A Longtime friend might want more... ??

[Industry]

I have known this girl Jennifer for 3 or so years now. I was in a serious relationship the entire time (yeah it sucks) but I am now out and on the prowl.

She has called me a few times over the last couple of weeks and seeing what I was up to. Everytime she called I was seriously busy. I was out with the guys one night, surfing the other, etc.

Well she called last night on my cell and asked what i was doing and again I was busy... but she told me to call her tonight if I wasn't doing anything.

The twist here is that she has a boyfriend of 2+ years. He knows me and vice versa. I'm trying to figure out what she wants from me... just hanging out like friends? some casual sex? a hook to ditch her boyfriend? (who is a loser in my eyes)

Should I call her back tonight and see what she's up to? What should I ask her to do? I was thinking of inviting her over for drinks and tell her to bring a bathing suit along in case we wanted to go for a dip later. Or is that too forward for just being "friends"?

Thanks--

-I-

 

[stormwriter]

Ah dude, i think the inviting her over for drinks is yeah, too forward at this point. I would take her out somewhere to just hang out, to find out what her motives are. I'm sure the next time you hang with her, she will spill her guts about her situation, and then you will have more info to work with. HOWEVER, with that being said, don't be her crypillow if she harps about her current boyfriend. i don't know how i feel about you putting the moves on her when she has a boyfriend, especially if he knows you.

It does sound pretty good so far.

So, listen to her and take mental notes on her status. She's all of the sudden more interested for a reason!!! And you must be a detective and acertain the reason behind her increased interest!

 

[becker]

Interesting situation, I think the swim and stuff is a little bit much for a "friends" thing, if that's what you want to keep it as.

I am in a similar situation right now, but it's the girl who has been in the LTR, and still is. I'm wondering what your thinking was when this girl was calling you all the time knowing that she and you both were in relationships. Did you like her to call you all the time, or did you see it as annoying?

 

[Industry]

I wouldn't mind hooking up with her. She is a total hottie. Me and her boyfriend aren't friends and i rarely ever see him so that isn't a problem. YOu know what ... I actually don't mind when a girl calls me more than usual. It's a nice change. I have a feeling that we've both wanted each other for a long time now but have been fiercely loyal to our partners. For some reason I think she isn't getting it good at home or she wants to dump him.

Should I evven call her tonight???? If so, maybe I'll take her out and shoot some pool and chill.

 

[becker]

I'd definitely call her.

 

[Krassus]

Call her, of course! Don't forget that she called you three times and got turned down every time, so at this point she's probably wondering if you're avoiding her. That's why she told you to call her - because she's tired of calling. So go for it. If you have a feeling that she wants you, you're probably right. So why not invite her for drinks and a swim? If she agrees, then great, if not, then take her out to shoot some pool or something. Hell, if you've known her for years, you should be a little more open with her. Don't be afraid to offend her. There's a girl i've known for barely a fraction of how long you've known her, and she's a nice girl with a boyfriend, and i can openly joke around with her about doing her in the butt and stuff, and she loves it

 

[Julian]

Its never too forward for drinks. Dude she has been calling YOU! you have been blowing her off. I bet she would bang you on the first date. Drinks and a bikini seem quite fitting. Dont listen to anyone giving alternate advice, this is the best way to go.