a little confused

[danthemann]

So i met my college class president last weekend at a pregame party type thing. I liked her a little and we kept talking and eye raping eachother. Basically just focusing on eachother. Anyways I hit her up on sunday and asked her if she wanted to come chill with us because me and my friends were all hanging out. She said shed love too but cant because she had a huge exam on monday that she had to get an A on. so she asked for a rain-check. Then late monday night i asked her if she wanted to come out with us and have a good time. she said she was in for the night. then tonight she was studying for an exam she forgot about. normally people around here party from thursday-saturday but we were always just chillen and hanging around.
After reading this I feel like im moving too fast or coming off as needy. Im gunna be honest. Im really only interested in this girl necause shes sexy and shes the president. I also feel like i already messed things up. I dont want to next her because she always seems interested. the flake tonight makes me feel a little awkward though.
I need help on fixing this problem. Should I stop talking to her for a little while and try later in the week? Or should I try and talk to her and get to know her a little better?

 

[Zaraza]

Have you ever considered that she may actually be busy? What major is she in? some require constant schooling.

Its possible she would enjoy hanging out with you, but then again that doesnt mean she would enjoy ****ing you .

Don't bug her too much about hanging out, because that will just get annoying for her and leave you with a bad impression.

 

[danthemann]

That is true. I dont doubt it that she has a lot of work to do. But like tonght. she said she was gunna come out after she was done studying but she never hit me up again. Do you think i should stop talking to her for a couple of days or just talk to her and get to know her better?

 

[dj_china]

yes
don't contact her for at least a week

 

[Cinamon]

Definitely give her some space to get her stuff sorted. Give her a couple of weeks and see if she gets in touch. Persistance can be a turn-off.

 

[tafakna]

1) Stop pushing so hard
2) Give her a break from you for a week
3) Resume talking to her WITHOUT making any moves or asking her out

Once you are talking to her on a 'friendly basis' and on a regular basis come back here and let us know.

The single biggest mistake that I see over and over in this forum is the 'you can't be too friendly' bull****. Trying to be a sniper and get women to think of you like the perfect lover (like people often recommend here) works fine for hollywood stars, but not for 99% of people on this forum.

If you want to learn something very basic: THE HUMAN BRAIN OPERATE BASED ON CONTRAST AND THRESHOLDS. If you make a move to fast, she will lock herself to you. The secret is to start on a 'uninterested' manner and then make the switch.

 

[danthemann]

Thanks for that response tafakna. That makes a lot of sense and I will be sure to follow up in a week or so. Next week is Thanksgiving break so I wont be talking to her until i get back anyway so it works out great. I did move a little fast i think but I really just wanted to hangout and get to know her more or whatever.