I'm not exactly sure how to start off this topic, so I'm gonna introduce myself first. I've been a lurker for over 2 years and it's definitely helped me turn my life around. I have plenty of confidence and I know I can get most any girl I ever set my eye on. Over the last 5-6 months I've started experiencing real success with women. Slowly but surely as I mastered each step from meet to number close, etc, I kept getting more concrete results. I'd stumble somewhere with one and then I'd get it right with the next girl and stumble again...
Now I've gotten to a point where sex is coming into play and I recently had an experience that I need outside input from more experienced individuals.
First the quick and dirty background on my current dilemma.
Recently I was working a girl I had met in one of my college classes. We've been casually dating for over 2 months now and shes really into me, and I like her too, but shes not my obsession. I'm not drooling over her and several times I've called her out on behavior that I wont tolerate. Anyways, since the start she's been on me pretty hard, and very few times I've felt I liked her more then she liked me. I've had the upper hand in the relationship 95% of the time, or thats how its felt so far. She had a recent brake up with her bf who she had dated for years before seeing me. I'd say she's a little needy, considering she's about 6 years my senior, I'm 19. But the girl's got good tastes I can't rag on her for that.
Now let me make it clear, we never "dated" or considered each other bf/gf. We just had casual fun encounters and outings. Kind of like fvck buddies without the sex (just yet). I enjoyed her company and she enjoyed mine. Yes we kissed and had sexual encounters, just no sex, until recently. Like I said before, I'm not all that experienced, before her I've only had sex twice before in my life, and both times with a different girl.
Anyways, while seeing her, I've always given off this vibe that I am top dog, alpha male, etc. And I know she must have thought that I was a sexual demon or something of the sort, thats just the way I think she viewed me. I never outright said "I'm great at sex" but my mannerisms were pretty "confident."
Needless to say, we recently had sex and it was disappointing for both of us. I was sure I could do better. I know I can do better, but I had played with my meat earlier that day and had worked right before, so I was tired. But to be perfectly fair, had I been good I would have lasted maybe another 30 seconds...not a pretty estimate. The sex sucked, she was disappointed, I was disappointed. I know she had high expectations of me and I didnt meet them in the slightest bit.
I want to reiterate that I am not needy, I wouldnt blame her if she walks out on me after this semester is over and gives me the LJBF (no sex benefits), however she knows I'd refuse to just be her friend.
Now, my question to you is if I should talk to her about it and come clean about my sexual inexperience. I really want to bring it up with her and I realize its my personal problem. We do have a lot of trust in our relationship. We've been talking normally since that day (2 days ago) and we havent brought it up. I even saw her today and everything was good and normal (kino and kissing.) I was expecting her to not talk to me again and just give me the cold shoulder after that night, but I've been fortunate enough that she likes me enough to tolerate my problem. I know she hasnt brought it up because she doesnt want to offend or belittle me(my man ego), or shes scared I might stop talking to her, probably a combination of both. On a personal level I really want to talk to her about it, but I feel ashamed by just bringing it up here, how will I be able to bring it up to her face to face, and what am I gonna talk about?
Now I've gotten to a point where sex is coming into play and I recently had an experience that I need outside input from more experienced individuals.
First the quick and dirty background on my current dilemma.
Recently I was working a girl I had met in one of my college classes. We've been casually dating for over 2 months now and shes really into me, and I like her too, but shes not my obsession. I'm not drooling over her and several times I've called her out on behavior that I wont tolerate. Anyways, since the start she's been on me pretty hard, and very few times I've felt I liked her more then she liked me. I've had the upper hand in the relationship 95% of the time, or thats how its felt so far. She had a recent brake up with her bf who she had dated for years before seeing me. I'd say she's a little needy, considering she's about 6 years my senior, I'm 19. But the girl's got good tastes I can't rag on her for that.
Now let me make it clear, we never "dated" or considered each other bf/gf. We just had casual fun encounters and outings. Kind of like fvck buddies without the sex (just yet). I enjoyed her company and she enjoyed mine. Yes we kissed and had sexual encounters, just no sex, until recently. Like I said before, I'm not all that experienced, before her I've only had sex twice before in my life, and both times with a different girl.
Anyways, while seeing her, I've always given off this vibe that I am top dog, alpha male, etc. And I know she must have thought that I was a sexual demon or something of the sort, thats just the way I think she viewed me. I never outright said "I'm great at sex" but my mannerisms were pretty "confident."
Needless to say, we recently had sex and it was disappointing for both of us. I was sure I could do better. I know I can do better, but I had played with my meat earlier that day and had worked right before, so I was tired. But to be perfectly fair, had I been good I would have lasted maybe another 30 seconds...not a pretty estimate. The sex sucked, she was disappointed, I was disappointed. I know she had high expectations of me and I didnt meet them in the slightest bit.
I want to reiterate that I am not needy, I wouldnt blame her if she walks out on me after this semester is over and gives me the LJBF (no sex benefits), however she knows I'd refuse to just be her friend.
Now, my question to you is if I should talk to her about it and come clean about my sexual inexperience. I really want to bring it up with her and I realize its my personal problem. We do have a lot of trust in our relationship. We've been talking normally since that day (2 days ago) and we havent brought it up. I even saw her today and everything was good and normal (kino and kissing.) I was expecting her to not talk to me again and just give me the cold shoulder after that night, but I've been fortunate enough that she likes me enough to tolerate my problem. I know she hasnt brought it up because she doesnt want to offend or belittle me(my man ego), or shes scared I might stop talking to her, probably a combination of both. On a personal level I really want to talk to her about it, but I feel ashamed by just bringing it up here, how will I be able to bring it up to her face to face, and what am I gonna talk about?
