A little reminder to beginners about neg hits..

[Scars]

I'm guilty of this a lot of times too, I think we all are sometimes. I've become the kind of person where neg hits roll off my tounge naturally, sometimes without even thinking. It does work wonders when first meeting woman, but as for the people you have been talking to awhile it makes it extremely difficult to build a RAPPORT with them. Remember, negs are to get their attention and build their IL. Once you have them interested then you can lighten up and start building rapport and trust. Because a girl isnt going to sleep, or even go out with a guy that she can't trust. Some guys will never even have to neg a girl. If a girl is already interested in you, teasing is ok and keeps things fun but I see so many guys constantly negging that after awhile the girl is just like "Wow, this guy is just playing games and is waisting my time." Don't let this happen to you. Build rapport, make them trust you. Ask them out. No need to be witty 24/7.

 

[Ace_McGregor]

Agreed. And I'd also like to add you should always neg 9s & 10s in the beginning, 7s & 8s sometimes, and 6s and under almost never.

 

[War Against Betaism]

Yeah, you should only use negs on 10's. Though another way of determining when to neg a girl is by reputation. There's this one girl in a club I frequent that has the reputation of always rejecting guys, perfect neg target.

 

[smooth guy]

Agreed. And I'd also like to add you should always neg 9s & 10s in the beginning, 7s & 8s sometimes, and 6s and under almost never.

I agree with this. I've had some bad experiences with neg-hitting the "not so hot" females. It comes naturally a lot of times but you gotta learn to control it and tone it down a little. If you can't neg hit the right way without coming off as an arrogant bastard I don't recommend it at all. I've noticed a lot of girls are very sensitive, sometimes the hot ones also. Personally I never neg hit a girl I just met, without knowing a small part of her personality.

 

[zerocelcius]

YOU don't HAVE to NEG. NEG is a tool and if the job doesn’t' require the tool than leave it in the toolbox.

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[squirrels]

Neg-hitting is the same kind of teasing you use on your friends. There's a time and a place for it, and it's not an "insult", it's just poking fun.

In fact, no one on here should use them until they learn BASIC social skills first. They're a required foundation for using this "technique".

 

[Boschy]

For HB6-8s, instead of negs, I usually use playful "poking fun" qualifying remarks such as:

"So...are you behaving yourself?"

"Hey, your mum lent you that money for buying text books, not trendy ****tails." (Only works on young or young-looking women.)

"Hey, cute boots. Does your baby sister know you've borrowed them?" (Got to be boots a Barbie doll might wear.)

"Come on, put that away. It's not a mirror...!" (To girl texting on her mobile phone.)