"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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a horrible embarassing experience around girl once known

mrblack

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DJs at this site will tell AFCs to forget about all the girls they knew in their past and work towards establishing new ones.

However what if you are to run into a girl you once knew from high school in an awkard situation? Obviously it is hard to try to be your "new" self, because the old image of yourself in their heads is still embedded within them, and you (or atleast I) will unconsciously avoid that.

I just had finished an intense kickboxing workout, and was drenched with sweat pouring out of my pores. Looked worse than shaq.

As i'm walking to the bathroom to was my face Boom i run into this girl I went to high school with. Now I am feeling totally self conscious all of a sudden . It like attacked out of no where. I keeppicturing myself sweating like an idiot the whole time and go on with the typical small talk you would after meeting an old time aquaintence.

I totally have the "fight or flight" feeling running through my body, and I am feeling like "fvkc WHY do i have to run into her at this moment?"

I am obviously talking awkard and somewhat fast as anyone in panic/social anxiety mode would, then quickly exuse myself. And I see a smile upon her face like she is laughing at my nervousness.

I was having a tremendously great day before this situation happened. And I am worried she might tell friends in her circle which could spread to friends I know and just give people a real bad impression of me. And when i know people who have gotten a bad impression of me I tend to avoid them.

When stuff like this happens my confidence level seems to go back down, when it was before doing sufficiently well. Don't get me wrong. I am not social inept or anything, but I am not the greatest either. I socialize well depending on my mood which rises and falls like the stock market and this situation has made me feel downright dreadful.

Now I just realized I was going to delete how much I wrote, but I am going to leave it to note that guys like me have a problem with overanalzying these situations...For instance, we overanalzye and forget to come up with a way how we can benefit from such a horrible event.

How would I act to such a person if I see them again, after knowing that they witnessed me in an awkward moment?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Alphathree

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It's okay. I have that problem too. It shows just how little control we have over ourselves.

Outloud, if you please: "I'm going to get through this, just like I always do. In fact, bad times are great, because they always come right before good times."
 

DjDreamer

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Originally posted by mrblack
Now I just realized I was going to delete how much I wrote, but I am going to leave it to note that guys like me have a problem with overanalzying these situations...For instance, we overanalzye and forget to come up with a way how we can benefit from such a horrible event.
You got that right... men work out and sweat... if she has a problem with that then she has a problem with you making progress... she's no good...

However what if you are to run into a girl you once knew from high school in an awkard situation? Obviously it is hard to try to be your "new" self, because the old image of yourself in their heads is still embedded within them, and you (or atleast I) will unconsciously avoid that.
Actually... you got that backwards... what you should be more concerned with is meeting up with an old classmate and your new self being worse than your former self...
 

C00L

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you shouldnt feel self consious for being sweaty, unless your sitting in class fully clothes sweatin like a pig.

when im in workout gear, pumped up from heavy lifting, i feel completely comfortable talking to anyone... prolly cuz i feel swole like a gorilla.
 
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