A little confused

[B-Real]

I'm a little confused about something here. In the dj bible it says under the confidence section that you should not give attention to women. Like you should walk around like you have everything you need.

I do understand that part to a certain extent. However, if you walk around and don't talk to any women at all, how are you gonna communicate?

I mean in the readings it say that woman will most likely NOT go out of her way to talk to a guy. (unless your Brad Pitt) so your kinda outta luck there.

So I was thinking, and needing confirmation, that maybe yes do walk around like you have other things to worry about, but if an attractive girl comes along you know maybe make eye contact, make small talk, and of course, get the digits.

But something else I was pondering on is this: Should I walk around like a blood-thirsty bat LOOKING to talk to women.

Or.. wait till they come along??


-confused

 

[Alphathree]

-- women WILL approach guys; I've had it happen to me many times EDIT: including several instances of 1. waving hands in my face. 2. literally stepping in front of me and blocking my path

-- if a woman is more passive, she will give you signals she wants to approach: repeated eye contact, smiling at you, 'accidently' ending up in your general area, etc. She'll make it easy for you

-- when you DO approach, understand that it should be a confident, relaxed approach. This is why "hi" is the best opener. It's relaxed.

When I approach a girl, I just wander over, look at her, pause, and say, "hi" with a friendly smile (NOT an AFC smile... I just don't know how to explain the difference... it's the difference between

"hi I like you so I'm smiling" (AFC) and;

"hi, you have potential, and I'm smiling to let you know I'm not threatening to you" (pick up artist)

I already know she likes me, so I treat the approach as a general interview on my part. I don't interrogate her or anything, just friendly and confident, but in my head, I'm seeing if she's worthy

 

[BxPrince24]

Don't look desperate. And I believe if you want to get the best out of this site you should never "act". Incorporate everything you learn from the djb into your lifestyle until it becomes a part of you. If you want to be the man, make yourself the man.

When you walk down that hallway, walk with confidence. Think about a king and how he would walk in front of his guests. You are that king.

Now that doesn't mean you can't talk to girls, you should. If you see a girl that you find attractive, talk to her and go for the close. what they mean by not showing her attention is that you don't go and give her all of your attention. Sometimes ignore the girl, make her go out of her way to keep your attention. Though you shouldn't do this ALL the time. You have to tease her with attention. Give attention, take it away, give a little, take it away, etc... If you keep not showing them attention then they will believe you're not interested and they're just wasting their time.

 

[Alphathree]

Originally posted by BxPrince24
Don't look desperate. And I believe if you want to get the best out of this site you should never "act". Incorporate everything you learn from the djb into your lifestyle until it becomes a part of you. If you want to be the man, make yourself the man.

When you walk down that hallway, walk with confidence. Think about a king and how he would walk in front of his guests. You are that king.

Now that doesn't mean you can't talk to girls, you should. If you see a girl that you find attractive, talk to her and go for the close. what they mean by not showing her attention is that you don't go and give her all of your attention. Sometimes ignore the girl, make her go out of her way to keep your attention. Though you shouldn't do this ALL the time. You have to tease her with attention. Give attention, take it away, give a little, take it away, etc... If you keep not showing them attention then they will believe you're not interested and they're just wasting their time.

To elaborate on my response to the OP using this metaphor:

If you were the king, the women wouldn't approach you because they'd be intimidated, right?

But you're the king, so you have to approach beautiful women once in a while to see if they're suitable for your harem.

THAT'S the mindset from which you approach. That's the second form of hi-smile I was talking about. She's a little nervous that the king's approaching her, so you're smiling to let her know it's okay, you're just saying hi and getting to know her a little bit.

 

[B-Real]

Clears things up for me a bit.

Walk like a king, cause she already likes me.......



I think I'll try that at school tomorrow, I'm gonna talk to the girls that in the past I would never had dreamed of talking to before. The girls that I honestly would have put up on a pedestal.

I've been reading these posts for a while. I get the basic picture of it all , its all a mindset and I have to remind myself that. Not pick-up lines.

One more question.. If and when you approach the girl (HB 8-10) and you think things are going your way, and then she just kinda looks at you like "What are thinking talking to me" like she looks down upon you.

Like your not on her level? Should I get discouraged and get mad? No I don't think so. So what should I do/think?

 

[BxPrince24]

If a girl looked at me I'd be like "It's ok, no need to be intimidated by me. relax"

don't get upset or frustrated, if anything, make a joke or just walk off and continue on to your next attraction.

 

[RaWBLooD]

you need to do some field work and less theorizing.