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A guy's social life is important to women?

FatHairyM4F

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This is a quote from a thread having to do with picking up women in a mall:

In a mall, you act like you're supposed to be there. You convey the image that you're on a mission, and you just hapoened to meet a woman you're interested in. You don't walk around the mall aimlessly complimenting women...it looks bad, bro. The Hired Guns will sniff you out in no time...Rememeber that nothing turns a woman off faster than a man who appears to have no social life.

I know I know, women think differently than men, all illogical and sh*t. This is just one thing that annoys me for some reason. I've always been a loner. Always went to movies alone, went and hung out at the mall alone, went everywhere alone. Maybe cause I'm an only child and I'm used to being alone. Back when I was a teenager, I would walk around the mall trying to find a girlfriend. No, not just get a date, I wanted a girlfriend. I wanted a girl to love me, make me feel special, make me feel attractive, etc.

And no it never worked and I guess I figured in the back of my mind "maybe it looks bad that I'm here by myself. Maybe it makes me look like I have no friends." And of course I didn't. I kept to myself. Didn't really have any interest in other people, except that I wanted a girlfriend. My ideal would have been to have a girlfriend, and it would be just me and her, in our own little world, snuggling, holding hands, telling each other I love you, etc. Other than her, I wouldn't care if I never saw another human being again. And I still haven't changed much.

Like I said I realize women think illogical and sh*t, but I guess I'm just wondering why it would matter if I have any friends when I don't care if a woman has any friends. To me it would be better if she doesn't, because there'd be no one to compete for her attention. I would always want to be the center of her attention, and her having no friends would be perfect. And women don't seem to think anything like this. Why they have to be so g0ddamn illogical I'll never understand. :mad:
 

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AngelusPUA said:
See a woman wants to be with someone successful, having no friends doesn't exactly shout out success and I don't see how that is illogical.
Well I don't know. It's just that I don't think like that. Like I said, I'd like to have a girlfriend and I'm her whole life and she's my whole life. If I had no sex drive I'd never care about human contact at all. Just give me a PS2 and a computer and I'm happy. For some reason women don't seem to be attracted to loners.
 

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man, i dont think you should want to be a loner, humans are naturally very social and it looks like you have fell into the trap of technology and have become anti social. If you cannot communicate with guys which is probably why dont have many friends how can you expect to communicate with a girl?
 

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There are different types of loners

1)Nerd,geek whatever you call it - Stays indoors to play video games.
2)Agent,hitman type - Tries to be dicreet,does not speak much,seems preoccupied with current "mission" all the time,un approachable,what women call "strong and silent type"
3)Artist - Zoned out,sceptical, writes or draws all the time.Seems comfortable with environment.Responds with few and strong words.
4)Enlightened - Someone going through a important phase of his life,either good or bad.Distant,sceptical,will ignore everything.
 

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AngelusPUA said:
See a woman wants to be with someone successful, having no friends doesn't exactly shout out success and I don't see how that is illogical.


I know plenty of guys who get women, and they are no where near successful.
 

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FatHairyM4F said:
Well I don't know. It's just that I don't think like that. Like I said, I'd like to have a girlfriend and I'm her whole life and she's my whole life. If I had no sex drive I'd never care about human contact at all. Just give me a PS2 and a computer and I'm happy. For some reason women don't seem to be attracted to loners.
i am in highschool and honestly very few guys like me because i honestly like to talk alot of ****, i have about 3 guy friends who actualy are my friends...im kind of a loner but guess what??? i have no problem with women, i hate to brag i realy do but even at school i have girls in my class aprouch me even though they know i dont have a HUMONOGOUS social circle...im yet to find out why but i realy couldnt give a ****
 

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FatHairyM4F - Basically you're VERY clingy and you want someone else to validate your existence. Getting into a relationship with you would be VERY dangerous because if she wanted to get out she couldn't as you would probably go "postal".

Having plenty of friends shows that you're a normal well adjusted human being. MOST people don't want to live in a bubble and if they do then they don't want to live in someone else's bubble.

Get a life!
 

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d9930380 said:
FatHairyM4F - Basically you're VERY clingy and you want someone else to validate your existence. Getting into a relationship with you would be VERY dangerous because if she wanted to get out she couldn't as you would probably go "postal".

Having plenty of friends shows that you're a normal well adjusted human being. MOST people don't want to live in a bubble and if they do then they don't want to live in someone else's bubble.

Get a life!
dont be a ****ing ****

i know how you feel dude im kind of like taht too, i dont giev a **** what people think and i only want and need a few freinds

my advice:

dont worry get a FEW friends like one or two you know you can count on like no matter ****ing what, no firends isnt good :) get a few at least and just dude go from there, chances are you just never had the confednce to speek with women while you where alone, i go places alone sometimes i still manage to speak with women because its more of a confednce thing, close frieds=confidence
 

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BuryYourDead - This guy needs a wake up call not someone to tell him BS to make him feel better. Read his post!

"My ideal would have been to have a girlfriend, and it would be just me and her, in our own little world, snuggling, holding hands, telling each other I love you, etc. Other than her, I wouldn't care if I never saw another human being again. "

Does this seem normal!!!!!

What happens when it ends (most relationships do after all). How is this guy going to react with a mindset like this?

I knew 2 lesbians with a relationship like this. It wasn't healthy for either of them but it was co-dependant. Both hated men and had been hurt by everyone they met however one of them wanted out but couldn't. You could see the one who wanted out wasn't happy but couldn't hurt the other girl. She was trapped!!!!

An attitude like this will make a girl run for the hills.

By the way I'm not saying guys with only a few good friends are this bad at all but they WON'T be very successful with women - they will give off this vibe to a lesser extent. You might be the exception but we can't all be the exception.

I know what I said was harsh. It was ment to be because this guy needs a kick up the ass.
 

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BuryYourDead - BTW if you have no problems with women, why are you here? You don't sound like a player wanting to share your wisdom with the group.

Are you sure those girls in your class didn't just approach you to make you nervous and watch you run a mile. Girls will do that, they like ****ing with AFC guys. It doesn't mean they like you in that way.

The only post you made was about some girl you're "friends" with being beat by her dude and you wanting to kill him. A total AFC (nice-guy) move. The rest of your replies seem to be don't listen to this site, it's all rubbish. Girls like nice-guys etc blah blah blah

You sound like your trying to convince us that being a nice guy with nice-guy tendancies is the right way to be and this site is BS. It might and it might not but it WILL prevent you from getting layed and a gf who will respect you.

Again I'm being harsh but I want you to realise that sometimes you need to hear the harsh truth. You know this too if your being honest with yourself otherwise you wouldn't be here.

I used to be just like this. If you're still in school with plenty of time to change, believe me you SHOULD thank me for this post.
 
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