"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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A little help in Illinois

lonelyeditor

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This is a big step fo me becuase I never really ask for help wiht anything.
But circumstances had made it very tough for me.
First off, I live in Danville, Illinois and it's a nice, quiet town - which is good because it's a nice almost crime-free town, but it's bad because women are -- How can I say this?? -- tough to come by.
So I usually go to Champaign, the college town, and I feel I'm in a competition, which is not good for me, becuase I choke.
So what I'm hoping for is a DJ around the area that can at least motivate me to get better and talk to women, because just talking on the computer is not going to cut it after a while.
So if anyone wants to voulnteer or have any other ideas, please write back.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Oscar Wilde

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Originally posted by lonelyeditor
This is a big step fo me becuase I never really ask for help wiht anything.
But circumstances had made it very tough for me.
First off, I live in Danville, Illinois and it's a nice, quiet town - which is good because it's a nice almost crime-free town, but it's bad because women are -- How can I say this?? -- tough to come by.
So I usually go to Champaign, the college town, and I feel I'm in a competition, which is not good for me, becuase I choke.
So what I'm hoping for is a DJ around the area that can at least motivate me to get better and talk to women, because just talking on the computer is not going to cut it after a while.
So if anyone wants to voulnteer or have any other ideas, please write back.
Bootcamp, big time. Your lack of confidence shows through your words online, never mind how you act in real life around women.

Don't worry, this is not irreversible :)

Get out there.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by lonelyeditor
This is a big step fo me becuase I never really ask for help wiht anything.
But circumstances had made it very tough for me.
First off, I live in Danville, Illinois and it's a nice, quiet town - which is good because it's a nice almost crime-free town, but it's bad because women are -- How can I say this?? -- tough to come by.
So I usually go to Champaign, the college town, and I feel I'm in a competition, which is not good for me, becuase I choke.
So what I'm hoping for is a DJ around the area that can at least motivate me to get better and talk to women, because just talking on the computer is not going to cut it after a while.
So if anyone wants to voulnteer or have any other ideas, please write back.
Hey LE, here's a suggestion. How do you feel about getting out to the clubs and bars in downtown Chicago? When I lived in Hyde Park I use to hang out at a club downtown called Excalibur's. I don't know if it's the Crowbar now or what, but I had always met really cute women there. They were usually mid to upper 20's but they are perfect subjects to practice on.
Consider taking off from work early on a Friday and spend the weekend in Chicago. You may be able to find a good deal on a hotel/motel close to downtown.

If you aren't ready for cold walk-ups in the club scene yet, you may try practicing at the Museum of Science and Industry or the Art Institute. Tons of things to talk about there. Just focus on the cold walk-ups and your conversation skills. Don't sweat focusing on a hard close until you feel comfortable initiating contact.
 

Starman

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Yo LE

I live in chicago,
and yes Excaliburs is a touristy site with many single women to choose from..I get lucky everytime I go there..

so if you want to brush up on your techniques drop me an email
 
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