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A little dilema

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I met this woman and her daughter in the park 2 weeks ago week. We chatted for a while and exchanged e-mail addresses. We seemed to have pretty good chemistry.

I shot her an e-mail inviting her to have Ice cream with me. Here is her reply.

"Ice Cream sounds good. but I have to tell you i'm soon to be married. but an ice cream cone will not hurt. I love ice cream!"


I'm feeling a little funny about this. My mistake for not probing properly. What would be the best thing to do? Should I just bow out? Just go on the date? Send some sort of reply?
 

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From my previous experience, i.e. dating a woman this year like five freaking times before she told me she was in a 7-year relationship, I wouldn't waste any more time. They want to see if they still "got it" and are attractive to other guys, meanwhile tossing the friends thing out there.

E-mail her and say you don't go out with soon-to-be-married women.

God, American women are f-cked up.
 

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white sox bill said:
Was she wearing a ring?
No, I didn't see a ring. That's usually the first thing that I look for.


WestCoaster said:
From my previous experience, i.e. dating a woman this year like five freaking times before she told me she was in a 7-year relationship, I wouldn't waste any more time. They want to see if they still "got it" and are attractive to other guys, meanwhile tossing the friends thing out there.

E-mail her and say you don't go out with soon-to-be-married women.

God, American women are f-cked up.
That is crappy. What a waste of time and money. I'm thinking along the same lines...that she wants to feel like her life is not over. I also think that women think nothing of going out like this. After all they are not cheating until something really happens. American women ARE really F-d up
 

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Paradox said:
No, I didn't see a ring. That's usually the first thing that I look for.
Um, aren't engaged women supposed to be wearing rings?

Well well, a slutty single mom who will go on dates with random guys right before her wedding - yup, American women REALLY ARE FVCKED UP. NEVER trust or reward one with marriage.
 

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I don't know if I've found a good girl or what, but she never has the chance to go out with other guys. I ALWAYS know where she is and what she's doing, basically because she calls me all the damn time.

To take up for the girl, I still would like to think that I have some game left, even though I'm in a year long LTR. I would never go on another date with a girl though.
 

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Ring on her finger? Heheh,..how bout the daughter standing next to her?

NEXT!
 

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wayword said:
Um, aren't engaged women supposed to be wearing rings?

Well well, a slutty single mom who will go on dates with random guys right before her wedding - yup, American women REALLY ARE FVCKED UP. NEVER trust or reward one with marriage.
That's why this one confused me. I'll give her the old heave ho.
 

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Rollo Tomassi said:
Ring on her finger? Heheh,..how bout the daughter standing next to her?

NEXT!

:D That's what I was thinking!!





PIMP
 

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Just cancel out the plans. Either way she is nutts... she might be making it up - in which case she is nutts or she may actually be engaged - again she is nutts.

And to boot she has a kid from some previous guy.... LOL
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Ok well here's the wrap up.

My e-mail to her:

Sorry, I didn’t see a ring. I don't go out with soon-to-be-married women. Thanks though.

Her e-mail reply:

lol! I respect that! and I respect the fact you did not push it further like most men do. but I will see you around! You are a very sweet and intelligent man.
 

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Good job, you sweet, intelligent man.
 

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Paradox said:
lol! I respect that! and I respect the fact you did not push it further like most men do. but I will see you around! You are a very sweet and intelligent man.
That sounds rather flirty...what a f'n slut!

You'd think a single mama would feel lucky enough to find another man to even marry her...instead of taking that for granted and fuxxoring around with guys on the side before they're even married! F'n self-absorbed American sluts! :crackup:

Actually, what would be interesting here is playing along and seeing just how far she'd take it... Wow, that would really be an eye-opener to how women truly are these days!
 

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Vulpine said:
Good job, you sweet, intelligent man.
HAHA!

But seriously, let's break it down with a little Intro to ********:

She says: "Ice Cream sounds good..."
TRANSLATION: "Ice cream sounds good, but garnering attention from multiple male sources sounds even better."

She says: "but I have to tell you i'm soon to be married..."
TRANSLATION: "But I have to tell you that if you do your job, I just may f*ck you, because I obviously have NO respect whatsoever for my prospective husband. But if you fail to do your job, I will use my engagement as an excuse to use you and then blow you off, while sparing myself of the guilt!"

She says: "but an ice cream cone will not hurt..."
TRANSLATION: "An ice cream cone certainly cannot hurt ME, because I have other options! You on the other hand... well, who cares."

She says: "I love ice cream!"
TRANSLATION: "I love attention!"
 

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This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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drZaius09 said:
HAHA!

But seriously, let's break it down with a little Intro to ********:
DrZaius09, Your translation is dead on.

wayword, You are on point also.

I just thought that the whole thing was a bit absurd. I feel sorry for the poor fiancee.

I was on the road to closing. After she said she was engaged I figured I could close after 2 dates. My game is good. Too good it seems if I can get a date with an engaged woman. LOL

The lesson here is that you don't have to bang every chick that you meet. Us Mature men can make better choices. She was good looking but I can do better.

I have been with another woman who was engaged. It's not my cup of tea. Besides, I have other irons in the fire. Thanks all for the quick and accurate analysis.
 
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Paradox said:
DrZaius09, Your translation is dead on
Hey, "Dr" isn't just a snappy title... allow me to provide my credentials:

drZaius09, Ph.D., Esq.
Chairman, Department of ********
Bullsh*t University

That's right, I'm a doctor and a lawyer, god dammit :cuss:
 

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is it customary for a engaged woman to give out her email address to men in the park? or telephone numbers either?
how disrespectful to her guy.
 

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Of course we all know the real lesson to be drawn from this:

DON'T TRUST AN (AMERICAN) WOMAN!!

What a piece of trash this one is, and the poor soon-to-be husband has no idea of the buzz saw he is heading into... being a true Captain-Save-A-Ho to this woman and replacement daddy.. the chump!

All you fools who think men and women can just be good friends, etc... this is what your stupidity has wrought. Now the hoes think they can collect a harem of "friends" while engaged to be married! What will she do AFTER the marriage?

I hope all of you take a lesson from this.....before you get married, think twice, then think thrice.. and spin, spin spin plates.

Dietzcoi
 

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The lesson here is that you don't have to bang every chick that you meet. Us Mature men can make better choices. She was good looking but I can do better.
Well said.

Here is my philosophy based on my internal values.

I won’t date a woman that is married (regardless of how messed up is her marriage – there is something called divorced or separation) .

I won’t date a woman that is about to get married (e.g. has a fiancé).

I might date a woman that has a boyfriend, as long as I don’t know the boyfriend or interact or have interacted with him. We all know that women typically hold to their boyfriends (even when things are “over”) until something “better” comes along. However, I won’t be in a serious Long Term relationship with this woman. She will do to me what she is just doing to him with me.

Single mothers? I have not problem seeing a single mother. My problem is being involved in a relationship with one. Unless she is filthy rich. ;)
 
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