"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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A longtime LJBF is pissed. I couldn't care less.

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I'll try to keep this short.

I met this girl 4-5 years ago after she had just broken up with a guy who broke her heart and ****ed her up mentally from what she says. It's clear now that I was a rebound and she LJBF'd me pretty quickly after we fooled around for a month or two. But we've remained good friends ever since.

She's 30 now. Has gained quite a bit more weight. She was saving herself for marriage up till now, but just recently traded her V-card. We had sex several times for the first time in our relationship a couple months ago. It wasn't great, but I've always wanted to fvck her.

I stopped communication/hanging out with her not out of spite or for a certain angle, but because I'm realizing it's stupid of me to hang around this chick for scraps. She's declining in SMV rapidly. I can and do get better sex from more attractive and younger women.

She's has been a fun friend, but since becoming red pill aware/unplugging I've realized I've put up with a lot of **** with her in hopes of sex, make out sessions, validation, etc. I don't need that anymore.

She's noticed my scarcity. She asks me what's wrong/did she do something. I say no (simply trying to be cordial).

It's my birthday coming up and so I invited around 20 people to come to a strip club to celebrate, herself included. She texted me asking if I was seriously celebrating at a strip club to which I said 'yes, if you don't want to come that's fine.'

She said she was surprised and disappointed that I would want to celebrate at a stripclub. She's obviously trying to make me feel bad for the fact that I've been ignoring her, a sh*t test you could say.

But what I find interesting about her response is --- It's either her Christian values (even though she gets drunk all the time and now sleeps around) or she feels 'The Wall' against her back and realizes I find other women much more attractive (younger women and strippers included).

I'm slowly seeing the bigger picture. Hypergamy, men and women's SMV relation, and the mindset a DJ needs to have. I was living in her frame for the longest time. Now I'm living in mine, with time to spare (in regards to my SMV peak) as well as an abundance of younger attractive women.

Thanks for reading.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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dustmuffin

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I'll try to keep this short.

I met this girl 4-5 years ago after she had just broken up with a guy who broke her heart and ****ed her up mentally from what she says. It's clear now that I was a rebound and she LJBF'd me pretty quickly after we fooled around for a month or two. But we've remained good friends ever since.

She's 30 now. Has gained quite a bit more weight. She was saving herself for marriage up till now, but just recently traded her V-card. We had sex several times for the first time in our relationship a couple months ago. It wasn't great, but I've always wanted to fvck her.

I stopped communication/hanging out with her not out of spite or for a certain angle, but because I'm realizing it's stupid of me to hang around this chick for scraps. She's declining in SMV rapidly. I can and do get better sex from more attractive and younger women.

She's has been a fun friend, but since becoming red pill aware/unplugging I've realized I've put up with a lot of **** with her in hopes of sex, make out sessions, validation, etc. I don't need that anymore.

She's noticed my scarcity. She asks me what's wrong/did she do something. I say no (simply trying to be cordial).

It's my birthday coming up and so I invited around 20 people to come to a strip club to celebrate, herself included. She texted me asking if I was seriously celebrating at a strip club to which I said 'yes, if you don't want to come that's fine.'

She said she was surprised and disappointed that I would want to celebrate at a stripclub. She's obviously trying to make me feel bad for the fact that I've been ignoring her, a sh*t test you could say.

But what I find interesting about her response is --- It's either her Christian values (even though she gets drunk all the time and now sleeps around) or she feels 'The Wall' against her back and realizes I find other women much more attractive (younger women and strippers included).

I'm slowly seeing the bigger picture. Hypergamy, men and women's SMV relation, and the mindset a DJ needs to have. I was living in her frame for the longest time. Now I'm living in mine, with time to spare (in regards to my SMV peak) as well as an abundance of younger attractive women.

Thanks for reading.
Nice story. Some very good points.
 

HeadLightsOn

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Great post,sounds like you're doing incredibly well. Keep it going.
 

grayclif

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I'll try to keep this short.

I met this girl 4-5 years ago after she had just broken up with a guy who broke her heart and ****ed her up mentally from what she says. It's clear now that I was a rebound and she LJBF'd me pretty quickly after we fooled around for a month or two. But we've remained good friends ever since.

She's 30 now. Has gained quite a bit more weight. She was saving herself for marriage up till now, but just recently traded her V-card. We had sex several times for the first time in our relationship a couple months ago. It wasn't great, but I've always wanted to fvck her.

I stopped communication/hanging out with her not out of spite or for a certain angle, but because I'm realizing it's stupid of me to hang around this chick for scraps. She's declining in SMV rapidly. I can and do get better sex from more attractive and younger women.

She's has been a fun friend, but since becoming red pill aware/unplugging I've realized I've put up with a lot of **** with her in hopes of sex, make out sessions, validation, etc. I don't need that anymore.

She's noticed my scarcity. She asks me what's wrong/did she do something. I say no (simply trying to be cordial).

It's my birthday coming up and so I invited around 20 people to come to a strip club to celebrate, herself included. She texted me asking if I was seriously celebrating at a strip club to which I said 'yes, if you don't want to come that's fine.'

She said she was surprised and disappointed that I would want to celebrate at a stripclub. She's obviously trying to make me feel bad for the fact that I've been ignoring her, a sh*t test you could say.

But what I find interesting about her response is --- It's either her Christian values (even though she gets drunk all the time and now sleeps around) or she feels 'The Wall' against her back and realizes I find other women much more attractive (younger women and strippers included).

I'm slowly seeing the bigger picture. Hypergamy, men and women's SMV relation, and the mindset a DJ needs to have. I was living in her frame for the longest time. Now I'm living in mine, with time to spare (in regards to my SMV peak) as well as an abundance of younger attractive women.

Thanks for reading.
Well said and good job. Please let us know if she shows up for your party.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Poonani Maker

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Nice job. Never feel obligated to ANY woman. That's an AFC's job.
 
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