" and that I set the time. Then came the day where I was like, Ill finally be free tomorrow night. And what happens..... he blew me off.
First of all, he told me that he had to "help his mom out" that night, which smells like bull**** to me, though I know that his single mom regularly makes him help out with her business. With the kindof life that I lead, I really, really don't need some kid I'm trying to lay to waste my time, or a decent night that I could have spent with someone else. The next day I decided to do what any pickup artist would do..... ignore his texts. I had plans already but after I dont text him he says "Wow, thats cold. Not responding, I'm dissapointed." That night I got very drunk with my best girlfriends, and we ended up hooking up and partying with these guys. When I saw his text again at 5 in the morning, I replied "I'm dissappointed in you, too." After that he blew up on me and was like, I didn't ditch you, I had to help my mom out, blah blah blah, and I just couldn't take it. Because I DON'T trust anyone when they help their mom out on a Thursday night. Not that I think hes hooking up with someone else, but that would be good for him, anyway, but the fact that I've been trying to bag this b1tch for so long that I can't even fathom why the chase has taken this long. This whole ordeal happened friday night/saturday morning, and he has not talked to me since. When and if he does talk to me, though, I WANT to get what I have wanted this whole time.
p.s. I think theres an intimidation factor here, which is my only guess to him not hooking up with me.
long story, very short, how the fukc do i get this guy to hit the sheets with me?!
sorry about the length.
I know that we can be honest on this forum, and I do not mean to sound conceited but, I get what I want. For the most part I'd like to believe that it isn't just because of my looks, but because I know how to converse with people, and, from a very young age, have been able to reverse the roles when it comes to relationships with men.
Truly, men can be easily if not more manipulated than women. It's just that men and women have a different test in life. As Dave Chapelle said, "A woman's test in life is material. A man's test in life, is a woman."
But I have a serious problem that I can NOT find a solution to.
This guy and I met while he had a girlfriend, and within the first month of meeting, texting, you know just introductory flirting, they broke up. I did not directly instigate anything... on purpose. Anyway, him and that girl were extremely on and off the next six months. I don't know why he broke up with her, and if it was for me, he did not do a very good job of showing it. Clearly though, I could see he was whipped by this chick, and could NOT shake her no matter how hard he tried to ignore her.
Though I knew he was still communicating with her we would still talk, I would work my **** on him and he would eat it up. To me it didn't matter if he was taken or not, I just wanted his piece... badly. It's not often that I would spend so much time on any particular person.... but ever since I laid eyes on him I KNEW I wanted to hook up with him. My mistake here was simple: I did NOT have enough time to do what I wanted with him. I know that I should have tried to clear my schedule, or make room for a hook up with him, but the truth is I was so focused on other people, family, my life, my job, my well being. We would constantly try to chill, and I was the one that could not. Though I know he is not a player whatsoever, I know that he must have thought MY interest level plummeted, and that I was just another chick just texting him. I decided to keep him on the backburner, after all, this was my mistake. And the next day I forgot about him.
This was a year ago. Throughout that time and now he would randomly contact me, sometimes I would respond, sometimes I wouldn't, you know. But recently we were invited to the same pool party, and just hit it off like crazy. It was a party and I could read by his body language and the things he was saying to me that he was the jealous type, asking me immediately if I was texting other guys, and looking at me if I would talk to other guys at this party. Later that night, we found ourselves alone in the pool. We were literally all over each other in the pool, even with people present, and when they all left I was like finally I can bag this ! I was sitting on him .... we were completely alone... and what does he do? Nothing. Nothing. Nothing. Nothing. Nothing. I was the one who moved his hand to my breast. It's not that he wasn't into it, he was holding me and pulling me close, and he was aroused, but like, what the ****? Anyway, though I can be quite the kitten I didn't want to force myself upon this guy, because I'm not that desperate, and though the ultimate goal in this situation was sex, I wasn't going to disrespect myself or my motives. I was getting the most confusing signals from him. Finally after half an hour of teasing, I got out of the pool, dried myself off, and didn't say bye.
Since then his interest level has sky rocketed, and his confidence has too. However, I recently got back from a Euro trip (crazy times haha), and he texts and calls me the day I get back saying, "I remembered the date you would arrive" and all this nonsense. So we would text that whole week, he's a big texter, which is very annoying, but tells me he's shy, and he wanted me to chill every night with him, but I couldn't because he's not my top priority. He tells me hes "always available" and that I set the time. Then came the day where I was like, Ill finally be free tomorrow night. And what happens..... he blew me off.
First of all, he told me that he had to "help his mom out" that night, which smells like bull**** to me, though I know that his single mom regularly makes him help out with her business. With the kindof life that I lead, I really, really don't need some kid I'm trying to lay to waste my time, or a decent night that I could have spent with someone else. The next day I decided to do what any pickup artist would do..... ignore his texts. I had plans already but after I dont text him he says "Wow, thats cold. Not responding, I'm dissapointed." That night I got very drunk with my best girlfriends, and we ended up hooking up and partying with these guys. When I saw his text again at 5 in the morning, I replied "I'm dissappointed in you, too." After that he blew up on me and was like, I didn't ditch you, I had to help my mom out, blah blah blah, and I just couldn't take it. Because I DON'T trust anyone when they help their mom out on a Thursday night. Not that I think hes hooking up with someone else, but that would be good for him, anyway, but the fact that I've been trying to bag this b1tch for so long that I can't even fathom why the chase has taken this long. This whole ordeal happened friday night/saturday morning, and he has not talked to me since. When and if he does talk to me, though, I WANT to get what I have wanted this whole time.
p.s. I think theres an intimidation factor here, which is my only guess to him not hooking up with me.
long story, very short, how the fukc do i get this guy to hit the sheets with me?!
