You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yea, it's tough dating women. Sounds very homophobic, so homophobic that gay people can get on dating apps and message each other about getting together. Sounds like you're fitting right into the community you should be a part of.It's sick, I live in very very very homophobic country and here i switched my tinder settings and i get so many messages and matches from men (nope i dontbother responding)
I grow my instagram this way but still id never expect this many gay people lol i can get more than 20 matches per day with gay
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
no there are vaginaly benefitsWhy do you need 2 grow ur Instagram ?
R there monetary benefits?
yeah thanks i feel very appreciated now and thats how it should beYea, it's tough dating women. Sounds very homophobic, so homophobic that gay people can get on dating apps and message each other about getting together. Sounds like you're fitting right into the community you should be a part of.
Ahh in lieu of an actual social life you're using instagram as a platform.no there are vaginaly benefits
wait, you want to be appreciated for being gay? I guess ok, if that makes you feel good about yourself but there's nothing special about being gay.yeah thanks i feel very appreciated now and thats how it should be
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.