"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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A King and His Bean - A Journal about my monogamous relationship.

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Good evening ladies and gentlemen,

Welcome to my next daily (bi-daily) thread. This thread is going to be largely unstructured.

This one is going to be quite different then my other threads (100 days 100 sets, etc), as this one is going to be my attempt at solidifying and incorporating the fundamentals of monogamous game within myself.

A little back ground: I have now been dating my girlfriend for a little less than 2 years. I broke ups with her in the summer because I wanted to go get some pvssy and work on my mass approach game > which was a success (fvcked 10 or 11 hot girls, and approached hundreds within 2 months.)

I got back with her, but told her the only way that we could get back together would be an open relationship, which she reluctantly agreed too. I continued to sleep with other girls, and then I got bored of it - and my girl was being really awesome and I felt little to no urge to go pick up girls - she was satisfying me sexually and emotionally (supporting me in my goals). I then decided (after three months of her asking me to go monogamous) that I would go monogamous, take a break from mass gaming, and focus on my other goals > writing short stories and novels, applying for PhD clinical psychology programs (study GRE, and psychology subject exam), and kickboxing. So on my own terms I wanted to go monogamous - which is fantastic because my girlfriend is beautiful, sexy, smart, and feminine.

But that does not mean that game stops. No, I must game her now. I want to make this a fvcking amazing experience for me and her, and be the best boyfriend I can be, for her, and myself.

Now if you knew me personally, I do not half a$$ things. I always go one step further then perfection. So, I want to use this journal in order to document my development of monogamous game. Learning how to keep myself and her satisfied emotionally, sexually, mentally, and spiritually.

So a little background my my philosophy of monogamy.

I like to think of relationship dynamics on an extremely primal level, nothing that become esoteric or too abstract.

I especially like the idea of viewing relationships under the guise of the hunter gatherer perspective; meaning that for thousands and thousands of year the hunter gatherer mind existed - and to think that this mind has dissolved at the onset of the industrial revolution is a little silly > of course there have been some big changes, but our primal brain is still in tact and the dynamics underlying realtionships are largely primal.

So what does this mean?

1. I have to be hunting. This is my purpose. this is my goal.
> hunting in this sense is analogous to whatever my purpose is.
> meaning in the relationship I will not make her my purpose
> How I hunt > studying to become a clinical psychologist, kickboxing, publishing creative writing etc etc
> How I fail to hunt > focus on her while she picks berries and gossips with the other women.

2. I have to encourage her to be the best goddamn berry picker in the tribe.
> This is part of my value. As a man that is at the top of his game, he expects his woman to be at the top of her game
> but a high value man is benevolent, not tyrannical, so encouragement is key.
> instead of focusing on her little gossip problems, and instead of being there to listen to her complain (that is the job of her friends in the tribe) I have to be the person that encourages her to be the fvcking best she can be > contingent on the fact that as a high value man I want to best I can get.

3. She has to encourage me to rise above the tribe and become the best hunter.
> Her job as my woman is to support me in whatever endeavour I take,
> and submit to me as the leader of the relationship.


4. Do not get caught up in bickering fights with her, EVVVVVER. This is counterintuitive to THE HUNT.
> I have to hunt, this is to feed the tribe > I cannot be caught up in the stress of fighting her and arguing her, and getting mad at what she does
> Ultimately my role in the tribe (the world) transcends my role as her boyfriend.
> this last point is fvcking crucial.

Anyways, this is just a working list.

More on this soon.

Enjoy my unstructured ramblings on monogamy game.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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