"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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A man in need of help(Kinda long)

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Hello DJ Forum thank you for letting me be a part of your team:

I am a 20 year old fat guy from Brooklyn, NY looking for some advice:
As a kid I was teased for being fat throughout my entire life and even though I never cried or anything about it I began to sheild myself from others and protect myself. I have a weird sense of pride where I would rather be alone than be aroundthose who judged me. This has affected me alot as a child I was very social and likable person especially with girls. Many of my closets friends were girls but as people began to insult me more i began to change and build my own barrier.
This has plagued me today. I have never been on a date never kissed a girl and is still a virgin. But the weird thing is that even with my girth I have had a chance to mess with some rather beautiful women. For example my prom date asked me out to the prom and she is probably one of the most beautiful girls in my high school at that time.(Lucky me). Anther example is this girl who live just a block away from me. Im telling you guys she looks just like a model: Trindiadian, 5'11, Slim as hell and exotic looking. She gave me her number and her schedule of when she gets off from work yet I still couldn't do it. has plagued me throughout my life, I guess even though I am fat my face isnt to bad so I can attract some girls. I am on a diet right now but I am twenty and there are many things that i have not experinced that a twenty year old should have expereinced by now the most obvious SEX. So what advice would you give me to get over this curse that i have placed on myself?(No offense but i am a black guy who likes black girls and some of tips you guys post would never work on these black girls from Brooklyn, NY. Trust Me) Thanks
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by jbaby9077
No offense but i am a black guy who likes black girls and some of tips you guys post would never work on these black girls from Brooklyn, NY. Trust Me) Thanks
Bullshyt!

Ladies are ladies. Under all that hard core outer shell they are still wemon underneath. When you figure this out you will be a lot better off bro.
 

Triple X

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Re: Re: A man in need of help(Kinda long)

Originally posted by Funkopotamus
Bullshyt!

Ladies are ladies. Under all that hard core outer shell they are still wemon underneath. When you figure this out you will be a lot better off bro.
Hmm... I dunno. The impression I get of Brooklyn women is tough-as-f*ck 'b*tches' who only seem to be attracted to gangsters... my advice to someone coming from there would be to act as tho your a big-time pimp who treats all women like hos etc... you might not be a pimp yet but if you act like one.. 'fake it til you make it'.. then things may well be different.

As for the fat thing... well look at Notorious B.I.G.. was he fat?? Yes. Did he get lots of women?? Apparently yes (he rapped a lot about them).. the difference? He acted and believed he was a pimp.. it's all about the confidence man. Be confident and believe in yourself and your size/shape won't matter so much.
 

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Originally posted by jbaby9077
I have never been on a date never kissed a girl and is still a virgin
Your not missing much.

Originally posted by themanwithnoname
Why do fat guys think they can pick up skinny girls, they should stick with fat girls.
shut up azzhole. I know quiet a few chubby guys who have hotty g/f. they probably get more pvssy then you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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chance

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Re: Re: Re: A man in need of help(Kinda long)

Originally posted by Triple X
As for the fat thing... well look at Notorious B.I.G.. was he fat?? Yes. Did he get lots of women?? Apparently yes (he rapped a lot about them).. the difference? He acted and believed he was a pimp.. it's all about the confidence man. Be confident and believe in yourself and your size/shape won't matter so much.
uhh, maybe cause that fat punk had some money? anyone can get some when they are rich.

and you jbaby9077, no one but you brought the fat to yourself. you're a virgin cause you are fat and probably have low self esteem. do something about it cause you did it to yourself.

or

date fat chicks.
 

HeartlessBtch

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Re: Re: Re: Re: A man in need of help(Kinda long)

Originally posted by chance
uhh, maybe cause that fat punk had some money? anyone can get some when they are rich.

and you jbaby9077, no one but you brought the fat to yourself. you're a virgin cause you are fat and probably have low self esteem. do something about it cause you did it to yourself.

or

date fat chicks.
You are such a bitter loser i can tell by your freaken tone....Doesn't this sht violate one of the freaken rules, u are not here to offend others fckface

Anyways it is not true at all, girls can look beyond anything when they are attracted, I have dated a few men that have been on the heavy side themselves and it didn't bother me at all. I think you just have to work on your confidence, and try to open your eyes! You see the pretty girls that try to approach you?!?!? Why are you letting them go, you'll never know what you are missing out of if you don't try it ! Best of luck :flowers:
 

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Originally posted by HeartlessBtch
You are such a bitter loser i can tell by your freaken tone....Doesn't this sht violate one of the freaken rules, u are not here to offend others fckface
come on lady, he needs to hear the truth. he is fat (unhealthy), who the hell likes that? he did this to himself and he knows the results he's gonna get. don't feed him bullsh|t.
 

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Re: Re: A man in need of help(Kinda long)

Originally posted by chance
come on lady, he needs to hear the truth. he is fat (unhealthy), who the hell likes that? he did this to himself and he knows the results he's gonna get. don't feed him bullsh|t.
shut the hell up chance, you have no IDEA what you even speak of. ive' seen PLENTY of chubby dudes pull girls i can't imagine them even pulling. In fact its even pissed me off on one occasion and on another more recent occasion with A FRIEND of mine.

i literally pulled her aside and said WTF.

so don't sit there on the otherside of your monitor through the internet being some kinda keyboard commando, thinkin you know how "it is" becuase you don't if you have no creative input to give then DON'T GIVE IT.

and to the orginal poster. All you gotta do really is put it in your mind that not everybody out there espeiclly now outta high school really gives a shyt about you. So the fear that you still probably have of people laughing at you will go away and you can act more like a regular person once you realize that, that woudl be the first step
 

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pimpin' is a state of mind

AND YOU CAN QUOTE ME ON THAT !!!

i would not touch a fat chick if i was as big as the good year blimp

telling a man he must settle for less just cause he is carrying a few extra pounds

GET THE F*CK OUTTA HERE LOL !

i have been a lean mean fighting machine and i have put the weight on too ( usually after jail lol you get out and want to eat all the food you can' eat in there )

there are other situations i have been in some work related where you might not get that much exercise and put on a few extra pounds


let me school you fat boy on what the chicks love

A CONFIDENT MAN

Notorious B>I>G is a great example

now some people may argue he only pulled b*thces cause he was rich and famous. and before that because he was a crack dealer.

well i am going to say i think he pulled b*tches before the money and the drugs because he was confident.

even when i have put on weight in between stages of my life i have ONLY ever f*cked thin , slim and TRIM b*tches

the chicks don't seem to really care if i was heavy

have you read the dj bible ?

do you not understand what women are looking for in a man ?

now i have set the record straight


FAT BOY THERE IS NO EXCUSE TO STAY FAT

don't care about your war torn country. i been there done that.

YOU CAN DO IT.

no excuses

as a man you must keep in shape or make and effort to keep in shape

stuff the women.there may come a time and a place in your life where the only thing that stands between you being alive or dead is how fit you are.

get some dumbells. get an old bicycle. go for a walk every day.

DO SOMETHING. start slow and work your way up.

you drop 20 pounds and you will look and feel alot better


Lost In Translation :D

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by jbaby9077
(No offense but i am a black guy who likes black girls and some of tips you guys post would never work on these black girls from Brooklyn, NY. Trust Me) Thanks
Read the bible, and go get in shape. Confidence will come through your actions.

You being black means nothing. You being attracted to black girls means nothing. So you think that the rules don't apply? Well I'm here to tell you they do.

And this goes to all posters, stop looking at black/white/asian/latina/etc. women as if they are different species, they are all women. The tools in a DJ's arsenal should not be bound by geography or ethnicity. Learn that first, then maybe you will succeed.
 

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Hey mate.

It's all in the confidence, as daft as it sounds. I've got a mate, fat, wears weird glasses yet he stole a HB8 off her bloke with ease. And she has great tits.

Still, I'd recommend slimming a bit - this will improve your confidence no end.

There are two reasons for being fat:

1) You eat too much, and
2) You don't exercise enough.

It's your fault and your fault only that you are fat. So, do two things:

1) Eat healthy, and
2) Exercise.

Watch the opening sequel from Dodgeball until you are a normal size.

(Actually, I don't mind fat guys much as friends, but I can't stand being around fat girls at all. They make me feel sick)
 
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