"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The Damned

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Hi Guys,
Just wondering your tips on how to help a 24 year old man who has never even got close to a woman, let alone a relationship who the female public find repulsive and have zero interest in.
Im at my final straw now and dont know how long I can carry on living in a world where I have given so much and came out with nothing to show for it but misery and disappointment.
Is there ways to turn around this bad luck and if so how do you do it?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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You can start by scrolling down and clicking on the Bible below.
 

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Other than women what are your goals in life?

I read your post history and you have made almost identical posts as this in the past, to which people have already given you advice.

You need to per sue other things in life besides women. Once you have found happiness in life in your self through your achievements and goals then naturally women will be attracted to you.
 

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Your gonna have to expound, bro.

Your 24 and "never even got close to a woman"....you mean literally? Never had sex, never kissed, hugged, etc?

How do you know they have "zero interest?"

What have you "given so much?"

It has nothing to do with luck.

Please be detailed. Your situation is fixable, I guarantee that much.
 

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Andromax said:
You need to per sue other things in life besides women. Once you have found happiness in life in your self through your achievements and goals then naturally women will be attracted to you.
Somehow I can never see that happening, Ive tried nearly everything and Ive ran out of ideas now and given up all hope.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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cactus3178

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The Damned said:
Somehow I can never see that happening, Ive tried nearly everything and Ive ran out of ideas now and given up all hope.

Alright, dude. Are you trolling, or do you want help? like some smart person above stated, start with the DJB. That changed my life, and I'm not kidding.

Post DETAILS, please!
 

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The Damned said:
Somehow I can never see that happening, Ive tried nearly everything and Ive ran out of ideas now and given up all hope.
No need to give up hope, mate.

Women always expect their man to be confident - thats an attribute you lack immensely. First you need to work on that.

Second, you need to work out. I am not talking 'hitting the gyms and lifting weights' workout. Just basic pushups and running for say 15 minutes every day. You could move on to weights if you want.

point 2 will not only help you in staying fit, it will also improve your confidence.

Third - be clean.

Once you got the above points covered, go about biatch-hunting. sure, you will get rejected a few times here and there, but take each rejection as a lesson. You will pick up soon enough.
 

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cactus3178 said:
Alright, dude. Are you trolling, or do you want help? like some smart person above stated, start with the DJB. That changed my life, and I'm not kidding.

Post DETAILS, please!

whats DJB?
 

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I meant the DJ Bible.
 

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The Damned said:
.... where I have given so much and came out with nothing to show for it but misery and disappointment.
What wonderful thing(s) do you imagine you've given the world exactly?

I think you need to get a grip, perhaps when mommy said "you can do anything you want to" you shouldn't have taken her quite so literally? Anything worthwhile takes work, what are you working towards?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Okay. I've had a chance to review your post history...

The first thing you need to do is get right with yourself. It looks like you've had some rough times in the last several years, and to that I'm compassionate.

Your not a lost cause unless you want to be, or you don't want to put in the work.

That's the key. you have to be willing to put in the work to make real changes for yourself. It's f*cking hard to do, but if you go review my post history here, you'll learn that it's possible, nay absolutely do-able if your willing to work HARD.

You'll never start a relationship or even get off the groung with a woman if you don't have your sh*t straight.

So for the third time, details of your situation are in order. Why can't you get a girl? Why do you want one? What do you have to offer to a girl in the first place?
 

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your not alone man. I've never had relations with a woman either and I'm depressed nearly all of the time because of it. im not social at all and i have have 1 good friend.
 

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Well Ive read a bit of the DJ Bible and it says you should approach a girl once you get eye contact, problem is I never get eye contact, if I look at a girl she just looks away and is totally uninterested.
Also the Bible is huge anyone got any basic pointers for a guy aiming just to start off(scaling it down) and give me the basic targets of what i should be doing?
 

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I have a friend who is conventional consider an ugly guy. He looks like that parking guy from Fargo who Buschemi had to pay a fare to. Either way, this guy still got laid more than anyone I knew. Granted it wasn't always the best poon, but it was still poon. He had a decently hot GF for a while.

So one day he tells me, you gotta go out there and piss off some chicks and get slapped. Well I pissed off some chicks, and I got slapped a few times but the lesson that I learned was that you have to interact with women provocatively. Not necessarily piss them off but just pull their strings a bit. I also learned that you need to have to be thick skinned when dealing with females.

Moral of the story: go get slapped.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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IMO if your fat, nerdy looking, really really skinny, etc.. you should fix that. go hit the gym, take care of ur acne, or w/e is making u very disgusting in women eyes.. trust me after you do that ull feel 10 times more confidents...

Then you have to find something you like, and well.. you dont have ANY friends? not 1? do you work? are you in college? theres gotta be a way to meet some friends...

Dont start aproaching girls in the street out of the blue theyll prolly reject you in ur current state and ull feel even more depressed.. first fix your life then worry about girls imo...
 

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I agree with the name change...

You seem like a negative dude from your name, location (trying to escape hell?) and your post history. I'm no expert, but before you go for the women you might need to lighten up a bit, and have a more positive outlook on life. The phrase goes misery loves company, but everyone seems to forget the end of the phrase is that company hates misery.

So cheer up and don't let your past hinder your future.

If you really are at the final straw, then realise you have nothing to lose. What you've been doing for 24 years hasn't been working. Time to try some new things. Good luck!
 

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The Damned, I remember your thread from a couple of days before new year, you were really negative towards guys who were harsh with you because of your constant complaining, that thread ended up locked.

And now it turns out you haven't even read through Bible. Guess what? You could easily read it from start to finish in these two months. What I see is a complete lack of effort on your part. Reading is passive, stress-free activity. If even READING is too much for you, how will you approach and attract a girl???
 

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Brutus said:
The Damned, I remember your thread from a couple of days before new year, you were really negative towards guys who were harsh with you because of your constant complaining, that thread ended up locked.

And now it turns out you haven't even read through Bible. Guess what? You could easily read it from start to finish in these two months. What I see is a complete lack of effort on your part. Reading is passive, stress-free activity. If even READING is too much for you, how will you approach and attract a girl???

Two months I dont have, its not that Reading is too much, just if I know the basics of what I have to do I will be a lot quicker rather than taking small steps for the next year and getting nowhere yet again.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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