I wanted to write this tip to help many people on this board avoid the mistakes I made when starting my DJing pursuits.
It seems that most seduction material available tries to give standard rules, techniques and formulaic patterns for attracting women. So the trusting AFC reads something that sounds promising, puts it into practice and ends up making a fool out of himself. Worse still, he creates this false personality around everything he is reading. He uses c+f, neg hits, kino and struts around like an Alpha male, and yet he continually gets shot down by women.
But why? Women love c+f, right? Women respond to confidence, right? Neg hits are a great way to throw women off their pedestal.
Women? Which women? All women? That’s a vast amount of people being generalised, prejudged and crammed into a very restrictive category. Kylie Minogue and Monica Lewinsky are women; so is Margaret Thatcher; so was Mother Teresa and Lizzie Borden.
Women are individuals with unique personalities, histories, ambitions, tastes and morals and it’s essential that you realise this. Aspiring DJs need to realise that there is no such thing as a technique or rule that can predict or control womankind.
Therefore, in order to be a successful DJ, you must always use your initiative!
You need to learn to build rapport with a woman as an individual, learn what she likes, how she thinks as you mutually adapt to each other and the situation.
Everything you do and say must be in context. If you start being ****y and funny or neg hitting a woman while she’s discussing a serious matter, she’ll see you as tactless or just an immateur joker. Yet if you suddenly get serious while conversation is light, you’ll be the moody guy who is no fun to be with. If she’s a little shy or apprehensive and you start getting sexually forward with her, you’ll be perceived as a lech, but if she’s flirting and you’re retreating, you’ll be seen as disinterested or an asexual wuss.
When establishing relationships with people you need to be aware of cues, be it in body language or in the tone and content of speech. Do not rush in with some rehearsed and unstoppable performance. This is what the average guy does. He rushes in trying to be clever, witty and appealing and yet appears two dimensional and imitative. But by listening, learning and adapting, you create a unique rapport with the person you are speaking to based on who they are and how you relate to them.
Another very important issue that needs to be taken into consideration is that different women want different things and have different standards. To a woman who is after a bit of fun, a ****y, witty and confident attitude is a big advantage. A woman looking for a serious relationship, on the other hand, may have qualities such as maturity and responsibility at the top of her list. Some women will be impressed by social proof or the player image, while others will be deterred by it.
If a woman is very particular about what she wants (quality women can afford to be) the only way you stand a chance with her is if she sees these qualities in you. Now, if you start hitting her with textbook conversation and techniques, with no idea what she’s looking for, you stand a good chance of ruling yourself out.
Textbook techniques, strategies and conversation is what puts the average in A(verage) F(rustrated) C(hump).
It seems that most seduction material available tries to give standard rules, techniques and formulaic patterns for attracting women. So the trusting AFC reads something that sounds promising, puts it into practice and ends up making a fool out of himself. Worse still, he creates this false personality around everything he is reading. He uses c+f, neg hits, kino and struts around like an Alpha male, and yet he continually gets shot down by women.
But why? Women love c+f, right? Women respond to confidence, right? Neg hits are a great way to throw women off their pedestal.
Women? Which women? All women? That’s a vast amount of people being generalised, prejudged and crammed into a very restrictive category. Kylie Minogue and Monica Lewinsky are women; so is Margaret Thatcher; so was Mother Teresa and Lizzie Borden.
Women are individuals with unique personalities, histories, ambitions, tastes and morals and it’s essential that you realise this. Aspiring DJs need to realise that there is no such thing as a technique or rule that can predict or control womankind.
Therefore, in order to be a successful DJ, you must always use your initiative!
You need to learn to build rapport with a woman as an individual, learn what she likes, how she thinks as you mutually adapt to each other and the situation.
Everything you do and say must be in context. If you start being ****y and funny or neg hitting a woman while she’s discussing a serious matter, she’ll see you as tactless or just an immateur joker. Yet if you suddenly get serious while conversation is light, you’ll be the moody guy who is no fun to be with. If she’s a little shy or apprehensive and you start getting sexually forward with her, you’ll be perceived as a lech, but if she’s flirting and you’re retreating, you’ll be seen as disinterested or an asexual wuss.
When establishing relationships with people you need to be aware of cues, be it in body language or in the tone and content of speech. Do not rush in with some rehearsed and unstoppable performance. This is what the average guy does. He rushes in trying to be clever, witty and appealing and yet appears two dimensional and imitative. But by listening, learning and adapting, you create a unique rapport with the person you are speaking to based on who they are and how you relate to them.
Another very important issue that needs to be taken into consideration is that different women want different things and have different standards. To a woman who is after a bit of fun, a ****y, witty and confident attitude is a big advantage. A woman looking for a serious relationship, on the other hand, may have qualities such as maturity and responsibility at the top of her list. Some women will be impressed by social proof or the player image, while others will be deterred by it.
If a woman is very particular about what she wants (quality women can afford to be) the only way you stand a chance with her is if she sees these qualities in you. Now, if you start hitting her with textbook conversation and techniques, with no idea what she’s looking for, you stand a good chance of ruling yourself out.
Textbook techniques, strategies and conversation is what puts the average in A(verage) F(rustrated) C(hump).
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