"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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a lil' help please

dumptydump

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I started seeing this girl, and told her that I've had sex with one person, when in actuality it was just foreplay. I thought she was experienced and didn't want to look like a total noob. Well, I've started to take a liking to this one girl and I want to tell her the truth. How do I go about this?
Any help would be appreciated. Thanks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by dumptydump
I started seeing this girl, and told her that I've had sex with one person, when in actuality it was just foreplay. I thought she was experienced and didn't want to look like a total noob. Well, I've started to take a liking to this one girl and I want to tell her the truth. How do I go about this?
Any help would be appreciated. Thanks.
I wouldn't tell her for awhile. If you tell her now, not only will you be admitting that you lied to impress her and that you haven't had much sexual experience, but you will make her think that you see her as a bit of a slut. Wait until you get her in bed at least once, and then confess - women tend to be a lot more forgiving of guys they have already had sex with. Remember, honesty is the best policy - if you never want to score with a girl again ... ;)
 

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A lil more info: it turns out that I'm more experienced than her. Plus, she asked me at a time when I couldn't completely trust her. That was also a big part in why I lied. Should I just tell her that?
 

Firefly

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Originally posted by dumptydump
A lil more info: it turns out that I'm more experienced than her. Plus, she asked me at a time when I couldn't completely trust her. That was also a big part in why I lied. Should I just tell her that?
So are you saying that she is a virgin then?

My response still stands. What possible advantage could you gain from being honest with her? Why admit that you saw her as an untrustworthy ho (Believe me, that is the way she will interpret it). Just maintain your game and stop worrying so much what she thinks - If she sees you sweating over her this much, she will run off and bang the next cool, calm DJ that comes her way. Do you really want that?
 
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