A little advice please...

[spread_love]

Okay, I'm not quite sure what to make of this but this is the story, a girl I have known for over 6 years recently came back from overseas, got in touch with me via My Space and I got her number and asked her for coffee and she said she would love too.

The coffee thing was supposed to happen last weekend but I got caught up in family **** and she had to work the next day, we stayed in touch via a couple of phone calls, texts and My Space messages.

I was at a party just this weekend and she came up to me, gave me a huge hug and said she was in a rush as she only came into say Happy Birthday to the girl at the party but she (is an events mananger) had other **** going on that night, anyway we exchanged some small talk and she said I'm sorry I do have to go and would love to stay but we will still do a proper catch up and at that she kissed me dead on the lips and smiled in front of friends of mine.

Then she texted me yesterday and made plans to meet up this weekend...
Basically I don't want to screw this up and I have always had a thing for her, she was just always in relationships when I was around and now she is single and so am I...

A little advice would be great, also lately I have noticed that girls seem to warm to me a lot more than they used too and I get good vibes.

Thanks

 

[spread_love]

I have a couple of questions for you. First of all, you've known this girl for six years and you're still clueless as to how this girl feels about you? She may or may not like you in that way, but you'll never know unless you tell her how you feel. And that my friend, should have been done within the first week that you met her..six years ago. Six years is a long time. And you can't expect things to be dramatically different now that she's known you for this long. She's already got this "image" of you now. I suppose it's unfair for me to say that you're in the "friends" box. But...six years without anything more than a kiss doesn't seem like a successful endeavor.

My advice would be to just go on this little event with her. And let her know you feel about her without making it awkward. Do it gradually, but do it.

Watch her reactions very carefully. You'll know dude. You'll know if she really likes you as a "friend" or "something more".

A word of caution: She sounds like a "Sunshine" girl.

Sorry, I should have explained more...I first met her 6 years ago and have seen her at parties and gigs over the years, I could never tell her her how I felt because she always had a boyfriend (her last relationship lasted 3 years) and she has been away for over 2 years.

See, what I am saying here?, we have never had coffee before or gone out or stayed in touch all of the time, she just is someone I have known, thanks for your comment Pete...I am definitely going out for coffee with her because she seemed to be disappointed when I canceled.

The reason I asked for this advice is because I am rusty but I do know that I deserve having a good Woman in my life and it may or not be her but like they say here...I will sarge on.

 

[Docs]

Bud, she's extending herself onto you. She wants to hang out with you, and she kissed you on the lips. If you can't read that, that means she's throwing you IOIs.

So, that means the next time you see her, you SHOW her how you feel, if she's trying to throw more IOIs, throw your own and make a finale-worthy kiss.

 

[MacAvoy]

How old are you? Your acting like your in high school? At your age, be a man, make a move. You shouldn't be holding on to a girl you met 6 years ago. You need to go out and practice with other women.

If you really like this girl, you'd put her on the backburner for another year, go out and learn how to be a DJ by getting women attracted to you, falling head over heals for you, then coming back to this women.

Now realistic we both know thats not going to happen. So just make the most of it. Don't put her on a pedastool, remember you are the prize. Stick to the basics, kino, C&F.

Finally and most importantly if you act like she's special and you don't want to lose her - guess what - you will act in a way that will turn her off and you'll be in the friends zone. So treat her like she's just one of your many plates (even if she is the only plate).

Make her think your busy, that she has to vie for your time and attention.

 

[spread_love]

Thanks for the great advice good people, I am 26 years and have been out of the dating game for a little bit.

 

[Jay Jay]

Ok.

1. The lead up. Don't masterbate for a few days before the date but fantasise about all the things you want to do with her. Imagine her loving every second of it. Look after yourself; get a lot of sleep, eat well, drink a lot of water. This way you will be priming yourself.

2. Get in a sexual state before you leave the house. Just have it in your head that she wants you bad. Feel the nerves, embrace them with the understanding those nerves are making you more alert, energised and sexy, they are making you operate at your full potential.

3. At the date have FUN! Don't get too serious dude, keep light hearted, use a lot of banter, if the opportunity arise do something spontaneous.

4. Make a move! She wants you bad! She kissed you on the lips!

5. Scream my name at the appropriate time. (The chicks love it...)

 

[spread_love]

I heard this dumb ***** hooked up with her ex in the weekend in a club!!! (ewwwww) and she still wants to meet me for coffee this weekend?...pffffttt...I don't think so...she has also been really rude and deleted comments from me on her My Space (nothing offensive at all, just jokes and **** I get the feeling that she thinks she is something special) so I deleted the beeeeeyoooottccchhh...her loss NOT mine.

I am glad I know now because then I won't be wasting my time, thanks for all of the advice though, I will use it on a worthy girl when the time is right.

Peace

 

[Ace of Flames]

Ouch, that sucks. Ah well, better now than later. Call it a little test to keep you on your toes as you get back into the game. ^_^

 

[spread_love]

Ouch, that sucks. Ah well, better now than later. Call it a little test to keep you on your toes as you get back into the game. ^_^

Thanks man, it's still a head **** though and I shouldn't be annoyed about it but I am, why has she been deleting my comments?...why couldn't she be an Adult and say some **** like...stop with the funny stuff funny guy...you know make a joke about it?...was this a **** test from her?

I just find her rude and not who I thought she was...oh well...life goes on

 

[spread_love]

Wow...She left me a long message on my phone today about how sorry she was and explained everything, said it was great to see me the other weekend and that we still haven't really caught up yet and that she would still like too.


Continue or...?

 

[Last Man Standing]

Wow...Continue or...?

Do you really need to ask us? Just don't fall in love with her because of one kiss/date!

 

[spread_love]

Do you really need to ask us? Just don't fall in love with her because of one kiss/date!

Ha ha I won't... I think she is trying to **** test me...she sent this to me on My Space

oh and one other thing... (her ex) said something to me about having a lot of comments from you... i shouldn't listen to him but maybe it was subconscious

In ******** this means?...

There weren't that many either, it sounds to me like he is jealous or hasn't got over the fact they broke up 2 years ago because he is a smelly, grumpy and arrogant night owl.

 

[Last Man Standing]

When u talk to her tell her that you owe her a kiss since she kissed you without permission - make the kiss last for 3 minutes 47seconds --- I can't find a kissy icon!!

 

[spread_love]

Wow, I just noticed that my mindset and thinking is far different now to what it was then, I enjoy getting older.