"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Blackhole105

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Saturday night a girl texts me asking if I want to hangout Sunday. I tell her I have plans but ask her if she is free Monday; she says she is. I don't text her back after she says she is free because I assume it's implied we are hanging out on Monday.

On Monday I call her, but get no response, and I have not heard from her since Saturday night.

I'm just a bit confused because she wanted to hangout, but does not answer the phone or contact me the day of or the day after.

Is there something I'm blind too? Is this a sh!t test? I have not attempted to contact her since Monday, should I?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well if you didn't make plans for Monday it isn't really implied you're hanging out. I wouldn't say it's a sh!t test. I'd call her Wednesday or Thursday evening at say 6 or so unless you know she's not working or whatever during the day. Don't ask about Monday. When it comes down to it, the reasons why she didn't answer or didn't want to hang out don't mean anything at this point. Just keep it light and airy and make sure you make her laugh.

Now I don't know how you deal with her or where you stand at all, so it's hard to give advice, but I'd say just ask her if she's doing anything exciting this weekend. It's an innocent question and you should be able to decide whether it's a good time to ask her out again by her answer. If she has plans don't act disappointed and talk to her for another minute or two then tell her you have some stuff to do and you'll give her a call next week. Most people here would probably say to wait and call her in a few days and ask her out for next week, but it's really up to you how you handle it.
 

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She's a women, nothing is ever implied.

Just next time don't forget to actually make plans. Suggest doing something and a time when you say something like that.

For example, "I'm busy at the moment, but if you're free monday we can grab a bite to eat," Then when she says she isn't busy monday, suggest a time and place and tell her you'll meet her there monday (or pick her up, depends on the situation).

Lame example, but gets the point across.
 

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Blackhole105 said:
Saturday night a girl texts me asking if I want to hangout Sunday. I tell her I have plans but ask her if she is free Monday; she says she is. I don't text her back after she says she is free because I assume it's implied we are hanging out on Monday.

On Monday I call her, but get no response, and I have not heard from her since Saturday night.

I'm just a bit confused because she wanted to hangout, but does not answer the phone or contact me the day of or the day after.

Is there something I'm blind too? Is this a sh!t test? I have not attempted to contact her since Monday, should I?
Women are horrible at commitment.

Sometimes it doesn't mean anything and she's just forgetful.

Most the time though, if she ditches a hangout then she just has low interest level.

If you make plans with a chick and she fails to call you the day of the date sometime before, then she probably wasn't really interested in the first place. She will CALL YOU if she really wants to meet up. Otherwise, don't be the sucker who sits up all night waiting around for her.
 
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