I've been w/ my lady for 5 years, we'll probably be getting married this year or next year, were planning. She is the bomb...All the things that you say a women should be, she is...giving (money, vacations, clothes, dinners), humorous, trustworthy, loveable....and more...However, she has to do this program for 8 months where she's like two hours or so away but she is going to see me every weekend. The situation is I'm going to school & working during the week plus I'll be working at this club on the weekend. I just got this job at the club on the weekend, it will only be 4 hours or so on friday & Saturday...She knew I was going to be working this club job on the weekend but she thought it was only going to be one day. I thought so too....but the dude needs me both days....Technically, I don't need this job, its just something I enjoy....to relax, to get away...She told me she was cool w/ it, when it was one day but she is lightweight trippin now that it is two days...She feels like shes driving down to see me every weekend & this job is getting in the way of us having quality time...Shes wants one day where we can cuddle and relax at night...I told her we have the whole day to kick it, this is just a night time gig. Her response is I'll be too tired to do anything during the day because of my club job....What can I tell her so she is not so frustrated...and relax on the issue?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
A little lenghty but please give adivce???
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
u dont need this job.. tell the dude u need a one days rest..
she's not being unreasonable.. she just wants to spend time with u..
and if after 5 years she still wants to do that.. i think you owe it to her (and urself) to take 1 days break..
she's not being unreasonable.. she just wants to spend time with u..
and if after 5 years she still wants to do that.. i think you owe it to her (and urself) to take 1 days break..
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If you don't need the money then do one day only. If you are going to get married soon then before you take that big step - you want to make sure that it is a definite go -- so you need time together to determine if this is what you want to do. Although, in a way, the time apart is a good thing because it would reveal any strains in the relationship when there is no human contact between you - like a test! I like the "test" thing because you may see a side to her that you never saw before - which may alter your thinking of her for the better or fpr worse!
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Dude, cut the job to one day.
You're going to put too much strain on your relationship. Trust me.
She wants to be with you.
Yuo may regret it afterwards.
Remember, this is a Qulaity Woman we are dealing with here, so we try to be a little giving, and easy going.
One thing you need to focus on is Intimacy.
And I don't mean Sex.
You need to keep that deep rapport and emotional intimacy strong, and warm for the both of you.
Make each one of those days memorable. And experience. Plan it out for you andf her.
DO not get lax or lazy, man.
Don't do it.
Stay on top, on point, and in your best DJ behavior.
You don't want to relax on quality.
Remember Quality time is always betther than Quantity.
She will measure the impact of the experience, not necessarily the duration.
Never, ever just think that you just being there is good enuogh.
Don't learn this leasson the hard way.
Cherish the moment.
Trust me, dude.
You may regret it if you don't.
Remember, this is a Quality Woman now, OK?
So we reciprocat the love and affection, and treat her WELL.....
You're going to put too much strain on your relationship. Trust me.
She wants to be with you.
Yuo may regret it afterwards.
Remember, this is a Qulaity Woman we are dealing with here, so we try to be a little giving, and easy going.
One thing you need to focus on is Intimacy.
And I don't mean Sex.
You need to keep that deep rapport and emotional intimacy strong, and warm for the both of you.
Make each one of those days memorable. And experience. Plan it out for you andf her.
DO not get lax or lazy, man.
Don't do it.
Stay on top, on point, and in your best DJ behavior.
You don't want to relax on quality.
Remember Quality time is always betther than Quantity.
She will measure the impact of the experience, not necessarily the duration.
Never, ever just think that you just being there is good enuogh.
Don't learn this leasson the hard way.
Cherish the moment.
Trust me, dude.
You may regret it if you don't.
Remember, this is a Quality Woman now, OK?
So we reciprocat the love and affection, and treat her WELL.....
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Interceptor, what you say is correct, but before marriage a woman should be tested to her fullest in all aspects!! His absence is a test to her loyalty and faithfulness when he is not there -- if she leaves him then what does this tell us??? Marriage is the biggest step in life -- tests of loyalty and faithfulness are a must!
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
Agreed,LMS